Foreverlimbo Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Basically I'm really out of the dating game and I don't believe I am his type at all and yet his actions are making me think he's hitting on me. I shall list his actions as of yet below and please tell, would you overall say he's interested or just friendly? 1) stares at me for extended periods of time during work sessions and then when I decide to make eye contact because I start feeling uncomfortable, he holds that eye contact, smiles and then winks and turns away. He winks at me quite often but i didn't think people still do this. 2) he has told me now 4x he is single , not straight up but has somehow managed to weave that into conversation 3) he has pushed me to comment on the attractiveness of various actors 4) he keeps touching me on the arm, lower back as he walks behind me etc etc (I hate this) 5) he tells me all the traits he likes and dislikes in people And he laughs at all things I say that no one else finds funny. He may sound a bit creepy but I don't think he is. I'm just confused is flirting and interested or just a super friendly guy?? I don't want to move forward and really this guy has absolutely no romantic interest at all. Thanks in advance
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Tell him not to touch you arm or back he needs to back off. I guess you don't like the touchy feeling type of men. The rest is normal in a sense but if you feel the right with him then tell him so and move on.. Sorry this is not going to work for me but I mus excuse myself and leave.. Bye I can see myself out thank very much! Leave it at that.. 2
itsanything Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 sounds like flirting...just tell him you aren't interested. say nothing and he'll continue to do what he is doing. 2
Miss Spider Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 It wasn't clear from your post. Are you interested or not? If the touching makes you uncomfortable, def tell him He's seems flirty, but that doesn't mean he's intends to take it any further than that. Some are flirty flirts. Some can do all this stuff and actually be married!!! Sometimes when you crush on someone you read too much into Flirt back and if he steps up and asks you out then he's interested. Good luck!!! 1
d0nnivain Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Don't make any announcements, it's work, not a bar. No need to make things awkward. Since you don't want to move forward, work the fact that you don't date co-workers into a conversation the way he subtly lets you know he's single. He'll get the message but you two will be able to work together. 2
smackie9 Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 He is more than flirting, he is feeling you out and how you respond to his action. If these things are uncomfortable to you, then make sure you restrict your interaction with him. I agree with d0nnivian, somehow integrate a comment in a conversation that you don't date co-workers or you have had a few real great dates with a new guy and hope it works out. That should be a more polite way to give a hint for him to shove off. 2
Author Foreverlimbo Posted September 23, 2017 Author Posted September 23, 2017 Thank you guys for all of your opinions! Sorry if I didn't make it clear in my first post, I'm not interested in him because like some of you have said he is a co-worker. I was just trying to put it out there that he isn't a creepish guy that does this often with all of the women at work. Essentially he is/was a really sweet guy who has now made me feel some what uncomfortable, I think the suggestion of weaving in the "I don't date co-workers" is a fab idea! Thanks 3
bpb2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Anything that he wouldn't do with a male friend makes it flirty (unless he's an actual creep). Even if the guy was being flirty I still think he is an actual creep that you're mistaking for being a normal guy (based on your side of the story). If you want to brush him off politely I'd just make up a guy you went on a date with or slept with — it's like guy repellant.
Author Foreverlimbo Posted September 23, 2017 Author Posted September 23, 2017 Anything that he wouldn't do with a male friend makes it flirty (unless he's an actual creep). Even if the guy was being flirty I still think he is an actual creep that you're mistaking for being a normal guy (based on your side of the story). If you want to brush him off politely I'd just make up a guy you went on a date with or slept with — it's like guy repellant. Do you think?! Perhaps I'm just super naive!
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