Rebound Relationship

[Cc22]

So I met this guy in April at the tail end of a 5 year relationship I was ending. I met him on a family holiday and there were red flags at the time that I just ignored because I was desperate. How when he was drinking and not he was two different people, how he flirted with other girls in front of me to get me jealous and would go back & forth on admitting it. He is so weird because he would get soo offended if you assumed negatively of his character yet it was clear what he was doing. He plays the ultimate mind ****ery games & I just happened to get my self involved in this. So end of July I visit him for the second time because he lives long distance. After pursuing me every day, being jealous over me, acting like we are in a relationship in every way he tells me in person I'm free to do what I want. This was so confusing after how he was treating me jealous over me. So my mind spun & when I called him to clarify he said he wanted to be sensitive to my needs but this is why he doesn't want a relationship. So instead of telling me he just pulls away until he stops messaging me but keeps me on snapchat and continues to post every day for a month so his post play in my head I'm wondering if he's passively aggressively talking about me, trying to get my attention. Anyways so I get drunk after a month and make a classic mistake of reaching out for closure & calling him out on things he went so back & forth on. He blamed distance & said he doesn't want a relationship bc of where he's at emotionally and the distance. Fair enough right but it's just I feel so played and stupid. So after rebringing him into my life he initiated a few times as did i a little until it stopped again so it's been a week and a half and I just need to get over this and stop thinking about him. I finally deleted him off snap because I just don't want false hope. I just go back and forth on if he's a good guy but I just don't know. He kinda ghosted me but then when I confronted him he answered what I wanted to know.its just the feeling of rejection. He's a seasoned dater and he knows what to say/not say. It's pretty clear he's playing the field and he's entitled to I just need to move on once and for all get him out of my brain now that I'm not seeing his post and not checking his Instagram. He's just said so many back and forth things that my mind keeps bringing up is the reason he's in my head at all. Seeing snaps of him out with his buddies and some girls but then the next day texting me when he's hungover. He likes the attention and validation from me so if he does text me in the future idk if I should even respond. I'm sure he's confused why I deleted him on snap but I'm trying to do what's best for me. He just build all this emotional intimacy with me than says well I told you I was just looking for fun. Like acting like a relationship, getting close than peacing sounds like fun to me. He cut it off because he started noticing I want more and he said he can't give me that which is already was I thought since we both weren't seeing other people he said that would be a dick move at the beginning. It's just confusing!

Edited September 23, 2017 by Cc22

[smackie9]

Confusing? No not really. He was working you over from the players hand book. You are young....eventually you will figure it out.