guild11 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Hey guys, about 2 weeks ago I had an online chat with one of my female friends, I'm 27 and she is 25. I asked her out but she said "I already have plans this evening, some other day gladly:)". We didn't talk again until last night, I messaged her and had to ask a dumb question out of curiousity, I asked her did she blew me off politly last time when I asked her out? She said "lol no, I really had my plans that day". How do I know her ? When I was 16 we hanged with mutual friends, she had a crush on me but I was too stupid to realize it until one of my friends told me so. I didn't care much and basically was "forced" to be her boyfriend due to peer pressure from her girl friends. I dumped her after a month because I wasn't ready for a relationship. She seems to forget that completly and we didn't brought it up again. So the last night's chatting continued, we talked about random stuff until I asked her if she wants to date, This followed with her asking me "how much time passed since my last break up?" I said more than 3 month, she asked another question "did you get over it...? I really don't want to be someones rebound". I said I'm over it and I don't look for rebounds... she said "ok" but I didn't asked her when she wants to meet. Today I initiated the conversation again and later I asked for her phone and she gave me. There are few things I don't understand, first of all does she seems to be intrested ? When we talk its more of "ping pong" I ask something she replies but without much of intrest from her side towards me. Should I keep initiating the talks ? How I'm suppose to know if she is intrested or just rejecting politly ? Or maybe I'm harrasing her
Gaeta Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Stop talking and ask her out on a date. That's how you'll know. When you invited her out and she said she was busy but would gladly go out with you another night THEN you should have offered another day. Now that's done and in the past. You need to ask her out again. If she avoids you then drop it. 1
act00 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 She seems interested to me. Maybe she doesn't initiate conversation much, but maybe she needs a relationship first (dating). Take what she said at face value and ask her out again. If she has plans suggest an alternate (if she doesn't) and if that is also already booked, then you can keep the door open by suggesting she let you know when she's free and you can go get dinner and/or movie, or suggest an activity you would like to do on your date. After that, drop the rope. At this point I would think you've extended yourself enough and she's gently letting you down. If she is interested, she can follow through on a day she's free. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I agree that she seems interested (and I love her question about you being over your last relationship...smart girl). You need to just ask her out on a date. 1
Miss Spider Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Just with the context provided, I don't think she sounds interested sorry. First, she blows off your date request with no enthusiasm to reschedule. Almost like she's happy about it. When you implore further, she reaches for excuses not to date you, like you must be rebounding etc. Ask her out on another date, though. Doesn't hurt to know. Also, please update with results if you can! 1
itsanything Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 In the same boat. Girl cancelled twice. Left things in her court to contact me if she wants to do something, never heard back. It's cool though cause after the second time I figured I should forget about her. 1
Author guild11 Posted September 24, 2017 Author Posted September 24, 2017 Just with the context provided, I don't think she sounds interested sorry. First, she blows off your date request with no enthusiasm to reschedule. Almost like she's happy about it. When you implore further, she reaches for excuses not to date you, like you must be rebounding etc. Ask her out on another date, though. Doesn't hurt to know. Also, please update with results if you can! Well its either she is a really shy person or she is testing me, The thing about her is that she is very intelligent, educated (finishing first degree) and extremely beautiful woman. We kept talking since then, I initiated again and she usually replies right away, she doesn't give away much when we talk so I'm really interested to know what kind of a personality she have, knowing the unknown you know? As we kept chatting I had to get a more understandable answers, so I said "you obviously know that I'm interested, are you interested or just spending time?" she answered and said "I'm talking to you am I ?" We kept talking until 2am and I had to make sure that I don't disturb her and I asked her "am I disturbing you ?" she said "no, if you ever will I will tell you". the only time I saw her "wanting to know" is when I said "can I ask you a personal question?" she said yes, I got busy at work at that time so I didn't asked right away and she started sending me question marks and asking what was it. (the actual question doesn't matter) Later on I asked her when I'm going to see her, she said probably after her return from short vacation abroad that she leaves to in 3 days. I decided that we talked enough for now, she probably plans the trip and her mind is set on that direction. So ill wait until she returns and continue from there. 1
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