katie92 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 So I met this guy through a dating app about 5 weeks ago now and, up until today, it’s been going amazingly well! We first met about a month ago, and have seen each other 5 times in total. We’ve had great dates, doing fun activities (bowling, crazy golf etc!), and dinner/drinks. We really click – we laugh, get on well, want similar things in life, have amazing chemistry and are both really attracted to each other. We slept together on the fourth date, after a long Saturday date (which was amazing) and his behavior afterwards was really sweet. He was cuddly and chatty, and not distant at all (like I’ve previously experienced!) We went for breakfast in the morning and it all went swimmingly. I heard from him quickly later that day, wanting to arrange a fifth date. Fifth date came around last night, and we decided to do something chilled; dinner at mine. He came round, we chatted, cuddled (ended up having sex quite soon…) then we had dinner, and sat on the sofa chatting and cuddling (always lots of chatting and cuddling haha!) We ended up having sex on the sofa (naughty) and then went to bed – we had always planned for him to stay over. Generally the date was great BUT I did sense a small shift throughout the evening… he didn’t seem to be trying quite as hard as he used to, fewer compliments, less chat about future dates. It was kind of like, he knew he didn’t need to chase anymore, so didn’t bother – fair enough I guess. Maybe I gave in to sex too easily yesterday… or it suddenly became too comfortable and domestic. I haven’t heard from him yet today (it’s like 4pm..) which is totally normal – however if I don’t hear from him this evening, that would not be normal at all. Reason I’m panicking prematurely is because, for some reason, I feel like I’m not going to hear from him. I’m probably overreacting completely, but I just feel he’s not quite as keen as he was! PLEASE someone reassure me. I’m driving myself crazy, very prematurely I realise, but my gut is usually right… Has the excitement gone for him? Will i hear from him again?
itsanything Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 sorry to say but his goal may have just been sex
stillafool Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 So because it is now close to 4pm you are panicking? Would it be okay if he took a day off from contacting you to do other things or would you freak out? I can promise you if you start acting needy he will get sick of it. There are only so many compliments a person can give to another so don't freak out because he is constantly complimenting you.
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Why don't you call him up and find out the answer?
Miss Spider Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 (edited) Why don't you call him up and find out the answer? Exactly!!! He probably did lose interest after sex but that might be in part because of having to do all the work while you sit back expecting him to chase you and shower with compliments 24/7 like movie The Notebook is IRL. It really puzzles me people who are afraid to ask questions to people they're SEXING. It doesn't change reality and you're only wasting your time being in denial. It's not a marriage proposal it's just a text saying "hey want to see each other Friday?" He either does or he doesn't. But like I've said I gots 0 chills. Edited September 23, 2017 by Cookiesandough
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Exactly!!! He probably did lose interest after sex but that might be in part because of having to do all the work while you sit back expecting him to chase you and shower with compliments 24/7 like movie The Notebook is IRL. It really puzzles me people who are afraid to ask questions to people they're SEXING. It doesn't change reality and you're only wasting your time being in denial. It's not a marriage proposal it's just a text saying "hey want to see each other Friday?" He either does or he doesn't. But like I've said I gots 0 chills. We both think a like here on this one a few others. Really just don't know what's the deal with this guy and her. She'll just wait for him to make the next move. Wait all day too. I say don't waste your time and life like this just doesn't make much sense to do. He's not the only guy out there you know! Look around you see many or few.. Call him and get it over with so we all can know his answer, but we kinda know it already. But you need to hear it for yourself I hope you pay close attention to him OP.. 1
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