rolfst Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Hi just another weird story. I thought I had the most wonderful relationship in the making. been working on it for the last 7 years. I met a woman online she was acting very intelligent and with a lot of empathy going. We fell in love. She was in an abusive marriage and I was in one as well. I helped her to stabilize herself and she did the same for me. The relationship was becoming more serious by the day (or so I thought). We promised to marry each other after we got our stuff together (yes it was long term planned). well she met another person while kept me on. I knew this person and when I found out. she dumped me in a conversation of 45minutes. the next day came the aftermath. I suffered from a panic attack. and the person who kept me going till I found my doctor was that guy she dumped me for. I believed he got rid of her when he found out he and I were both played by her. minutes before I arrived at the doctor I found out they didn't brake contact, instead I was exchanged for him. I decided no more contact with her. I mailed her once to tell I forgave her. I did and do for breaking up with me. But I can't forgive her for lying to me Basically she cheats on her abusive husband with me, and then she cheats on me with a friend of mine. Once in a while I get totally mad I want to tell her husband she is a double crossing cheater. I don't do that but, it takes a lot of effort. Will this anger fade? Cuz I found the strength fades but the times it popsup in my head increases. Is there any way to get rid of anyway of thinking of the unjust at all?
SevenCity Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Hi just another weird story. I thought I had the most wonderful relationship in the making. been working on it for the last 7 years. I met a woman online she was acting very intelligent and with a lot of empathy going. We fell in love. She was in an abusive marriage and I was in one as well. I helped her to stabilize herself and she did the same for me. The relationship was becoming more serious by the day (or so I thought). We promised to marry each other after we got our stuff together (yes it was long term planned). well she met another person while kept me on. I knew this person and when I found out. she dumped me in a conversation of 45minutes. the next day came the aftermath. I suffered from a panic attack. and the person who kept me going till I found my doctor was that guy she dumped me for. I believed he got rid of her when he found out he and I were both played by her. minutes before I arrived at the doctor I found out they didn't brake contact, instead I was exchanged for him. I decided no more contact with her. I mailed her once to tell I forgave her. I did and do for breaking up with me. But I can't forgive her for lying to me Basically she cheats on her abusive husband with me, and then she cheats on me with a friend of mine. Once in a while I get totally mad I want to tell her husband she is a double crossing cheater. I don't do that but, it takes a lot of effort. Will this anger fade? Cuz I found the strength fades but the times it popsup in my head increases. Is there any way to get rid of anyway of thinking of the unjust at all? Yes it will fade but only time will help. One day, in the future, you will be thankful you are no longer with her and not really be angry anymore. Anger is an emotion - as long as you have emotions towards someone you are not over them. Instead, what you are seeking is indifference. I recall being mad at exes and now I just don't care either way. They could be on fire in front of me and I really could care less. The important thing to learn is if a woman will cheat on someone to be with you, she will cheat on you as well. You are not special, you are not different, this is the way she is and there is no changing that. So, in the future, realize that women who cheat do not make good long term partners.
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