hgriffin17 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I have used tinder now for quite some time now and have met some great people. I even met my ex on the app and we had a great relationship for the most part. Anyways, I'm talking to this girl on tinder and I decide to ask her out on a date. She tells me, "Yeah I'll let you know when the weekend comes closer because I might be going to Boston" So then I say, "Awesome Just let me know so I can make a reservation " And she responds by saying "Okay no worries" The thing is...it's Thursday Night! The only day I'm actually free is on Friday night because I'm actually going on another date Saturday. So should I just wait it out? Contact her again? I feel like I should leave it be. I just find it insensitive for people to just ghost like that though. Am i just overreacting?
Tormund21 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Patience! Don't act desperate or insecure. She said she would let you know, let her do just that.
SevenCity Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Personally I wouldn't wait for her to make up her mind. Instead I'd tell her if she's not sure why don't we plan it for another time. If she wants to go out with you she'll offer you another day. If you have to convince her you won't have much fun compared to the amount of work you put in. I may be lazy but I have zero tolerance for maybe dates as it's usually they are not interested and I focus on women who are. A lot more fun that way. 1
Zippy2000 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Out of all my experience with online dating and in real life in the last 10 years. The girls who are interested in you would give you an answer straight away or give you a time when when they get back to you. The girls that said they`d get back to me were 90% playing me around and never got back to me. Id then ask again and then again loosing my self respect. You can guage someones interest by their answer. She sounds luke warm to here. 1
Miss Spider Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 (edited) This gets asked like every day. I know what she's doing. She's not that interested but keeping it open in case she feels like it if nothing better comes up. Meanwhile, she'll be looking for something else so you should be too! Edited September 22, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
itsanything Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 this girl I'm interested said she'd let me know a week ago and hasn't said anything since. This is after 1 cancellation and 1 maybe where she didn't follow up. So I decided to forget about her. In your case give it a couple more days. If not you have a date lined up and maybe that goes well where you won't even need to schedule something with this girl.
kortz Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 In my experience it means she's not that keen and it's just an easy way to go about it. 90% of the time when a girl has said something like that or something similar it means it won't happen. I've had a couple where it was genuine and they got back to me but they were the exception. Just leave it and find someone else. If she gets back to you great, if not there are plenty of others out there but don't chase. It is frustrating so I understand what you're saying. I've had some great initial chat with girls and then when it comes down to it, poof, they're gone or get extremely flaky.
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 If on Thursday she doesn't know whether she's going away for the weekend, she's either lying or a disorganized mess. Either way, take a pass. 2
coolheadal Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 (edited) I have used tinder now for quite some time now and have met some great people. I even met my ex on the app and we had a great relationship for the most part. Anyways, I'm talking to this girl on tinder and I decide to ask her out on a date. She tells me, "Yeah I'll let you know when the weekend comes closer because I might be going to Boston" So then I say, "Awesome �� Just let me know so I can make a reservation " And she responds by saying "Okay no worries" The thing is...it's Thursday Night! The only day I'm actually free is on Friday night because I'm actually going on another date Saturday. So should I just wait it out? Contact her again? I feel like I should leave it be. I just find it insensitive for people to just ghost like that though. Am i just overreacting? Man you go on your other date and forget this one because she't not going out with you this weekend or any other day because she told you what she was trying to use as excuse. "Yeah I'll let you know when the weekend comes closer because I might be going to Boston" What she was trying to say by hiding the true words Yeah I'll let you know if I really wanted to go with you on a date because I might have another date lined up" The Boston part might be where she's going on a date with someone too or the date she's going on is in Boston. Listen if she really wanted to go out with you she would have told you what time to pick her up or meet her at such and such place. This case she didn't do anything only gave I might be going to Boston, so she not interested in you that's all she saying. But as another date set up for the weekend. But not sure when? Edited September 22, 2017 by coolheadal
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