jujuju Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 So this girl who's been hanging out with me randomly told me she's hooking up with her ex. She kept saying he's not her boyfriend and it's just casual. The same night she was doing everything to try to sleep with me. Basically at one point asking "Are we doing this?" Well I have strong feelings for her, so that news that she was hooking up with her ex turned me off of doing anything with her that night. We made out but that's it. So a couple days later, I text her I'm not down to get involved with her if she's still hooking up with an ex. Right away she asked if we could be friends at least? Of course, I say no. Why would she want to be friends after wanting to hook up so badly? Is that a way of keeping me on the sideline if something goes wrong? Apparently she also wanted to have a threesome with me and this dude (it was the dude's idea), but I said no. Just a really weird situation.
coolheadal Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 (edited) Well very good job on your part as man. She's into her ex for casual, rock hard banger sex. With her you'll never be one on one. She'll always have her ex on the beck and call as we say. Women like her you'll never have a relationship with. Yes they always want you as their friend just in case whoever is the main squeeze in this case the ex bf is her bang buddy your side banger but you were very smart to decline her offer bravo! P.S. Threesome is what she really wants but you did a good job canceling that as well as being her friend only or friend-zone type of friend. You don't want that to be the main focus, you wanted to date and have relationship and not date and be friends or hangout and being friends only. Nah with her you won't be happy. Making making out with her kissing I would avoid she might have herps A you don't want to catch that STD. She seems to be very sexual active in threesomes if she having sex without protection then herps B (down under) could be present danger as well in STDs. Avoid her like the plague she might be carrying just don't know today with her type. Edited September 22, 2017 by coolheadal 1
preraph Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I mean, women nearly always are able to be "just friends" unless they're crazy in love with you. Even then they'll take friends over nothing. But this proves she's still really into her ex. If she wasn't, she'd be seeing how it went with you to see if she wanted to trade him in for a new model. She's not doing that. She's being honest, gasp. And you made the right call and were honest back.
Author jujuju Posted September 22, 2017 Author Posted September 22, 2017 But this proves she's still really into her ex. If she wasn't, she'd be seeing how it went with you to see if she wanted to trade him in for a new model. She's not doing that. That's what I thought. But then she'd say stuff like "I have no one to care about", or hinting that she wanted me to compete for her. But that could be her just playing games again. I don't know. I have super strong feelings for her but I'm not competing against some other dude for her just to feed her ego. **** that.
Kareeza Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 You did the right thing. Stay away my friend. You sound like someone who wants to have a real connection with a woman.? People like that will only mess you up and before you know it, what she is doing will be the norm for you too. 1
Miss Spider Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I think she is still emotionally attached to her ex. They can't be together for some reason(maybe he doesn't want to be in rship anymore) so she is like a FwB with him. Meanwhile, she is doing hookups and talking to other guys to distract from it. The reason I feel this is the case was because when my ex got in a rship I thought about hookups to get over it. I never went through with it because I think too much. The point is, I think she is emotionally unavailable to you but using you as a distraction. Get out!!!
itsanything Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 she still likes her ex. I would look for someone else
stillafool Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 This woman is just horny as hell and wants to make sure she has plenty of sex partners lined up when she needs them. She doesn't care about any of you guys. OP, next her before you end up with a disease. 1
smackie9 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 You were propositioned and you refused. She wants to stay friends instead, probably thinking maybe one day you will change your mind. She's not your style, there is nothing lost here. You are wasting your time even wondering about this. It's pretty straight forward you should just move on.
coolheadal Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I think she is still emotionally attached to her ex. They can't be together for some reason(maybe he doesn't want to be in rship anymore) so she is like a FwB with him. Meanwhile, she is doing hookups and talking to other guys to distract from it. The reason I feel this is the case was because when my ex got in a rship I thought about hookups to get over it. I never went through with it because I think too much. The point is, I think she is emotionally unavailable to you but using you as a distraction. Get out!!! I agree she likes the sex banging with the ex bf he'll be always around. She's never going to give him up. I am sure she enjoys the threesomes she likes to have.
Miss Spider Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 I agree she likes the sex banging with the ex bf he'll be always around. She's never going to give him up. I am sure she enjoys the threesomes she likes to have. Yep, people use sex to get validation and intimacy
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