FastHands Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 (edited) Pretty easy- your single and looking -don't wear a ring. I remember back in college I got really fond of an absent ringed girl. Weeks later guess what- she wore a big diamond ring and she was married all along. I guess no one wanted to talk to her because the ring was scaring them off, lol. Edited September 23, 2017 by FastHands 1
Popsicle Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Rings on ring finger do scare people off. That's the truth. It is my opinion that those who are married and don't want to scare people off, don't wear their ring, no matter what their mouth is moving to say their other excuse is. Anyone with a ring, I'd avoid talking to (and no they may not be married, but still)
Popsicle Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 If men these days can't even approach a woman he's got his eye on for fear of rejection, do you think he's going to say something when you have a ring on? Fat chance. The same is true for men, if you want women to talk to you, don't wear a ring. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 I wear a lot of rings but none on that finger. I have a wedding looking band that I wear when traveling alone to avoid unwanted attention.
act00 Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Other than an engagement ring, I never even heard of the idea that wearing another type of ring on that finger symbolized anything. Some people do not wear traditional wedding rings and may not have a set of two (engagement and wedding ring). My aunt's wedding ring does not look like a wedding ring at all. The symbolism is the left ring finger. The style of the ring can vary. It was once believed that the vein in that fourth finger of the left hand ran directly to the heart, and for that reason, this is where the wedding ring goes...the love and bond of marriage. So to wear a ring on that finger is symbolic (for most people) of a commitment, typically engagement or marriage. Obviously there are people who don't wear a wedding ring or feel like it should make no difference whatsoever what finger they choose, but I think for the standard norm, we can expect any type of ring on that finger to suggest an individual is not available for romance.
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 It's called an enchantment ring or enlightenment ring 1
Miss Spider Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 (edited) .. Al, a wedding of engagement ring I would probably learn to get used to it and wear it, particularly if my partner wore his. I guess I can appreciate the sentiment and symbol, but I'd definitely be taking it off when I slept at first. And if he didn't see the need to wear it, I wouldn't mind. My dad was never into jewelry and never wore a ring in over 35 and counting years of marriage Edited September 23, 2017 by Cookiesandough
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Al, a wedding of engagement ring I would probably learn to get used to it and wear it, particularly if my partner wore his. I guess I can appreciate the sentiment and symbol, but I'd definitely be taking it off when I slept at first. And if he didn't see the need to wear it, I wouldn't mind. My dad was never into jewelry and never wore a ring in over 35 and counting years of marriage You see I would wear the ring if someone like you was wearing it. I would wear it to bed also unless it bothers me at night. it's okay to take it off at night or in the shower or swimming in ocean or pool. GOD forbid you lost it in the water.. Yes my late parents wore at first then later years stop.. But they were always married. That's how I was raised to do the same or just take care of myself if I was on my own.. I really like concept of the I DO ring or a first ring a two ring set. Neither gold or silver new type of element on chart. Can withstand and stand up longer than other element types. Still nice there is now way to show the ring here. I think I know of a way.. I don't like doing links here. image server I use.. Any I Do rings look nice to me. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 My mum is allergic to metal and never wore a ring in 40 years of marriage.... A wedding ring/engagement looking ring on that finger means something. A random ring, meaningless. No ring, odds are in your favor but it's still uncertain. 1
knabe Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Other than an engagement ring, I never even heard of the idea that wearing another type of ring on that finger symbolized anything. This. I've never heard of it.
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 My mum is allergic to metal and never wore a ring in 40 years of marriage.... A wedding ring/engagement looking ring on that finger means something. A random ring, meaningless. No ring, odds are in your favor but it's still uncertain. You said you wore many rings so I finger your into some sort of fashion. I don't wear silver opal men ring again.. No more rings unless I was getting married. Which I am not.. You can wear whatever you want or not it's your choice There are types of rings available doesn't have to be made of metal.
smackie9 Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 When I was married I always wore the wedding ring to show I was married. I am not hiding that fact where most men won't wear theirs so to hide it. When you get married to you wear them as it was place on your ring finger. I feel the women your married to should do the same if they really love you to show others she married/engaged. It would drive me crazy when the wife at time didn't wear it like she didn't care or understand the value of the rings of what it met to say. Once she did she wore it. When you throw them off her finger it meant she was done/or upset. It was hell back then. Today a lot of women don't wear them even though their still married but like to fool around. Some don't wear them because guess what they lost their rings. I knew my late mother didn't wear it so much she was protecting it from wear and tear. My father never wore his he was always working with his hands. I felt you should wear as what it states your in love and married. Why keep that a secret unless you are not feeling that. But again it's your choice also if you wear or not.. I understand it has an important meaning for some, and I don't disagree, whatever floats your boat. I don't think it's fair to say me or anyone else is hiding anything, I just think no one needs to know my marital status. I'm not hanging out in bars dressed to the 9's looking single. BTW I'm common law for 27 years. The Canadian government says I'm married, so my husband can still take half my $^%&. lol 2
amaysngrace Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 When my sister had her second baby she needed an emergency surgery and blood transfusions and was told she needed to take off her wedding band. Her husband took his off too and held them together until the surgery was over and she was able to put it back on. They both put their rings back on together. 2
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 Notice the wedding ring ads miraculously appear in the banners? lol
coolheadal Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 I understand it has an important meaning for some, and I don't disagree, whatever floats your boat. I don't think it's fair to say me or anyone else is hiding anything, I just think no one needs to know my marital status. I'm not hanging out in bars dressed to the 9's looking single. BTW I'm common law for 27 years. The Canadian government says I'm married, so my husband can still take half my $^%&. lol Yes we have common law here also in some states, but not this one LOL. Of course every one habit is going to be a different one when it comes to rings. So you really aren't married on paper just common law of 27 years wow that's long one never heard more than 5 years tops. You really love this guy you been mention here quite a lot.. So he can half of your income/life/items, but your not going to end up that way and you know it. LOL
Author rightondude Posted September 25, 2017 Author Posted September 25, 2017 Obviously there are people who don't wear a wedding ring or feel like it should make no difference whatsoever what finger they choose, but I think for the standard norm, we can expect any type of ring on that finger to suggest an individual is not available for romance. yeah I'm really wondering what my ex was up to since she was definitely a traditionalist in that (and every other regard). I was hoping she was engaged! I was wanting to know where I could send the gift and flowers. And stop sending the checks.
mortensorchid Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 I have a new concept with wearing a ring. In the past I wore rings on all four fingers of both hands for the sake of fashion, something to make me "stand out", etc. I read this wonderful how to book a few years ago on how to work. That is, how to conduct yourself at work very well, how not to get involved in crazy office politics, etc. This was a book written by a man for women how to succeed in Corporate America. The target audience is for young women (in their early twenties) who are getting their first full time job working for a company. This can also apply to other kinds of jobs as well. And one of the best bits of advice I ever read was to wear a ring on your left ring finger. Even if you don't have a bf or anything close to it. Why? SO that the other women you work with in the office don't think that you are trying to steal a man from them, and it's a signal to the men working in the office that you are taken. I am a professional multi district substitute teacher. This shows the students that I am not one of them, it shows the staff that I am also not one of them but in a relationship with a man somewhere. Why such paranoia? Because it's what it is. No one thinks I am weird, I am just an average person when I may not be. I keep people at an arm's length, I'm unattainable. I also wear it on my middle finger. It keeps people guessing as to what I am really all about. Mysterious.
Steve51 Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 I know that some girls do that to keep men from hitting on them. Another reason could be that she wants those she does business with to see her as a colleague and not a potential mate. Some wear chastity rings on that finger too. When I was 18 I realized that I needed to look for a ring. I was mixing with girls who were married and I never had to look before when I was in high school. All the girls were single then. I knew one girl who wanted men to think they were picking up a married women. The ring gave her an excuse to not see them again unless she wanted to.
basil67 Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Yes we have common law here also in some states, but not this one LOL. Of course every one habit is going to be a different one when it comes to rings. So you really aren't married on paper just common law of 27 years wow that's long one never heard more than 5 years tops. 24 years defacto here - recognised under our laws. Our neighbours are even longer defacto. It's possible you don't hear about it because it's not really relevant to anything. Anyone who does find out is usually very surprised. I don't wear a wedding ring, but I do wear an eternity ring on my left hand. Hubby doesn't wear a ring because he finds them annoying.
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