rightondude Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 this is a dumb question but that never stops me. do women (in the USA) ever wear a ring on their left ring finger without it symbolizing they're in a relationship? My ex wife came over one day with a big, non diamond, weird looking ring on her left ring finger the other day. I didn't ask what it meant. The last few times I've seen her, she hasn't had it on. The other day I had lunch with someone from a company my company does business with. She had on what looked to be some kind of heirloom ring (some white material) on her left ring finger. It wasn't until the end of the lunch that I really noticed it. During the lunch I could swear we were connecting and I was going to see if she wanted to meet for drinks sometime, but then I saw that and backed off. Now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have.
amaysngrace Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I wear rings on different fingers all the time without giving it much thought other than if it will fit okay without being too loose that it may fall off. 1
Author rightondude Posted September 22, 2017 Author Posted September 22, 2017 Thanks ... so you never think, oh I'm putting this ring on the one finger that symbolizes I'm a relationship while you're putting it on? Or you just don't care?
carhill Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 In my lifetime it's been all over the place in my interactions with women. We were traditional and my exW wore her wedding ring inside her engagement ring on the third finger left hand, as I also wore my wedding band. However, I've interacted with verifiably married women who wore no ring, wore their ring on their right hand (in USA, not elsewhere), verifiably single women wearing rings on their ring finger left hand, etc, etc. TBH, I don't put any stock in rings anymore. If I find a lady attractive, now I'll ask her on a date and deal with husbands and boyfriends later if necessary. I'm not marrying her and making babies, just going to lunch. It's OK. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Thanks ... so you never think, oh I'm putting this ring on the one finger that symbolizes I'm a relationship while you're putting it on? Or you just don't care? I actually do think of that so I don't wear rings on that finger. However, I do agree with the others that women are all over the map with regard to this.
amaysngrace Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Thanks ... so you never think, oh I'm putting this ring on the one finger that symbolizes I'm a relationship while you're putting it on? Or you just don't care? I really don't care other than what I already said I care about which was not losing it because it's too loose on a particular finger. Maybe she was just trying to get you thinking about it in which case it actually is working.
coolheadal Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 this is a dumb question but that never stops me. do women (in the USA) ever wear a ring on their left ring finger without it symbolizing they're in a relationship? My ex wife came over one day with a big, non diamond, weird looking ring on her left ring finger the other day. I didn't ask what it meant. The last few times I've seen her, she hasn't had it on. The other day I had lunch with someone from a company my company does business with. She had on what looked to be some kind of heirloom ring (some white material) on her left ring finger. It wasn't until the end of the lunch that I really noticed it. During the lunch I could swear we were connecting and I was going to see if she wanted to meet for drinks sometime, but then I saw that and backed off. Now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have. Hey buddy, they can wear whatever they want on that finger to throw you off. Another thing is if they have a close partner but they really like they could have: A Friendship Ring - It's your way of saying I love you to her.. I DO Ring - this one I going to give my present GF one... They're so cool and it shows her how much I care for her!
Dis Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I used to wear a white opal ring on my ring finger for years and I've never been married... so yes, it does happen Once I started to seriously date and put myself out there, I took it off because I knew lots of men would think what you're thinking Its very possible the woman in question just likes rings and stones (like me) but isnt taken You mentioned the ring is made of "white material"? If its not a classic diamond ring or a band, I would deem it safe to ask her out Best of luck!
act00 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Once upon a time, I was really young and hot, and men would flirt and hit on me, and it was very uncomfortable when this happened at work, in close quarters, where a person cannot escape and has to dance around customer service and patient care, and maneuver around flirtation, so I took to wearing a ring on my "wedding finger" as a deterrent...not available. I might have been single. I might have been dating. I might have a longer-term boyfriend, but not in the realm of engagement, it really didn't matter...whatever it was, that ring on the wedding finger was a repellent to unwanted attention. As far as my knowledge is concerned, no one wears a ring on the wedding finger unless they are married, engaged, or otherwise taken...unless there is another reason to do so. Women sill get accused of "sleeping their way to the top," and this might be more of a symbolism sort of thing for work, no mixed signals, stable and not sleeping around, not looking to hook up with male colleagues, a signal for male colleagues to back off, or clientele, or a woman in a stable life, not partying, drama, dating, sex, it presents better image and career opportunity, not that any woman should have to do this, but it happens. Or it could be she's in a relationship. Or it could be she wants nothing to do with mixing up her professional life with coworker as a love interest...even if she wants to...no...and she wears the repellent (ring) on her wedding finger because it's just easier then turning men down and dealing with the backlash. Take the ring at face value and back off. It's dangerous to mix up with coworkers anyway. If she's single and interested, this will become apparent, and you can question her jewelry choices and their placement at a later time.
Author rightondude Posted September 22, 2017 Author Posted September 22, 2017 LOL so the answer is either, "never" or, "it depends" or, "I wear on whatever finger I damn well please" ... got it!
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Other than an engagement ring, I never even heard of the idea that wearing another type of ring on that finger symbolized anything. 1
SevenCity Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Ask her out. If she says no I'm married / have a bf / in a poly Rl / etc. who cares? It's one thing if she is obviously married but you don't know so go for what you want. Worst thing she says is no. 2
kendahke Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 this is a dumb question but that never stops me. do women (in the USA) ever wear a ring on their left ring finger without it symbolizing they're in a relationship? et for drinks sometime, but then I saw that and backed off. Now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have. Yes. I wear my birthstone ring on my left hand, mainly, because that hand is smaller than my right one and the ring fits better on that finger.
coolheadal Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Other than an engagement ring, I never even heard of the idea that wearing another type of ring on that finger symbolized anything. There is another word for the ring, I just can't remember the name. Suppose mean your taken by the guy your with for the women in tow. There is the I Do Ring same purpose. I Do will take your hand in marriage one day?
smackie9 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 There is another word for the ring, I just can't remember the name. Suppose mean your taken by the guy your with for the women in tow. There is the I Do Ring same purpose. I Do will take your hand in marriage one day? Promise ring..........
smackie9 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I don't wear any rings....I'll say I'm married if asked. They get mad and look at my hand and say "Where's the ring?" I then say, who said I had to wear one, my marital status is no ones business, and yes you can call me Ms. lol 2
No_Go Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 As an immigrant woman in the US, I was startled with all ring craze over here. So startled I stopped wearing rings at all . TBH the whole engagement ring concepts is deeply misogynistic - like the dude putting a downpayment of his future wife In any case, seems so prevalent here that I'd safely assume that a woman wearing a ring on her left ring finger is engaged or married. Or... the woman wants to *appear* married/engaged which by itself is s strong statement *stay away from me*. [it has its practical implications: I'm thinking to buy a nice diamond ring for myself first, because it looks nice, and second - so I can wear it in front of contractors and other people that speculate with the price of their services when they sense 'single woman' ... ] 1
Art_Critic Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 Many food servers wear one to fend off the guys hitting on them 400 times a day. 2
Miss Spider Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 I don't wear any rings....I'll say I'm married if asked. They get mad and look at my hand and say "Where's the ring?" I then say, who said I had to wear one, my marital status is no ones business, and yes you can call me Ms. lol Rings drive me cray!!! They're like little weights suffocating my fingers. 1
HarmonyDriven Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 For me, wearing a ring on the left ring finger symbolizes commitment, whether it be a promise, engagement or wedding ring. I have other fingers to choose from should I want to wear a "regular" ring.
lana-banana Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Rings or the lack thereof mean absolutely nothing. I know women of all ages who wear various rings on their left ring fingers without being engaged or married, and I know plenty of committed women who don't wear rings for any number of reasons. (Athletes, artists and computer engineers are especially likely to wear rings differently than most people, in my experience.) Unless you know for a fact that a woman is wearing an engagement ring, you can't make any assumptions.
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 I don't wear any rings....I'll say I'm married if asked. They get mad and look at my hand and say "Where's the ring?" I then say, who said I had to wear one, my marital status is no ones business, and yes you can call me Ms. lol When I was married I always wore the wedding ring to show I was married. I am not hiding that fact where most men won't wear theirs so to hide it. When you get married to you wear them as it was place on your ring finger. I feel the women your married to should do the same if they really love you to show others she married/engaged. It would drive me crazy when the wife at time didn't wear it like she didn't care or understand the value of the rings of what it met to say. Once she did she wore it. When you throw them off her finger it meant she was done/or upset. It was hell back then. Today a lot of women don't wear them even though their still married but like to fool around. Some don't wear them because guess what they lost their rings. I knew my late mother didn't wear it so much she was protecting it from wear and tear. My father never wore his he was always working with his hands. I felt you should wear as what it states your in love and married. Why keep that a secret unless you are not feeling that. But again it's your choice also if you wear or not.. 1
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 For me, wearing a ring on the left ring finger symbolizes commitment, whether it be a promise, engagement or wedding ring. I have other fingers to choose from should I want to wear a "regular" ring. Your correct! I agree with you but today's women some don't care to wear it even if they're engaged or married. They feel why should they tell others they are or not. I will always wore mine no matter what all the way to the end. I got rid of it when the marriage came to end. I don't want to be reminded of it. That's the only time you shouldn't be wearing it as the marriage or there is not hope again because it's over for good.. My ex wore it as prior then as for showcase, I always had to remind her to wear the rings. When I didn't have to tell her she would wear them each morning before getting ready for work. She didn't wear it at bed of course when she did it would cut me up in bed. Listen keep on wearing if your married or engage if it makes you proud to wear them for your man and yourself..
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 (edited) Rings drive me cray!!! They're like little weights suffocating my fingers. So if a guy gave you engagement ring you won't wear it correct? If you an a guy got married you won't wear the two rings correct. But if the rings were smaller carrot or thin band that didn't have to wear down your finger would you still consider to wear the rings. Just wondering how your thinking here my dear. There use to be mood rings everyone had them on they shown others you mood it was funny back then. Today I don't wear rings I do wear men's bracelets I also design them too.. Mine are no weight type.. One is a band no weight and the other is rope lace band my own design..One of kind. Self adjusting.. I don't wear them when I take a shower. I wear them to bed, work and all day long. If I met someone I would make a bracelet for them or necklace with crystal gem stone for them. Most of the women I dated wanted the stone to be tiny and not weigh a lot. So your point here is valid one. Wearing the rings just meant we are together.. I guess others don't feel why they should today.. Maybe your parents never wore their engagement/wedding bands around you. It's our life you do what ever makes you happen we all can't judge each other over rings and etc.. out of respect an appreciations we should have more values and morals than ever though. To each their own I say for now... Edited September 23, 2017 by coolheadal
coolheadal Posted September 23, 2017 Posted September 23, 2017 Rings or the lack thereof mean absolutely nothing. I know women of all ages who wear various rings on their left ring fingers without being engaged or married, and I know plenty of committed women who don't wear rings for any number of reasons. (Athletes, artists and computer engineers are especially likely to wear rings differently than most people, in my experience.) Unless you know for a fact that a woman is wearing an engagement ring, you can't make any assumptions. rings told men your either married or engaged that's where most of us were brought up to believe. What you said above could happen I was IT Expert/Developer I wore my wedding band I know a few others wore them as well. I've looked at some people at my friends party a lot that were married were married wasn't wearing their ring bands at all. I had ask him why you didn't have your wedding band the answer was I don't care to wear it. Interesting he never did after he got married, but then again he's a depress man if you look at him never real happy or smiles..
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