Boyfriend broke up with me for a second time

[alexa101]

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. (He's 22, I'm 23). We broke up for about 5-6 months in between that because he said I was too dependent on him and needy. We got back together in January and he was obsessed with me and thought I completely changed and immediately lived together and then from May until August we spent the summer traveling Southeast Asia together. We have gotten in a few bad arguments and he threatened to end things with me 3-4 times since we've gotten together when he was really mad. He has a depression, but personally I think he is a little bipolar because when he is mad he acts on his anger and says things he doesn't mean. After every time he's said he wants to break up he always says he has no idea what he was saying and he didn't mean it and it was just in the moment. Our arguments have consisted of him saying I was insecure, us arguing too much, us not having sex enough (because when he is on his medication he has no sex drive and i never know when he does or doesn't have a sex drive so we've only been having sex a few times a month lately).

The night before he broke up with me he was talking about us moving in together into my grandmas old house and was asking me to ask my dad if we can move into it sooner so that he can wake up with me every morning. He said even though it will cost money that it's worth it because he will have me and how much he loves me and loves how much his family loves me. Then the next day we got into our FIRST argument in over 2 months! Everything had been going so well the past 2 months we were together all the time and he always wanted me to be with him and we were so happy. Our argument put him in such a bad mood that he broke up with me the next night. His reasoning for breaking up with me is because I don't give him space when he needs it (which I do but this one time I didn't because I was upset he wanted to take me home on my one day off of the week) and that we don't have sex enough. I said those are both easy fixes and I can change that immediately(since I've changed everything else) and he said that he's given me endless chances and I haven't changed since the first time we broke up. He first said it would just be a break so he can think about things then changed his mind to were broken up for good. He had me sleep at his house that night and cuddled me the whole night which we usually don't do since we've been dating for so long. When I left in the morning I said can it just be a break and he said no. He texted me 10 minutes after I left and said "don't immediately tell all your friends or start packing your bags" because I told him I was going to move to California because of this. And I said why and he said well do whatever you want. He also said how much he will always love me and how great I am but we just cant be together. The next day (today) he texted me asking how I was doing and that he just wanted to check in on me and he's here for me to make it easier and I said lets get coffee and talk this through and he said that he's only going to say the same things he said before but i said well I'll be in a more stable mood and will be able to have a genuine conversation about everything and just want closure and he said ok and were gonna meet tomorrow morning.

Idk wtf to think. Do you think theres any hope that he'll want me back or should I just give up? Do you think it's over forever? What should I do to get him back?

[d0nnivain]

Why do you want him back? this was an unhealthy relationship. Too much drama & conflict.

[alexa101]

The only time we ever argued were like those 4 times though we were always happy and genuine to eachother besides those bad times we argued

[Maldives]

U know what his doing, his playing the power card he doesn't want u but he doesn't want u to leave for good either so he wants to be broken up but know that in the background u will come running back.