Tidlywink80 Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Looking for any opinions on the rebound situation. My husband left me for another woman 6 weeks ago. I dont think anything physical happened between them before he left but defo emotional affair for a short time (days/weeks) Any how, 5 days after he left she posted on social media she was in a relationship (no mention of his name at this point but he 'loved' the post) the same day he changed his status from married to single. 8 days after he left she changed her profile pic to a pic of them both. 12 days after he left he put up he was in a relationship with her. This is all very fast and confusing to me as to why any woman would be so brazen to say publicly she is with a man who has only just left his wife and for him to be so selfish and uncaring to do this. To make matters worse only 2/3 months before hand she was engaged and due to be married when she found out her fiancee was cheating on her with a friend!! Thoughts please??
BrewCrew25 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I think you really need to stop worrying about what he is doing with her, and focus on yourself in this moment and taking care of you. And this is why, if he had the lack of morality to do that to you, his conscience isn't going to change no matter how powerful she thinks their 'emotional affair' was. You need to stop worrying about what he's doing online so you can focus on moving on from this. They're going so fast I wouldn't be surprised if this whole thing crashes and burns in a few weeks (or months). Watching them on facebook is the exact opposite of what you should be doing right now, you should block both of them on facebook so the drama doesn't follow you when he realizes he misses you. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I think you really need to stop worrying about what he is doing with her, and focus on yourself in this moment and taking care of you. And this is why, if he had the lack of morality to do that to you, his conscience isn't going to change no matter how powerful she thinks their 'emotional affair' was. You need to stop worrying about what he's doing online so you can focus on moving on from this. They're going so fast I wouldn't be surprised if this whole thing crashes and burns in a few weeks (or months). Watching them on facebook is the exact opposite of what you should be doing right now, you should block both of them on facebook so the drama doesn't follow you when he realizes he misses you. I agree with you, but I would have trouble looking away from the trainwreck, too!
BrewCrew25 Posted September 22, 2017 Posted September 22, 2017 I agree with you, but I would have trouble looking away from the trainwreck, too! The psychology behind that is a mystery to me, because I personally avoid getting hurt when I can help it. But I'm not sure OP realizes this is in fact a trainwreck waiting to happen. I'm always slightly disappointed when I hear a woman gladly went for another woman's husband too. I know it's his fault but like, how low can you go? 1
Author Tidlywink80 Posted September 22, 2017 Author Posted September 22, 2017 Thanks for the replies. I have already blocked the both of them on social media as it makes it worse for me and gives me more to think about when I do see the drivel they post. I am on day 11 of no contact, good hours and bad hours lol. I am also of the opinion that its going to be a train wreck but u never know. I couldn't take him back now after all that has happened anyway but would be good to watch I'm slowly but surely getting better and moving on and he hasn't even dealt with any of it yet because he just replaced me with someone else 1
BrewCrew25 Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Thanks for the replies. I have already blocked the both of them on social media as it makes it worse for me and gives me more to think about when I do see the drivel they post. I am on day 11 of no contact, good hours and bad hours lol. I am also of the opinion that its going to be a train wreck but u never know. I couldn't take him back now after all that has happened anyway but would be good to watch I'm slowly but surely getting better and moving on and he hasn't even dealt with any of it yet because he just replaced me with someone else Good for you girl! It's hard to just halt contact. In the meantime, I would just take it one day at a time and look into keeping yourself busy. Surround yourself with family a friends, and maybe seek a therapist to help you sort through the emotions you're feeling right now. Plan fun stuff to do that you enjoy, and take good care of yourself (yummy foods, lots of sleep, exercise, shopping etc.)
whichwayisup Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Do your parents and your in laws know that he left you for another woman? If not, expose him. Get a good lawyer and divorce him. Get to counseling and grieve this loss so you can heal in a healthy way. You did nothing wrong! He is the jerk and one day you'll see you're better off without him. Sorry that you're hurting.
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