Miss Spider Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 This really cute guy from Tinder asked me out Monday, but I had a date that day so I had to decline but I suggested Wednesday(today). I asked him yesterday about it and he said it was still on. Today I got up and I didn't feel like going. I told him I was feeling under the weather maybe a cold. It's 85 degrees outside, but I said I had a cold ... >.> I apologized for inconveniencing him and asked if he would like to meet next Monday. Did I do something wrong or is he just not that interested in meeting anymore? Should I try asking again when Monday rolls around? Also, am I being a bit unreasonable to be turned off he just ignored and didn't say feel better soon to me being fake sick(he doesn't know that)?
RecentChange Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Why did you tell him you are sick? He probably thinks you are blowing him off, and thus has returned the favor. You're annoyed that someone you don't know didn't give you sympathy for lying to them about being sick? 18
Bastile Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 You flaked on him twice, and should be dumped. Not sure what the problem is? You want him to be concerned over your fake illness? Then you are losing perspective on the real world. And you are heading for a big fall, madam. lol Keep your feet firmly planted is my advice. 7
coolheadal Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 My dear playing in dangerous waters you had a date already with another guy? How did that one was it okay or not? If it was good why bother with this other guy because he's cute? You have blown off twice already. He's might have other dates as well.. These guys are not going to stick around for you know they're way too many other women on these apps. What are you looking for just dating or are you looking for a serious lover? 1
grays Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Yeah. He thinks you blew him off and he's right. You really shouldn't do that. Its so disheartening to the people youre blowing off. Believe me, I know. 1
Author Miss Spider Posted September 20, 2017 Author Posted September 20, 2017 So he's really being all like that? I suggested another day so I thought that was not a blow off... I don't feel like going out because it is time of month and I'm lethargic and not feeling too hot... He doesn't know I'm lying though so I assumed he'd at least say sorry to hear that ...
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 You're annoyed that someone you don't know didn't give you sympathy for lying to them about being sick? Exactly. He saw through you. I don't think you should be upset with him for this. 5
umirano Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 You're annoyed that someone you don't know didn't give you sympathy for lying to them about being sick? Funny. But yeah, I don't see how you can be mad at him. People have instincts. His may have been telling him you're not as genuine as he thought and he may have decided it's not worth replying. I hope he gets back to you though. 2
preraph Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 He is assuming you were making excuses and blowing him off. To make up for it, why not call him when you feel better and offer to take him out, your treat. 2
coolheadal Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 So he's really being all like that? I suggested another day so I thought that was not a blow off... I don't feel like going out because it is time of month and I'm lethargic and not feeling too hot... He doesn't know I'm lying though so I assumed he'd at least say sorry to hear that ... PMS time of the month, then why did you setup times to go out on dates then. Your not emotionally ready to date now. Wait for the hot flashes to past then decide. How did the date with the other guy go? You never said anything. Forget about the cute guy unless he'll stick around to wait for you when you can date him. 1
Author Miss Spider Posted September 20, 2017 Author Posted September 20, 2017 He is assuming you were making excuses and blowing him off. To make up for it, why not call him when you feel better and offer to take him out, your treat. Thank you. I will try that. I am fine asking guys once in awhile out even if I get blown off but the thing is as much as it could it of been a blow off, I really could have been sick and I just feel sort of weird asking now that he didn't even say anything to me being sick especially since I was apologetic about it plus I really wasn't feeling good... I said "I know this sounds like a total lie but I'm feeling a bit under the weather today. think I have a cold *sick emoji*" "can we maybe do xxxxxx on xxxxx if you're still free? I understand if not and sorry if I inconvenienced you!" Maybe hes mad because he shaved his face for our date or maybe he found someone new...Oh well...
Zahara Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 This really cute guy from Tinder asked me out Monday, but I had a date that day so I had to decline but I suggested Wednesday(today). I asked him yesterday about it and he said it was still on. Today I got up and I didn't feel like going. I told him I was feeling under the weather maybe a cold. It's 85 degrees outside, but I said I had a cold ... >.> I apologized for inconveniencing him and asked if he would like to meet next Monday. Did I do something wrong or is he just not that interested in meeting anymore? Should I try asking again when Monday rolls around? Also, am I being a bit unreasonable to be turned off he just ignored and didn't say feel better soon to me being fake sick(he doesn't know that)? He asked you out on Monday, you declined. Then date day, you declined again. While it all may be a legitimate reasons, OLD is riddled with flaky people so it may be difficult for him to give you the benefit of the doubt. Twice in a row -- I'd probably feel the same way. 7
GemmaUK Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 You've said no twice - albeit offering new dates but....reap what you sow. Periods aren't great but they shouldn't alter your life to the extent where you postpone it. 3
coolheadal Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 I guess you really want to go out with this guy why not call him on the cell and talk to him.. Show some interest he might come around to your side of things. I wish you the best of luck my dear! 1
guest569 Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 I said "I know this sounds like a total lie but I'm feeling a bit under the weather today. think I have a cold *sick emoji*" "can we maybe do xxxxxx on xxxxx if you're still free? I understand if not and sorry if I inconvenienced you!" ... Lol Anyway he was probably tired of being messed around 1
Bastile Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 You've said no twice - albeit offering new dates but....reap what you sow. Periods aren't great but they shouldn't alter your life to the extent where you postpone it. It doesn't mean anything. I've went out with loads of girls early on, who's periods meant that our dates were limited. Happens all the time. The problem is that easy abundance, not even worked for, is causing a loss of perspective. I believe the OLD guys call this the "paradox of choice". 1
Gaeta Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 So he's really being all like that? I suggested another day so I thought that was not a blow off... I don't feel like going out because it is time of month and I'm lethargic and not feeling too hot.... Cookie, you are the one being 'all like that'. Really... Women have had their periods for millions of years .....That's a really cheap excuse to cancel a date. What else have you used? You broke a nail? You cancelled twice than you rescheduled ONE WEEK later which is on the other side of next weekend, that screams total disinterest on your part. 8
olivetree Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 If a friend rescheduled twice in a row, I wouldn't bother making plans anymore. This guy isn't even a friend, so he really doesn't owe you much. Put yourself in his shoes. If he cancelled twice, I suspect you'd think he wasn't that into you. For normal people, that is a turn off. 2
itsanything Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 If plans are set in motion with someone I don't know and then they cancel the day of, there better be a legit reason (not a made up fake sickness) or I'm moving onto the next. 1
amaysngrace Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 You probably should have told you to check back with you tomorrow. You postponed him too far away. 1
Redhead14 Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 This really cute guy from Tinder asked me out Monday, but I had a date that day so I had to decline but I suggested Wednesday(today). I asked him yesterday about it and he said it was still on. Today I got up and I didn't feel like going. I told him I was feeling under the weather maybe a cold. It's 85 degrees outside, but I said I had a cold ... >.> I apologized for inconveniencing him and asked if he would like to meet next Monday. Did I do something wrong or is he just not that interested in meeting anymore? Should I try asking again when Monday rolls around? Also, am I being a bit unreasonable to be turned off he just ignored and didn't say feel better soon to me being fake sick(he doesn't know that)? You ditched the guy twice! What would you think if a guy did that to you when you'd had specific plans. People don't like being cancelled on at the last minute especially twice in a row. asked if he would like to meet next Monday. -- You didn't follow through with plans with him TWICE, why would he think you'd keep them the third time? If a guy did that to me, he'd be blocked from everything. And, why would a guy you you've never actually met and ditched twice give a cr*p if you're sick or not? Stop jerking guys around. If you're not ready to date, stop dating. 2
kazen Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Cookie, I suggest you meet a guy through the friendship path. These going straight to dating from OLD is not working out for you due to your mental issues. Just go hangout with friends and ask them to bring their male friends. Starting out as friends first will make you a lot more comfortable to dating. 1
preraph Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Thank you. I will try that. I am fine asking guys once in awhile out even if I get blown off but the thing is as much as it could it of been a blow off, I really could have been sick and I just feel sort of weird asking now that he didn't even say anything to me being sick especially since I was apologetic about it plus I really wasn't feeling good... I said "I know this sounds like a total lie but I'm feeling a bit under the weather today. think I have a cold *sick emoji*" "can we maybe do xxxxxx on xxxxx if you're still free? I understand if not and sorry if I inconvenienced you!" Maybe hes mad because he shaved his face for our date or maybe he found someone new...Oh well... Asking women out is a very nervous-making job for men and they get sensitive about excuses, real or not. You can kind of see why because usually it IS just a blowoff. So give him a chance by telling him you want to take him out to make up for it. Then if he's nice, it will be a good investment. If he's not, at least you'll know. 2
Imajerk17 Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 (edited) Another day, another thread by you that keeps repeating the mistakes you make in every previous thread. You cookiesanddough are the closest thing this forum has to Groundhog Day. Your right hand keeps making dates and then your left hand keeps flaking because of your self protective tendencies, your ex, Mercury being in retrograde, who the hell knows why. Same ol same old w you. Aren't you embarrassed by this? I hope this guy has enough sense to move on to someone else. Edited September 20, 2017 by Imajerk17 11
basil67 Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Wow, this guy's spidey senses are pretty good. 1
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