oman0115 Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Technically not a break up but still feels like one so I'll post here. My situation was a bit messy. I lived with this girl for a year. We did everything together, I virtually stopped seeing my friends because I fell for her badly. I tried it on twice second time I told her how I felt. She rejected me both times. She then moved away to another city, contact became less frequent. I put that down to her being driven and tbh a bit selfish, she's a person who only sees things through her eyes. Anyway I went through a bad personal experience, a nasty operation and it took my 3 months to recover. I did want her support but she offered me nothing, she kept saying she wanted to come and visit but every month she cancelled. We were supposed to be going away next month, cancelled! I'd started trying to forget about her, it's not health to want what you can't have so I stopped texting for 2 weeks. Then I got the 'are you ok text' ( I'm used to these because exs have done it just to check up on me ) I replied and asked how she was and she completely ignored me. It really hurt because it bought back bad memories of exs, they'd do that. Give me breadcrumbs then disappear for weeks. The question is how do I proceed. She makes me sad now, she knows I want her but she's never going to feel the same I don't think. Do I go Nc, do I tell her? My head is in a spin because I have fallen for her...
kortz Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 We did everything together When you say did everything together do you also mean you guys slept together and acted like you were in a relationship, or do you just mean you did everything expect those things together like friends? Either way you should go NC. I think its ok to tell her and say unless she wants to take things further then you feel that you guys need some space and then go NC. Or just go straight NC if you're ok doing so. Sorry to say but it sounds like she really doesn't want to be with you. Even during your op she didn't make any effort so you are clearly not that important to her.
d0nnivain Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 NC is probably your best bet. If you think she'll respect it, to avoid the "are you OK" breadcrumb, tell her that you need to distance yourself from her for a while to get over her romantic rejection. Otherwise just block her & live your life.
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