Should I continue seeing this girl?

[Dmarls84]

Ok....so I have been seeing this girl for about 2 months, after coming out of a long term relationship about 4 months ago.

 

We class our fling as ****-buddies, but we meet up and have nights out etc, more than just sex, they would be considered dates. There is also lots of kissing, holding hands, intimate stuff....in public too.

 

I am perfectly comfortable with this, its nice, but is this more of a relationship starting than **** buddies?

 

We also talk a lot, about general stuff, but she seems quite comfortable talking about her ex (whom she split up with several months ago - also a long term relationship).

 

Firstly, for some reason this kinda bothered me, so I guess I must be starting to like her (more than just ****-buddies?). But I kept it to myself, didn't say anything to her, just listened.

 

Secondly, some of the things she told me I found kind of odd. Here's the highlights;

- She is still in contact with her ex.

- She doesn't want to be with him as he bores her and doesn't satisfy her, also she does not think he will change in the way that she requires.

- She blames herself for the way in which she treated him. (I don't think she cheated, she just feels guilty because she broke it off and he didn't want to).

- She feels that she gets happy and cant handle it so sabotages it for herself.

 

So, my query is this; If I continue seeing this girl I will inevitably start to like her more and more, its a great arrangement but the connection is good and it will just work out that way. Potentially, it might be the same for her. Her actions suggest that she is equally in to me, but some of the things she has said suggest otherwise.

 

What do you guys think will happen if I stick this out?

(haven't been in situation quite like this before, don't want to get hurt when I could have bailed before that point, could do with some advice/experience etc).

[d0nnivain]

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