Gators Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Been on a couple dates with a girl I met online, this was a couple months ago. I've since asked her multiple times since then to go out again, but she's always "busy". This alone would make me think it wasn't going anywhere, but she'll text me often. How do I ask her where it's going, without coming off as clingy?
coolheadal Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Sounds like your in the friend-zone. She's seeing other men, saying she's busy to your dating request. "You could push it by saying, hey listen when your not busy call me, I am not looking to be friends only I am looking to have a dating relationship. You leave it at that. See what she tells you? 1
The Urbanyst Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Don't chase, replace. She is making a fool out of you and wasting your time.
Erik30 Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Suddenly "too busy" usually means there's another guy in the picture, especially since she has used that excuse on you multiple times and your last date was months ago. It could be an ex or someone else she also met online. She might not have the guts to tell you that, or she's keeping you around as a backup in case it doesn't work out with the other guy. Either way, stop wasting your time and start dating other girls. Girls who are really into you are the ones who can't wait to see you. If you want, you can ask her out one more time and try to set up a specific date. If she's "busy" again, assume it's done and don't text her anymore. If she actually initiates random texting conversations all the time, just tell her now you're busy but you would love to talk to her about it in person
ontheway Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Been on a couple dates with a girl I met online, this was a couple months ago. I've since asked her multiple times since then to go out again, but she's always "busy". This alone would make me think it wasn't going anywhere, but she'll text me often. How do I ask her where it's going, without coming off as clingy? She's dating and sleeping with other men, possibly seeing her ex, and keeping you on the back burner. The more you pursue, the more you feed her ego and makes you look desperate. If you ask her where it's going after 2 dates, that is complete approval seeking behavior. You said you already asked her multiple times to go out again with rejection. Here's what you do... The next time she texts you, say "Hey, great to hear from you. When are you free to get together?" And set a definite date. If she doesn't give you a definite date, then you say "Well it sounds like you're schedule is up in the air right now, give me call when you're free.", and never contact her again. She must do 100% of the reaching out from then on. If she does reach out to you for her emotional ego support to make sure you're still on her fishing line, and since you've already asked multiple times for a date, You put a low value on her. If she texts you some BS like "Hey, how's your day going", you say "Hey, I'm great! I'm really busy with work right now, it was great hearing from you". She must ask you out at this point. You only ask her out on 2 separate occasions. If she rejects you twice, follow the above advice, and start meeting and dating other women.
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