JoL Posted August 14, 2005 Posted August 14, 2005 Just a curious question im going to throw out there to everyone, mainly the guys- what makes a person unforgettable? After you break up with someone, or stop dating them or whatever may happen to bring the relationship to a halt- what kind of girl/guy is it that you cant forget? What about her/him makes her hard to get over? Its just interesting to me, because there seems to be people out there who get dumped fairly quickly, and those who have their exes in an emotional mess trying to get over them. Is it something about their personality? Their looks? Their ability in bed ..? What is that element about that person that has made it hard for you to get over them?
Tony T Posted August 14, 2005 Posted August 14, 2005 Most likely, the more emotional intensity there was in the relationship the more unforgettable it will be. Oh, yes, there are some trips to Mars in the bedroom (and elsewhere) that come to mind from time to time but I'm not sure whether it's the person or the trip that constitutes the memory. Healthy people move on and know it's not productive to hold powerful memories of past relationships or encounters if they are to engage properly in the here and now and find or conduct a healthy relationship with a current partner. Unfortunately, there are people who ONLY live in the past and those need counselling real bad. Yes, many relationships and experiences therein are unforgettable, but we have to try like hell anyway. For me, I suspect some of the nicer recollections were some select one-night stands because they were pure and contained none of the other BS that you remember along with the good stuff from longer term relationships...oh, I shouldn't say that...sorry!
Blackfrost Posted August 14, 2005 Posted August 14, 2005 Analyzing my own situation: It's very interesting and strange to me when I meet someone of whom I would define as an old soul. I don't believe in reincarnation, but I swear I've met maybe 3 people on this earth, that seem to possess an understanding and an internal wisdom that is far beyond anyone else I see around me. 2 of these were girls and 1 was a guy. Those 3 people are absolutely unforgettable to me. It had nothing to do with anything physical between either girl. It was just as if we had know each other for an eternity, and naturally connected without ever needing to say anything to each other. It's hard for me to describe, but some of you may know what I am trying to elaborate on
lindya Posted August 14, 2005 Posted August 14, 2005 Definitely - the best friends I have are people I clicked with instantly. You find out during conversation that you share similar basic principles, but really you "knew" that the moment you met them. Friendship just isn't a struggle at all with those people. It's one of life's joys There have been other people who I didn't initially take to, but persevered with because they challenged me in some way I might have needed to be challenged at the time. Those people can, in their own way, be unforgettable - but often the friendships you have with them are time limited, unless you can both manage the conflict that arises from insurmountable differences in important values.
DeaconFrost Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 To throw in my two cents, I'd also say that if you had a very emotionally intense relationship, the damaged caused by that relationship makes that person unforgettable in their own right. As humans we vividly remember the beautifully good and horrifically bad because of one simple thing...what we've learned. If we went through pure hell with a person we remember that individual by recalling what we learned and what we definately don't wish to repeat. If we had a profoundly amazing experience we'll remember what we liked and what we wish to duplicate in the future. Rememberance is truly a double-edged sword...
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 I'm still getting over my emotionally AND sexually intense relationship. It was only 7 months and I was married to someone else for the first 4 months. I haven't seen him for 4 months, yet, I'm finding this harder to get over than my marriage....but that was dead years ago.
lvgrly Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by DeaconFrost To throw in my two cents, I'd also say that if you had a very emotionally intense relationship, the damaged caused by that relationship makes that person unforgettable in their own right. As humans we vividly remember the beautifully good and horrifically bad because of one simple thing...what we've learned. If we went through pure hell with a person we remember that individual by recalling what we learned and what we definately don't wish to repeat. If we had a profoundly amazing experience we'll remember what we liked and what we wish to duplicate in the future. Rememberance is truly a double-edged sword... I couldn't agree anymore than that statement.
alphamale Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 unforgettable, thats what YOUUUUUUUUUU ARRRRRREEEEEE....
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