jnr586 Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 I'll keep this as brief as I can. 35-year-old gay guy here: 3 weeks ago I met a guy online. He's from another city (a flight or long drive away) but he was in mine as he grew up here and was visiting parents. We got to chatting and learned we had a ton in common -same age, good career -moved around a lot but have lived in a lot of the same places, gone to the same schools, but at different times -similar interests Decided to meet. Hit it off. Squeezed in a second date before he left town. Hit it off again. I just bought a new house and he bought me a nice housewarming gift (a nice bottle of rye whiskey, something we talked about on our first date). We had a bittersweet goodbye and a couple of goodnight kisses and parted ways. He said he'd be back in late October but understood if I didn't want to get tangled up in this. We texted a bunch over the ensuing 24 hours. We talked about additional visits. Then the texts went to a conversation every 2-3 days. At that point I mentioned to him that I wanted to try to see him before late October to see if this would go anywhere- the only weekend we could was this coming weekend. He expressed interest and did a little research on a good half-way point between us. We made tentative plans but nothing confirmed. Last week he went to Europe for a week with friends for his birthday and I haven't heard from him since he left. I texted him for his birthday yesterday but he hasn't replied. Is he a flake? We've only met twice, so it seems silly to have expectations, especially while he's abroad with friends. I accept that too much communication too soon can be bad, and getting to know each other through legitimate human interactions is far more valuable. He'll be coming back today so hope to hear from him and/or make plans for this weekend. Am I overreacting or am I getting the brush off?
Gaeta Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 I am wondering if we can text people when they travel from North America to Europe? If you are sure he's getting your communication then I'd say he's flaking on you unfortunately but if there is a doubt about those communication getting to him I'd say you should get your answer soon now that's he's coming back. Don't put too much hope into this. A lot of *connection* don't make it past the 3rd date.People get thrilled from a first meet then realize it's not quite what they want.
Coup La-La Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 when you say "text" do you mean SMS or is that shorthand for FB or whatsapp ect? SMS messaging from country to country doesn't always work
bpb2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 We've only met twice, so it seems silly to have expectations, especially while he's abroad with friends. Answer right there bro.
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