Fernanda Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Hi everyone, I'm new here! The reason that I registered is because I'm in a completely mess right now haha! I'm in this country alone (moved here because of work) so my family is in the states and I need some advices! Long short story: A few months ago I met this guy at work, he's 26, I'm 25! He's gorgeous and a nice guy, very good looking. we started to talk now and then, became friends.. went out to a bar, we kissed, and then repeat and repeat (bar + kissing thing) nothing else happened. We never sleep together or anything.. I always knew that he doesn't want a serious relationship so I didn't want to take it to the next level.. (old fashion woman I know...) then a few weekends ago, i met his friends.. and there was this one in particular.. sweet, such a gentleman and smart guy, gorgeous and cute... he blew my mind. (They're housemates) We talked that night we danced and it was perfect! By the way with the guy from work we only hang out to bars and we don't even talk on the weekdays besides from work (we don't text or anything! Ever!) Then we hang out the other day and my best friend (girl) an I we went out with them and then we went to their house (nothing happened just chilling) the guy from work wasn't there and he didn't hang out with us that night... so this new cute gorgeous guy and I talked, he told me that I was beautiful and gorgeous but that he couldn't do anything and I replied that his friend and I don't have anything together that we're just friends and he told me that only if his friend says that it is ok for us to start dating or going out only if he agrees he would approach to me... so it was kind of an intense moment because obviously we like each other so we kissed and believe in 25 years old and that was the most intense and amazing kiss ever... but then this guy from work came to the house, he didn't see us kissing or anything he doesn't know, he freaked out and got really mad. So his friend backed out of the picture and told me that even tho he wanted to he couldnt do anything... I talked to my friend from work and he basically told me again that he didn't want anything serious but that it was his mate... What should I do? Please help me!
Sara1989 Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 So this 'friend' is cock blocking you but does not want you for himself in an relationship but wants keep you as an option as a girl he can fool around with. Stop kissing him, stop flirting with him...seriously you are getting nothing out of it. Also start looking elsewhere for potential relationships. Forget both these guys. 3
bpb2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 I agree with the above. The 1st guy is a douche, and the 2nd guy sounds like a loser trying to honour '1st dibs' rule.
Author Fernanda Posted September 20, 2017 Author Posted September 20, 2017 Thank you both! At first I thought it was cute that his friend was trying to be 'loyal' to him, but you are right, that's silly because we don't have anything in the first place... too bad I did text him the other day saying that "leaving behind what happened on Saturday, here's my number if you want to grab coffee or a drink sometime"... he didn't reply !
Miss Spider Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Just forget them both...First guy is weird and full of really weak game...only thing I see going for him is he's pretty. Second guy probably gaming too but he doesn't want to get involved because of his weird friend anyway so got to respect that. More fish in the sea
d0nnivain Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 The easiest path is to forget them both. Personally I'd probably sit the work friend down & tell him to go give the buddy permission to date me. I'd remind him that he was the one who rejected you & that now he's being unfair. If he can't or won't do what's best for you -- get out of the way of your relationship with his friend -- then he's no friend to you.
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