My boyfriend's ex won't move out and it's destroying our relationship.

[Crazylife555]

They have a long history of being on and off. Right now he is on an *off* moment and eventually they will be *on* again. You're the gf in between their on and off.

 

It's one thing to be helping an ex and it's an other giving her free shelter for months while she's working and capable of supporting herself. His parents are probably doing this because they know they always go back to each other eventually.

 

Your boyfriend heard you, he knows you are uncomfortable about it but so far you did not apply any consequences to him so why would he change anything? So on one hand he has an ex he doesn't want to disappoint and he's got you whom he disappoint with no hesitation. Where do you think his loyalty stands?

 

Thats what I think. They really like her and when we go out his parents always invite her to come. They are no fools either so I'm 90% sure they do it on purpose. Im black and Muslim and she's white and Christian so I'm sure their more comfortable around her(not that I think their racist)

His mom never fails to bring her up and it just makes me feel like it's a test to see how I'm going to react.

[kendahke]

Im black and Muslim and she's white and Christian so I'm sure their more comfortable around her(not that I think their racist)

His mom never fails to bring her up and it just makes me feel like it's a test to see how I'm going to react.

 

His mother is letting you know that she doesn't accept you and wishes you'd get the hint already. If she did, she wouldn't be doing this mess... she'd never do anything to disrespect the woman her son says he loves, which is why the ex is where she is and you're not.

[smackie9]

His mother is letting you know that she doesn't accept you and wishes you'd get the hint already. If she did, she wouldn't be doing this mess... she'd never do anything to disrespect the woman her son says he loves, which is why the ex is where she is and you're not.

OP this is it ^^^^

 

Your time as his GF is temporary. I don't know why you refuse to see that. Sure you can hang on and wait it out, but the reality of it is, the parents don't accept you, the ex will always be in their lives because they let it. Sorry there is no solution here....you can't make this stop.

 

Have some self worth, and dump this chump. Let this be a lesson to not date anyone who has on and off relationships, and keeps their exe so close they are like family.

[BaileyB]

His mother is letting you know that she doesn't accept you and wishes you'd get the hint already. If she did, she wouldn't be doing this mess... she'd never do anything to disrespect the woman her son says he loves, which is why the ex is where she is and you're not.

 

Indeed. That's not a respectful thing to do, to anyone. I hate to say it, but she is putting you in your place.

 

The ex is living in the house because they all allow her to stay. The only person who is not happy with this situation is you. If you don't like it, you need to remove yourself from the situation. Sorry.