fred123 Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 How do you know when she is lying about this? Especially when you have had a conversation why it bugs you why you cant or why she dont want to kiss you in public etc or why she never intiates hand holding or kissing or anything like that in public and doesnt want people to know about her dating life. This all seems plausible as some girls are shy and not so pda!.
No_Go Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Very possible she's saying the truth. I personally am ok with pda in places with people that I don't know. However I hate to no end people knowing about my relationships. I never update FB. Never shared with family about one. My dating life is my thing, I rarely make it 'public'. Not everyone likes to announce dating/relationship status to the world. 1
Gaeta Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 (edited) In your case your 'ex' had no problem exposing her new bo to her friends and colleagues. It's out there on her social media AND has no problem exposing how much she is into him. She was lying to you. She was not into you. She only wanted to use you and she did. Do you still doubt that? Asking questions and leaving a bunch of details out is not gonna change anything and not gonna make her a better person. Edited September 19, 2017 by Gaeta 4
Author fred123 Posted September 19, 2017 Author Posted September 19, 2017 In your case your 'ex' had no problem exposing her new bo to her friends and colleagues. It's out there on her social media AND has no problem exposing how much she is into him. She was lying to you. She was not into you. She only wanted to use you and she did. Do you still doubt that? Asking questions and leaving a bunch of details out is not gonna change anything and not gonna make her a better person. How does one forsee this?
Author fred123 Posted September 19, 2017 Author Posted September 19, 2017 Very possible she's saying the truth. I personally am ok with pda in places with people that I don't know. However I hate to no end people knowing about my relationships. I never update FB. Never shared with family about one. My dating life is my thing, I rarely make it 'public'. Not everyone likes to announce dating/relationship status to the world. Gaeta how do we know NoGo could be like my ex?
Gaeta Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Gaeta how do we know NoGo could be like my ex? No_go is the same in all of her relationships. Your ex was only like this with you, right? You need to understand she was lying to you. As soon as she met a new guy she was all over the place and proud to show him off.
Author fred123 Posted September 19, 2017 Author Posted September 19, 2017 No_go is the same in all of her relationships. Your ex was only like this with you, right? You need to understand she was lying to you. As soon as she met a new guy she was all over the place and proud to show him off. Well i thought my girl was the same too in all her relationships. Its a fair assumption to make i think
Gaeta Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Well i thought my girl was the same too in all her relationships. Its a fair assumption to make i think Yes at first you had no choice but to believe she was one of those people who don't like public affection but then, in your cases, there were 100 other red flags adding in the mix that you should have considered. Your 'ex' did not only not want show of affection in public she was also hiding you from everyone after months of seeing you. At some point a guy needs to put 2 and 2 together. 1
coolheadal Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 (edited) Well i thought my girl was the same too in all her relationships. Its a fair assumption to make i think Maybe she's shy around others beside you? PDA not much you can't do with that sort if she isn't wanting to show the affection out in public. Do you kiss/cuddle/snuggle/hug etc in private? Oops read this one wrong, she's doesn't like PDA that's odd, are you sure you want to be with this woman? Does she show any signs of PDA in private? If she doesn't then she might have and issue with being rape/or sexual abuse when she was younger or older. Edited September 19, 2017 by coolheadal
knabe Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Well i thought my girl was the same too in all her relationships. Its a fair assumption to make i think You were wrong. You have a couple of choices here. Move on like most adults do....or obsess and become more and more like a stalker. It is a choice. 3
itsanything Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 I had an ex who didn't like PDA. Didn't really mind it though.
bpb2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Some people (girls and guys) don't like pda. Simple. 1
Bastile Posted September 19, 2017 Posted September 19, 2017 Well i thought my girl was the same too in all her relationships. Its a fair assumption to make i think I don't think anyone is the same in all their relationships. What you had with this woman was a crappy dynamic. She doesn't like pda, but it's not representative of women in general, or likely even representative of what she's capable of (in the right situation, with the right guy, etc). Move on to the next girl and look to build a better dynamic, rather than become obsessed with just this one. It's time to move on, mate. There doesn't seem much else to learn from her or what happened. It's time to get some new experiences and grow. 1
Author fred123 Posted September 20, 2017 Author Posted September 20, 2017 I don't think anyone is the same in all their relationships. What you had with this woman was a crappy dynamic. She doesn't like pda, but it's not representative of women in general, or likely even representative of what she's capable of (in the right situation, with the right guy, etc). Move on to the next girl and look to build a better dynamic, rather than become obsessed with just this one. It's time to move on, mate. There doesn't seem much else to learn from her or what happened. It's time to get some new experiences and grow. Well apparently she does like pda which can be clearly seen by her actions with her new guy
d0nnivain Posted September 20, 2017 Posted September 20, 2017 Fred123 There are very few universals in relationships. You are right to be somewhat confused. Some people do not like PDA & are shy. Others, like your EX. were lying. No single factor will tell you everything. You have to look at the relationship as a whole & listen to your gut. You knew something was wrong but you couldn't quite put your finger on it. It was the combination: no PDA; not meeting any of her friends after months; refusing to meet your friends; no social media; no interacting with others, ever; only having indoor alone dates for sex. The sex was throwing you because you assumed that she wouldn't have sex with you if she didn't like you. You now know that some people can have sex purely for the physical sensation with no care for the other person.
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