girlinNYC Posted September 17, 2017 Posted September 17, 2017 They say everyone enters your life for a reason, and I wholeheartedly believe that if prior relationships are anything to go by. There are lessons to be learnt in all things if we look deep enough. My first came when I was 18, I met a guy, went on a few dates and he was persistent enough for close to a year. As soon as he realised I wasn't going to sleep with him right away he ghosted me; teaching me that some guys only sweet talk to get one thing. The second lesson came when a guy I had met 6 months prior reconnected with me and we went on a date. I really liked him but waited for him to come to me and he did. We got 'physical' and he ghosted me; teaching me that even if I like someone a lot and even though we hadn't just met, don't do anything other than kiss on the first date. The third lesson came when a guy did everything but plan a date and was simply just flakey. Teaching me to look at actions not words. I'm not saying I'm Nostradamus here, but for my age (24) I'd say I'm quite wise with love. Recently I had fell for someone, it's gone stagnant now (it is what it is) but I'm struggling to find the lesson of his purpose in my life. I had met his family too. The purpose here is lost on me. Other than me being undesirable? Which I'm sure isn't the case but what could it be? Unless we are meant to be hence the lack of lesson. I'm not sure. I have a voice inside me that keeps telling me to hang in there with him every time I tell myself to give up. I don't know if it's intuition or not. Any insight on what the purpose is for my current 'flame'? I was doing just fine on my own before he came along and was LOVING the fact I had no one in my heart. Then he comes along, for what point?
HarmonyDriven Posted September 17, 2017 Posted September 17, 2017 I agree, there is a reason for everything. I, too, learn life lessons with each relationship. But, sometimes, we won't know that reason until later down the road after the relationship has ended. So, maybe you will not know your life lesson until this particular relationship has passed. If you both are at an impasse, and don't think the relationship will work, let it go. At 24, since you are wise with love, you have time on your side to explore and experience all that's out there. Enjoy the time you have with someone but realize it might not be your "forever" meant to be love. 1
Author girlinNYC Posted September 17, 2017 Author Posted September 17, 2017 I agree, there is a reason for everything. I, too, learn life lessons with each relationship. But, sometimes, we won't know that reason until later down the road after the relationship has ended. So, maybe you will not know your life lesson until this particular relationship has passed. If you both are at an impasse, and don't think the relationship will work, let it go. At 24, since you are wise with love, you have time on your side to explore and experience all that's out there. Enjoy the time you have with someone but realize it might not be your "forever" meant to be love. We aren't together (hence why I'm so confused about why he entered my life) We're friends, I obviously like him - first person I've liked in 2 years, but I was genuinely happy before I met him. I had so much relief knowing I wasn't going to bed and waking up thinking of anyone, I prefer that because I know I won't be hurt. But we're at a standstill. I messaged him 2 weeks ago something random following a conversation we had about work, to no reply. He is up and down. If he saw me as only a friend, surely he'd reply and not play hard to get. If he wasn't interested that's fine but why would he flirt in person, besides it doesn't take long to reply to a message, even if it's a short reply and he doesn't want to go in depth. I just don't see any reason why he entered my life given I was so happy on my own, apart from the world playing a sick joke on me. However I'm sure there's a more logical explanation.
HarmonyDriven Posted September 17, 2017 Posted September 17, 2017 Ok, so you are not together and you are wondering why he entered your life when you were so happy on your own/alone. You are reading waaaaaayyyyy too much into this. He is a person who entered your life and you happen to like him. It appears he does not have the same interest. Quite frankly, how are you at a standstill? You two are only friends. Period. You messaged him 2 weeks ago and he has not responded. He must be busy. Other than that, I am confused..... Will defer to others......
Author girlinNYC Posted September 17, 2017 Author Posted September 17, 2017 Ok, so you are not together and you are wondering why he entered your life when you were so happy on your own/alone. You are reading waaaaaayyyyy too much into this. He is a person who entered your life and you happen to like him. It appears he does not have the same interest. Quite frankly, how are you at a standstill? You two are only friends. Period. You messaged him 2 weeks ago and he has not responded. He must be busy. Other than that, I am confused..... Will defer to others...... People enter my life all the time, people I 'like' not so much. The point of my question is to ascertain why the universe/fate/whatever allowed me to cross paths with someone I'd inevitably like. I don't think anyone is too busy to take all of one minute to reply to a message out of courtesy, interested or not.
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