angeleyesgreen Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 (edited) Heres the deal any answers would help a lot I started speaking to guy online we click and I met him on third week of speaking, date went so well he even bought me a small gift an a bag of my fave sweets for our journey went to a small seaside village I got out the he took my hand an then he eld my waist an i held his in to cuddle holding each other while walking we stopped at the sea an bam he kissed me, while going home held my hand while driving an sometimes on my lap he text after first date said he wasn't going anywhere an he likes me most romantic thing a guys done so had date no.2 went well again kissed an cuddled more on this one was starting to have butterfly feelings that night I asked if he still had a good "vibe" with us he didn't text till late (he works late shifts) he said there wasn't a big connection for him - we had a small fight I gave it a week contacted him an we spoke about things he said "I don't know after last week I believed that was it" What did he mean by that? Edited September 16, 2017 by angeleyesgreen
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 Heres the deal any answers would help a lot I started speaking to guy online we click and I met him on third week of speaking, date went so well he even bought me a small gift an a bag of my fave sweets for our journey went to a small seaside village I got out the he took my hand an then he eld my waist an i held his in to cuddle holding each other while walking we stopped at the sea an bam he kissed me, while going home held my hand while driving an sometimes on my lap he text after first date said he wasn't going anywhere an he likes me most romantic thing a guys done so had date no.2 went well again kissed an cuddled more on this one was starting to have butterfly feelings that night I asked if he still had a good "vibe" with us he didn't text till late (he works late shifts) he said there wasn't a big connection for him - we had a small fight I gave it a week contacted him an we spoke about things he said "I don't know after last week I believed that was it" What did he mean by that? All that is a little over the top for a first date, IMO. To me, he was blowtorching. he said there wasn't a big connection for him -- After a small fight after a 2nd date, yeah, I could see that would be the case. "I don't know after last week I believed that was it" -- You two had a fight after only a second date and stopped talking to one another for a whole week! Why wouldn't he think it was over???? we had a small fight -- Seriously? A "small fight" after a second date? What could you possibly fight about? What/who caused it? 1
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 He's done, so you need to move on. Whatever the reason he wasn't feeling it, that doesn't matter. What matters is, he doesn't want to see you anymore. Forget about him and carry on. 2
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 I wouldn't continue dating a person with whom I'd had any kind of disagreement with on or after a second date. And, if they called me after a week following that, I'd be thinking -- desperate and chasing. Not good qualities in a potential dating partner. 2
Gaeta Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 I started speaking to guy online we click and I met him on third week of speaking, date went so well he even bought me a small gift an a bag of my fave sweets for our journey went to a small seaside village I got out the he took my hand an then he eld my waist an i held his in to cuddle holding each other while walking we stopped at the sea an bam he kissed me, while going home held my hand while driving an sometimes on my lap he text after first date said he wasn't going anywhere an he likes me most romantic thing a guys done so had date no.2 went well again kissed an cuddled more on this one was starting to have butterfly feelings that night I asked if he still had a good "vibe" with us he didn't text till late (he works late shifts) he said there wasn't a big connection for him - we had a small fight I gave it a week contacted him an we spoke about things he said "I don't know after last week I believed that was it" What did he mean by that? You should never open your heart to a man just because he gave you candy and kissed you. You knew nothing of him. He could have been playing you, lying to you, having 2-3 dates with other women on same day, name it. You need to keep your guards up! Never beleives what a man says to you till you have spent enough time with him and he's proven you he's trust worthy. You can be nice and smile but keep your guards up. Why in the world would you ask a man after a 2n date if he still feels a good vibe?? That screamsssssss *please love me - please love me* it's not attractive at all. Don't do that again. What was he fight about? You should not have reached him after a week. You only had 2 dates with him, he said he was not feeling it, all you needed to do was hang up and block him and go on with your life and go meet someone else. Don't chase men! If a man does not want to be with you, to take you out on dates, to get to know you, then drop him and don't look back.
Gaeta Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 aer a week following that, I'd be thinking -- desperate and chasing. Not good qualities in a potential dating partner. It's worse than him calling her back, SHE called him.
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 It's worse than him calling her back, SHE called him. I know, that's what I was pointing out. She called him and so he'd be thinking - desperate, chasing . . . 1
act00 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 What does he mean? He means he's not interested. Things didn't work out in person. Texting online has it's benefits, but it's not the real-deal, and you have to meet in person before determining longevity. Date #2 may have happened because date #1 (you) didn't play out quite as planned (for him) after connecting so well online, and he wanted to see if things got better. Something didn't quite work out for him. Sorry (((hug))) I suspect you reached out to ask if he still had the same vibe because you sensed something was off in him...his demeanor, that underlying vibe/chemistry. He gave you an honest response, and you fought over it. You text him a week later and his opinion hasn't changed and now there's drama on board after two dates. A fight on date number two is not a good sign. It's confusing when you get the kissing and affection and you just seem to get along. You think they're interested, and it turns out they're not, and they touch, there's affection, and the kisses...really confusing. So sorry OP. I know that if I'm not interested, I don't extend that level of affection, I just can't, but maybe he was doing so to try to create that bond he had when texting. Or maybe he was thinking, this won't work, but maybe he can get you into bed. No matter what, he sent you signals of love, and it was false, and he led you on, and now you're left picking up the pieces. It's done. You've reached out, it didn't work, time to give it up and find someone else. You had quite the romance, though, for a few short hours. My toes are curling over it. Enjoy the memory and he's a dick.
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 I am really curious about the "small fight" . . . how/why/what?
preraph Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 I'm guessing he did all that to see if you'd sleep with him on the first date and you didn't, so now he's pouting. Forget him and move on. He's not looking for a girlfriend.
The Urbanyst Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 Second date slump. I've experienced this a lot. You meet for the first time with someone and attraction is strong and you seem to hit it off. Then there is a sharp decline on the second date for some reason and either you or they lose interest. I think a big factor is the first date tends to be exciting and scary so people are more focused on making a good impression and less focused on judging the other person. First date is also a lot more light and casual. When the second date comes around, you start to judge the other person more closely and ask deeper questions. This is when things can start to lose steam. I also think an "amazing" first date is bad because it sets the bar too high for the next date lol. 1
Miss Spider Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 He told you the 'click' you felt was one-sided. He did not feel a connection with you. Then you fought with him about it. I don't understand why you would be confused about him saying he thought it was done. It should be done....D:
kendahke Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 Heres the deal any answers would help a lot I started speaking to guy online we click and I met him on third week of speaking, date went so well he even bought me a small gift an a bag of my fave sweets for our journey went to a small seaside village I got out the he took my hand an then he eld my waist an i held his in to cuddle holding each other while walking we stopped at the sea an bam he kissed me, while going home held my hand while driving an sometimes on my lap he text after first date said he wasn't going anywhere an he likes me That was a bit much for a first meeting. most romantic thing a guys done so had date no.2 went well again kissed an cuddled more on this one was starting to have butterfly feelings that night I asked if he still had a good "vibe" with us he didn't text till late I take it you said this to him in person, so what was his answer in person? he said there wasn't a big connection for him - we had a small fight Bad form. A fight about what? Because he told you he didn't have a connection with you? What else happened on date #2? I gave it a week contacted him an we spoke about things he said "I don't know after last week I believed that was it" What did he mean by that? It means that fight you engaged in sunk this boat.
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