letmein Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 So I've been getting drinks with this girl every week or so. We're always flirty and touchy. This last time we went out, she said to me she's been hooking up with one of her exes. And they're in that weird stage of not being an actual couple, but just being casual. She knows how I feel about her so I said it's probably not a good idea to hang out anymore. She didn't like this, because apparently I'm one of the only people she hangs out with. I asked her if he was okay with her hanging out with me knowing I have feelings for her. She said he was, and he even suggested a three-way. Still I said I don't want to interfere with what she had going with this guy. Then she called me nice and said "other guys would probably fight to get her". Then she said if I had made moves on her earlier when we first started hanging out, "I probably would've won". Then a few minutes later, she suggests hooking up in the bar bathroom. At the end of the night, we end up cuddling and I make a comment that she has hairy armpits. She said it's because "I don't care about anyone/have no reason to shave them". She keeps telling me how good of a cuddler I am. So in the end, she got too drunk so I drove her home. We make-out a bit for the first time. She hugs me for a really long time, and we go our separate ways. She acknowledged she was too drunk to do anything more. I really don't like the idea of her pitting me against another guy. And that "I would've won" comment didn't sit well with me at all. I don't know if she just brought up this guy to force me to make a move on her. I'm not quite sure what I should do at this point. TL;DR - Girl says she's hooking up with co-worker. Still she wants to get physical with me. Not sure why she's bringing up this guy
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 Put your feelings aside and enjoy getting some. Obviously she has proven to you she isn't GF material. You can't make her be a person of moral standing. This is how she is. Doesn't matter if you get with her in the beginning...she still would be slammin with the coworker.
Redhead14 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 So I've been getting drinks with this girl every week or so. We're always flirty and touchy. This last time we went out, she said to me she's been hooking up with one of her exes. And they're in that weird stage of not being an actual couple, but just being casual. She knows how I feel about her so I said it's probably not a good idea to hang out anymore. She didn't like this, because apparently I'm one of the only people she hangs out with. I asked her if he was okay with her hanging out with me knowing I have feelings for her. She said he was, and he even suggested a three-way. Still I said I don't want to interfere with what she had going with this guy. Then she called me nice and said "other guys would probably fight to get her". Then she said if I had made moves on her earlier when we first started hanging out, "I probably would've won". Then a few minutes later, she suggests hooking up in the bar bathroom. At the end of the night, we end up cuddling and I make a comment that she has hairy armpits. She said it's because "I don't care about anyone/have no reason to shave them". She keeps telling me how good of a cuddler I am. So in the end, she got too drunk so I drove her home. We make-out a bit for the first time. She hugs me for a really long time, and we go our separate ways. She acknowledged she was too drunk to do anything more. I really don't like the idea of her pitting me against another guy. And that "I would've won" comment didn't sit well with me at all. I don't know if she just brought up this guy to force me to make a move on her. I'm not quite sure what I should do at this point. TL;DR - Girl says she's hooking up with co-worker. Still she wants to get physical with me. Not sure why she's bringing up this guy she said to me she's been hooking up with one of her exes she suggests hooking up in the bar bathroom. She sounds charming. She likes hooking up a lot. "I probably would've won". - Yeah, but what would you have won???? Sounds like the booby prize to me. She's an attention-wh*re and a user. Find yourself a quality woman with boundaries and real goals for a relationship. She's a strumpet . . . and you're setting yourself up to be a doormat. Pick up the mat and close the door. 2
Author letmein Posted September 16, 2017 Author Posted September 16, 2017 (edited) I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought that her saying "You probably would've won" was off. I'd never have the ego to say that to someone. I honestly just wanted to walk out when she said that. Edited September 16, 2017 by letmein 1
preraph Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 Guessing she's in her 20s? She is just playing and not looking for any type of conventional relationship. 1
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 OP you need to look at the overall picture here.....she is not what you are looking for so why entertain the idea of investing in her.
ontheway Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 So I've been getting drinks with this girl every week or so. We're always flirty and touchy. This last time we went out, she said to me she's been hooking up with one of her exes. And they're in that weird stage of not being an actual couple, but just being casual. She knows how I feel about her so I said it's probably not a good idea to hang out anymore. She didn't like this, because apparently I'm one of the only people she hangs out with. I asked her if he was okay with her hanging out with me knowing I have feelings for her. She said he was, and he even suggested a three-way. Still I said I don't want to interfere with what she had going with this guy. Then she called me nice and said "other guys would probably fight to get her". Then she said if I had made moves on her earlier when we first started hanging out, "I probably would've won". Then a few minutes later, she suggests hooking up in the bar bathroom. At the end of the night, we end up cuddling and I make a comment that she has hairy armpits. She said it's because "I don't care about anyone/have no reason to shave them". She keeps telling me how good of a cuddler I am. So in the end, she got too drunk so I drove her home. We make-out a bit for the first time. She hugs me for a really long time, and we go our separate ways. She acknowledged she was too drunk to do anything more. I really don't like the idea of her pitting me against another guy. And that "I would've won" comment didn't sit well with me at all. I don't know if she just brought up this guy to force me to make a move on her. I'm not quite sure what I should do at this point. TL;DR - Girl says she's hooking up with co-worker. Still she wants to get physical with me. Not sure why she's bringing up this guy Take my advice man. Run. Run like Forrest Gump. I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a woman like this. She will suck you in, chew you up, and spit you out like yesterdays newspaper and you'll be sitting there wondering what you did wrong. If all you want is sex, then hook up with her, but that never ends well. The second you catch feelings, you're done and will be left with heartache. The fact that she's already throwing other men in your face is a way to get you attached and be her ego filler to make you think you need to be the better man and please her. Honestly, man. Delete her number and find someone else ASAP if you're looking for a relationship. That crazy girl who has you wrapped around her finger will use you and fck with your head, then you'll start chasing her feeding her narcissistic ego. I wish I had someone telling me this 2 years ago. 2
Miss Spider Posted September 16, 2017 Posted September 16, 2017 (edited) Sleep with her then bounce... she's a thot....Don't get emotionally involved with someone like this ...it will be d.r.a.m.a Edited September 16, 2017 by Cookiesandough
Stephie37 Posted September 17, 2017 Posted September 17, 2017 Sorry to say but the girl you're interested in has no desire to be in a long term relationship with anyone. Stop wasting your time. She sounds very young and into hooking up. You are not the type or you would have hooked up with her by now. Save your dignity and self respect, and walk away, at least you'd be STD FREE. There are better girls to spend your time with.
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