xxjustinukxx Posted September 15, 2017 Posted September 15, 2017 Hello everyone. After a month of reconnecting with my ex, I'm finding things with her unravelling again. Here is a previous post about us that will give you some history.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=5663744 So, about a month ago I started getting texts from my ex, she was feeling lonely and upset and was thinking about me and so I went over in the early hours to chat. We ended up kissing, cuddling and agreeing to date again and try and do it right this time. For the first two weeks it was fantastic, I cooked dinner for her a few times, we met up and chatted, just the two of us and we started planning a weekend together (this weekend) Last week I went to my first slimming world meeting and agreed to take my son to get healthy and set a good example. I had told my ex (as she goes too) and after a while she was ok with it as she was worried about meeting my son again. Though I had only mentioned her casually to him as things are still early on. When I went to pick him up that evening his brother and sister asked to come. So I agreed to this as a one off, and told my ex so she wasn't feeling overwhelmed it like it was some sly attempt to introduce her again which of course it wasn't. She was really pissed off and said She felt unprepared for the onslaught and that I hadn't taken her feelings into account. The following weekend it was my best friends wedding and I was best man. I said to my ex I'd text as much as I could and video call in the evening. I messaged to offer the video call but she was watching a movie with her son. She texted an hour later saying she was ready but I was already on my way home after a long day. She said my plans were ambitious and I wasbt sticking to what is said. Fast forward to this Wednesday just gone and it was the anniversary of her fathers passing and although things have been strained, I got in touch to let her know I was thinking of her and later got this mesage.. "Because you have no clue how to deal with your own emotions let alone someone else's, because you txt you never call you don't offer any support apart from a few lame texts and if it was your dads anniversary I wouldn't be whinging on bout my problems. I wouldn't call this a bump the one day you could have been a man and shown me how supportive you could have been you have ran and hid like a scared 5 year old, I need a leader someone to be strong and supportive, someone who calls me and doesn't back off when things get rough no matter what." I'm confused frustrated and hurt. We are meant to be together this weekend but she's now ignoring my messages. What shall I do? Id really appreciate any advice.
Mike B. Posted September 15, 2017 Posted September 15, 2017 I won't go into much detail here but you had no business getting this relationship started up again.
doyathinkso Posted September 15, 2017 Posted September 15, 2017 What should you do? "Run Forrest, run!!!!!!" Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
lurker74 Posted September 15, 2017 Posted September 15, 2017 I exited a similar relationship recently. It's tough when you still have strong feelings for the person but you know it isn't right. And she isn't right. Not only is she emotionally unstable and not able to subordinate her emotions to the situation, but you two are stuck in a rut where you will automatically fall back into your patterns. To have a chance, you need to break the pattern but you are both unlikely to be capable of it. I am sorry, but it's probably over. Maybe if you two took a break from one another for an extended period of time, you could recognize what is missing and choose each other, but it sounds like you might have done that and failed already. The good news is that you both have a chance to be happy. The bad news is that it's likely not with each other.
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