CoolJoe Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Been dating this girl for 2 months now. This past weekend we were together when I asked how her friend's wedding went. She said "I got asked out by this guy but I told him I already have a boyfriend." I blinked like "Wait, we are boyfriend girlfriend?" She goes, "Yeah?" I go "I believe I should ask you first?" We both laughed, then I casually asked her and then she said yes. I thought it was cute and wanted to post a positive story here since I see a lot of topics that are not so positive. Oh and yes, we met online too. OLD can (and does) work (sometimes). But remember, all you need is for it to work one (right) time. 15
LovelyRose Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Been dating this girl for 2 months now. This past weekend we were together when I asked how her friend's wedding went. She said "I got asked out by this guy but I told him I already have a boyfriend." I blinked like "Wait, we are boyfriend girlfriend?" She goes, "Yeah?" I go "I believe I should ask you first?" We both laughed, then I casually asked her and then she said yes. I thought it was cute and wanted to post a positive story here since I see a lot of topics that are not so positive. Oh and yes, we met online too. OLD can (and does) work (sometimes). But remember, all you need is for it to work one (right) time. Cute Wanna know how we became official? Well it was very casual, lol. I was being emotional one day and venting to him how it gets frustrating that he is not expressive. Per usual he just lets me talk and pour my heart out. Somewhere along the way I brought up the "label" discussion that we had in the past on how it was his fault because he confused me, thinking he wanted to make me his official gf. Anyway, that incident is too long to share. It's on my thread, lol. So while I was still talking he asked for me to pause. He then said, "just to let you know, when I talk about you, I refer to you as my gf." I said, "oh well I didn't know that." He goes, "yup!" So that was it. Actually prior to that I've been noticing he refers to us as bf/gf but I kept ignoring it. I didn't want to misunderstood him again but too chicken to confirm with him. So happy that we finally cleared it 1
Mkn1010 Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Been dating this girl for 2 months now. This past weekend we were together when I asked how her friend's wedding went. She said "I got asked out by this guy but I told him I already have a boyfriend." I blinked like "Wait, we are boyfriend girlfriend?" She goes, "Yeah?" I go "I believe I should ask you first?" We both laughed, then I casually asked her and then she said yes. I thought it was cute and wanted to post a positive story here since I see a lot of topics that are not so positive. Oh and yes, we met online too. OLD can (and does) work (sometimes). But remember, all you need is for it to work one (right) time. Soooo cute! Thanks for posting
fred123 Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Been dating this girl for 2 months now. This past weekend we were together when I asked how her friend's wedding went. She said "I got asked out by this guy but I told him I already have a boyfriend." I blinked like "Wait, we are boyfriend girlfriend?" She goes, "Yeah?" I go "I believe I should ask you first?" We both laughed, then I casually asked her and then she said yes. I thought it was cute and wanted to post a positive story here since I see a lot of topics that are not so positive. Oh and yes, we met online too. OLD can (and does) work (sometimes). But remember, all you need is for it to work one (right) time. Question is why werent you invited to her friends wedding then 1
coolheadal Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Been dating this girl for 2 months now. This past weekend we were together when I asked how her friend's wedding went. She said "I got asked out by this guy but I told him I already have a boyfriend." I blinked like "Wait, we are boyfriend girlfriend?" She goes, "Yeah?" I go "I believe I should ask you first?" We both laughed, then I casually asked her and then she said yes. I thought it was cute and wanted to post a positive story here since I see a lot of topics that are not so positive. Oh and yes, we met online too. OLD can (and does) work (sometimes). But remember, all you need is for it to work one (right) time. Good you have a keeper there she's loyal and she tells you things. No secrets with her that's the best one to have. Good luck with her... 1
Author CoolJoe Posted September 10, 2017 Author Posted September 10, 2017 Question is why werent you invited to her friends wedding then Let's see... 1. We only been dating two months 2. We only been exclusively dating three weeks 3. Probably too late to add a +1 4. Probably too soon to meet her friends. The timing wasn't the best I don't question or blame her at all. If I were her I would have done the same. I have a wedding in January and invited her. She accepted. All is good. 1
Author CoolJoe Posted September 10, 2017 Author Posted September 10, 2017 Good you have a keeper there she's loyal and she tells you things. No secrets with her that's the best one to have. Good luck with her... Agreed! I am actually her first boyfriend so I appreciate little things like her not being jaded from previous ex's lol 1
fred123 Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Let's see... 1. We only been dating two months 2. We only been exclusively dating three weeks 3. Probably too late to add a +1 4. Probably too soon to meet her friends. The timing wasn't the best I don't question or blame her at all. If I were her I would have done the same. I have a wedding in January and invited her. She accepted. All is good. You invited her to a wedding in jan?! Thats quite far away and u barely know her. She didnt freak out?! Are u allowed to do that?
GemmaUK Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Sweet story OP! I like it! You invited her to a wedding in jan?! Thats quite far away and u barely know her. She didnt freak out?! Are u allowed to do that? Why would she freak out? If the OP has a plus one invite he can take her, so yep, it's allowed.
LovelyRose Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 You invited her to a wedding in jan?! Thats quite far away and u barely know her. She didnt freak out?! Are u allowed to do that? They are now official bf/gf and weddings usually have +1 unless the bride and groom is on a really tight budget and distinctively say no +1. I would flip out if my bf takes someone else or not even consider taking me. He better have a good explanation for not taking me at that point. The wedding is in January and it's not about the time you've been together (for the most part) but how comfortable you are now with each other. Besides he asked to attend a wedding together NOT to marry each other, lol.
Author CoolJoe Posted September 11, 2017 Author Posted September 11, 2017 You invited her to a wedding in jan?! Thats quite far away and u barely know her. She didnt freak out?! Are u allowed to do that? It's 3 months away (a little less now, being that the wedding is in early January). I see nothing wrong with inviting her. We just became official a week ago, and I'm pretty confident we'll still be together 3 months from now. Plus, my friends did save me that "+1." Also, yeah, it's about how comfortable you are with someone. I believe in open communication and spending time together. I'm not asking her to marry me or even to meet my family next week, lol. I really don't see why you think this is such a big deal, Fred. Shrug. Thanks everyone for your kind words!
fred123 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 It's 3 months away (a little less now, being that the wedding is in early January). I see nothing wrong with inviting her. We just became official a week ago, and I'm pretty confident we'll still be together 3 months from now. Plus, my friends did save me that "+1." Also, yeah, it's about how comfortable you are with someone. I believe in open communication and spending time together. I'm not asking her to marry me or even to meet my family next week, lol. I really don't see why you think this is such a big deal, Fred. Shrug. Thanks everyone for your kind words! Im.sorry but i would never do that. It comes across needy and pushy and scares the girl away esp only being one week official. And i understand if the wedding is in a few weeks away but 3 months away! Making plans 3 months in advance feels like ur trying to lock her down or something. You should do it more relaxed and chilled like " hey next saturday i have a wedding and i have a plus one if you are free and want to come with me?"
GemmaUK Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Im.sorry but i would never do that. It comes across needy and pushy and scares the girl away esp only being one week official. And i understand if the wedding is in a few weeks away but 3 months away! Making plans 3 months in advance feels like ur trying to lock her down or something. You should do it more relaxed and chilled like " hey next saturday i have a wedding and i have a plus one if you are free and want to come with me?" It doesn't come across needy or pushy at all. Two months dating, a week official. The wedding is a while away and enough time for her to get an outfit sorted, book to get hair and nails done if she wants to plus time to meet several of the people who will be there. Also, she's got time to book time off work if needed. OP is being considerate of her time - it's all good If a guy said to me 'next Saturday I'm going to my best friend's wedding, wanna come?' after dating for 6 months dating I'd be wondering why he hadn't given me any advance notice and at that late notice it's possible I would have to decline.
fred123 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 It doesn't come across needy or pushy at all. Two months dating, a week official. The wedding is a while away and enough time for her to get an outfit sorted, book to get hair and nails done if she wants to plus time to meet several of the people who will be there. Also, she's got time to book time off work if needed. OP is being considerate of her time - it's all good If a guy said to me 'next Saturday I'm going to my best friend's wedding, wanna come?' after dating for 6 months dating I'd be wondering why he hadn't given me any advance notice and at that late notice it's possible I would have to decline. Who said 6 months?
GemmaUK Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Who said 6 months? Er, they'll have been together 6 months by the time the wedding in January comes around...
fred123 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Er, they'll have been together 6 months by the time the wedding in January comes around... Ah ok yes! So can i ask then. If they werent official and still dating can OP still be allowed to ask? Or do you only ask when she is your gf?
GemmaUK Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Ah ok yes! So can i ask then. If they werent official and still dating can OP still be allowed to ask? Or do you only ask when she is your gf? I would find it too much if I'd only been on a very few dates and hadn't had much chance to get to know the guy. Example: For her to have asked him to this recent wedding would have been a bit presumptuous as there'd be a lot of people she knew to intro him to when at that stage they themselves are only just very new together. It'd be unnecessary pressure too soon.
CloudyHead Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 I think that is awesome and I'm very happy for you! It is nice to read good stories on here.
LovelyRose Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Im.sorry but i would never do that. It comes across needy and pushy and scares the girl away esp only being one week official. And i understand if the wedding is in a few weeks away but 3 months away! Making plans 3 months in advance feels like ur trying to lock her down or something. You should do it more relaxed and chilled like " hey next saturday i have a wedding and i have a plus one if you are free and want to come with me?" Now I kind of see where you're coming from. Again, it all depends on how comfortable they are with each other. Being that his gf was the one who indirectly made them official by referring to him as her bf, I believe it was safe for him to do the invite. Plus haven't you rsvp'd to a wedding before? They normally require you to RSVP months or weeks before the wedding day. So for example I have to RSVP to a wedding invite this week and I am not official with my guy, I will at least either ask him how he feels about going with me OR inform him that I am attending a wedding alone in few months since I am not sure where we stand yet. In this case, they are official and comfortable with each other. So off they go to the wedding together. Seriously though? Is everything nowadays scary and could be translated to being pushy and needy? Whatever happens to just communicating with each other?
LovelyRose Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 I would find it too much if I'd only been on a very few dates and hadn't had much chance to get to know the guy. Example: For her to have asked him to this recent wedding would have been a bit presumptuous as there'd be a lot of people she knew to intro him to when at that stage they themselves are only just very new together. It'd be unnecessary pressure too soon. For me it's ok to ask. That wouldn't scare me. It shows he likes me a lot to consider taking me at this early stage. He is only asking which leaves the decision to me if I would go or not. Now, if he says, "hey you're going with me to the wedding." Then I will be like, " umm no I'm not." Hahaha... I don't get scared easily. I'm really all about the saying " it's not what you said but how you said it"
fred123 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 For me it's ok to ask. That wouldn't scare me. It shows he likes me a lot to consider taking me at this early stage. He is only asking which leaves the decision to me if I would go or not. Now, if he says, "hey you're going with me to the wedding." Then I will be like, " umm no I'm not." Hahaha... I don't get scared easily. I'm really all about the saying " it's not what you said but how you said it" Depends if you like him enough or not?
LovelyRose Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Depends if you like him enough or not? Sorry I'm not following the question. I'm one of the extremes though. I'm either too high or too low usually. So I either like you a lot or I just don't, which means I wouldn't be dating you, lol. Btw, sorry OP to have gone way off topic. But happy for you guys going on the wedding together. It should be fun. I'm actually going to a family's wedding this December on my bf's exact birthday. We'll be dating 9 months by then but he's not going with me. Because until now my family don't know we are dating and I need to RSVP already. I'm really bummed but he understands.
GemmaUK Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 For me it's ok to ask. That wouldn't scare me. It shows he likes me a lot to consider taking me at this early stage. He is only asking which leaves the decision to me if I would go or not. Now, if he says, "hey you're going with me to the wedding." Then I will be like, " umm no I'm not." Hahaha... I don't get scared easily. I'm really all about the saying " it's not what you said but how you said it" Lol! I didn't say it was scary! Not sure where you got that from!!
LovelyRose Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Lol! I didn't say it was scary! Not sure where you got that from!! Sorry for the confusion but I was referring to Fred123's statement on scaring a girl.
fred123 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Sorry I'm not following the question. I'm one of the extremes though. I'm either too high or too low usually. So I either like you a lot or I just don't, which means I wouldn't be dating you, lol. Btw, sorry OP to have gone way off topic. But happy for you guys going on the wedding together. It should be fun. I'm actually going to a family's wedding this December on my bf's exact birthday. We'll be dating 9 months by then but he's not going with me. Because until now my family don't know we are dating and I need to RSVP already. I'm really bummed but he understands. Your parents didnt know for 6 months you were dating him? Did your friensd know? Sorry op for going off topic. Happy for u. Just a bit bitter lol
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