NightsEcho Posted August 13, 2005 Posted August 13, 2005 Many of you on here are very wise people, I have been through so much since the breakup with my ex 5 months ago. I have felt up and down, dated, improved myself....even met a girl who helped me forget about her. (Unfortunately 2000 miles away) Why is it when we feel we are getting back on top, we get knocked back down? If you need my history please read "Urgent Advice needed" about 1 page into breakup forum. Anyway, I felt so good, like I was getting over this girl completely. Now I knew I faced a problem when I got home. It was her B-day. I had to decide to acknowlege it or not. Well she actually called my friend and roomate inviting her to her birthday...no call like that for me. She also called him while I was on vacation so she could get directions to "our" groups hidden little camping spot. (Can't her new b/f take her somewhere cool?) Both times my roomate was cold and short with her, and told me about both conversations immediately. Anyway, unlike many, i decided I would not call her or acknowlege her B-day in anyway. Hey she couldn't even call me right? Probably was the final nail in our coffin......actually no, this one has been buried for a long time. My question is why after 5 1/2 months, has she come back into my head. I feel like the only kid in the class that didn't get invited to the cool kids party...lol. Now I am thinking about her and she does not deserve it.....any advice for me? I thought I was through the worst part NE
RecordProducer Posted August 13, 2005 Posted August 13, 2005 Welcome to the club, dude! You love, you suffer, you get over... Time cures broken hearts. We've all been there and we might be there again. Look at it from this point of view: at least you loved. You could've been alone and forgotten by the whole world. That's probably how you feel right now. But you're almost there. Every day you approach the point where you will forget about her more and more. It's tough but that's what makes life; pain, love, forgiveness... You will love again and be hurt again... and again and again. Look forward to it, don't live in despair. It's always hard to lose the partner you've loved, whether you're a 55-year old housewife or a 22-year old boy who had so much hopes for love. We all have reasons that make it terrible. But one day you just wake up and realize that it wasn't so terrible, that it was necessary and made us move on with our lives, go further and achieve more important goals. When my ex-husband left me I thought it was the end of the world. Now I think it was the second best thing that ever happened to me. It's good when things end up on time and we have the chance to be cured while we're still young and find true love elsewhere. Be happy! Everything is good. You suffer a little, but it's all human. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger!
SimoneHollywood Posted August 14, 2005 Posted August 14, 2005 I know how tough it can be and sometimes it does happen that you think it's all better and suddenly there you go again. I agree with previous post ... you'll feel better with time. You just have to hang on for the ride a little while longer. I've been there too. Simone
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