Venn Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 (edited) I met this girl online and we live in the same city. We just chatted for a bit, asked for her Facebook and then after a month or two of just chatting, things kinda ended from there. It's been 8 months since I haven't talked to her.. well actually I do talk to her but just asked how she's doing, hows her career and just nothing more.. etc. later, I came to know she had relationship (The relationship she had was long distance basically a country away from her) that she didn't post into Facebook and just recently ended around August 2nd week. A week after her breakup (august 3rd week) she suddenly chats me and told me she had a crush on me. It kind of surprised me and after a 2 days of chatting and flirting we decided to meet in person finally in 8 months. She introduced me to her friends at work and was kinda shy because I'm always that dorky looking guy who's bad at talking. Then later on, she would call to me all of a sudden and even do video calls late at night At the first week she's so eager to make me meet her family, her friends at church and at work. Well because she did say I was her crush ever since we chatted online. But one time when we had a video call and as usual I gave her my boring type of talking and she as well also looked bored at our convo. All of a sudden her attitude towards me kind of gone 180 degrees. She don't call anymore, all of our convos always starts with me, well sometimes (very seldomly) she texts me how Im doing or just says hi and hello but thats just it... I think she kind of seen how dorky and boring I was that she may have gone disinterested with me. I'm the opposite of her actually, she is this sporty, religious, sociable and a girl looking for challenge. While me Im that guy whose bad at sports, is religious but not so, only have a select few friends and is always afraid to try new things. Of course some parts of me she doesn't know yet but Im feeling that if she knew the real me, she might get disinterested... what do you guys think? Edited September 13, 2017 by Venn
BaileyB Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 I think she's really flaky. Her communication is inconsistent and she is jumping from relationship to relationship... I don't think that it has anything to do with you. I question her suitability as a reliable, stable, long term partner. I wouldn't get too stuck on this one... It doesn't seem like she's really interested or going to stick around for long...
coolheadal Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 I met this girl online and we live in the same city. We just chatted for a bit, asked for her Facebook and then after a month or two of just chatting, things kinda ended from there. It's been 8 months since I haven't talked to her.. well actually I do talk to her but just asked how she's doing, hows her career and just nothing more.. etc. later, I came to know she had relationship (The relationship she had was long distance basically a country away from her) that she didn't post into Facebook and just recently ended around August 2nd week. A week after her breakup (august 3rd week) she suddenly chats me and told me she had a crush on me. It kind of surprised me and after a 2 days of chatting and flirting we decided to meet in person finally in 8 months. She introduced me to her friends at work and was kinda shy because I'm always that dorky looking guy who's bad at talking. Then later on, she would call to me all of a sudden and even do video calls late at night At the first week she's so eager to make me meet her family, her friends at church and at work. Well because she did say I was her crush ever since we chatted online. But one time when we had a video call and as usual I gave her my boring type of talking and she as well also looked bored at our convo. All of a sudden her attitude towards me kind of gone 180 degrees. She don't call anymore, all of our convos always starts with me, well sometimes (very seldomly) she texts me how Im doing or just says hi and hello but thats just it... I think she kind of seen how dorky and boring I was that she may have gone disinterested with me. I'm the opposite of her actually, she is this sporty, religious, sociable and a girl looking for challenge. While me Im that guy whose bad at sports, is religious but not so, only have a select few friends and is always afraid to try new things. Of course some parts of me she doesn't know yet but Im feeling that if she knew the real me, she might get disinterested... what do you guys think? She lost interest in you when they don't call anymore, your being ghosted (forgotten) It happens just forget her. She's not ready for anything serious with you or any other guy.
Author Venn Posted September 13, 2017 Author Posted September 13, 2017 I think she's really flaky. Her communication is inconsistent and she is jumping from relationship to relationship... I don't think that it has anything to do with you. I question her suitability as a reliable, stable, long term partner. I wouldn't get too stuck on this one... It doesn't seem like she's really interested or going to stick around for long... Actually... I forgot to mention... that was her very first relationship.. she is 21 now by the way. She disciplined herself way back in highschool and college that she wouldn't be having any relationships yet and concentrated on her studies.
Author Venn Posted September 13, 2017 Author Posted September 13, 2017 (edited) She lost interest in you when they don't call anymore, your being ghosted (forgotten) It happens just forget her. She's not ready for anything serious with you or any other guy. well if thats the case, can I just ask her if she lost interest with me? I'm kinda tired of wondering if what she feels with me is real or not. Edited September 13, 2017 by Venn
kendahke Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 well if thats the case, can I just ask her if she lost interest with me? I'm kinda tired of wondering if what she feels with me is real or not. That looks a bit too needy. She lost interest. The whys don't matter because you're not going to be dating a clone of her in the future. In the future, don't wait 8 months to meet someone. One week at the most, especially if they live in the same city as you. It gives each of you way too much time to build an artificial construct of whom who you think the other person is and not who they actually are. Who you actually are won't live up to the ideal they've spent more than half a year building in their head.
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