pixel_hungry Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 Here I am again posting. I met a guy on Tinder, we met up for a drink and chatted. He kissed me in the end and said he wants to hang out again. Next day he reached out and asked if I can join him for a Nerd Night event. I had to reschedule because a networking thing came up, but he was cool. Since I was the one changing the plan, I've suggested we go and the the improv show that I usually go to. We met up 30min before the show, chatted, had a few silent moments when the conversation died out, but I feel like that normal for the first few dates and the show was about to start anyways. After the show, he asked me when my car was. I was hoping he asks to grab a drink. We walked to his bike first. Then he pulled me closer and we kissed. There was a bit of a weird back and worth first, he nervously checked what time it was, it was 9, so it wasn't late, asked me if I had to get up early. I joked that he was the one employed (my contract just ended, so I'm looking for new things) and has to wake up early. I couldn't tell if he was trying to invite me over, wanted to hang out, or just end the date. We walked to my car. Talked about the city and places to see (he just moved). He kissed me again in the end, and I left. I felt a bit unsettled because we didn't really get to talk (improv wasn't the best date choice probably) and he didn't ask to grab a drink after. But then he texted me checking if I got home safe, so I decided that he didn't think it was that bad. In the morning, I send him a funny meme that was related to something that we talked about and said "I saw this on my feed. It made me think of our conversation last night." I thought it was cute and wasn't too much on my part. And nothing... crickets for the entire day. That left me puzzled. If he really didn't enjoy the date, why did he reach out to check if I got home safe? Out of politeness?
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 If he really didn't enjoy the date, why did he reach out to check if I got home safe? Out of politeness? Yes. He could have had a good time, but that doesn't mean you rocked his world, unfortunately. He could be dating someone else and simply decided that you are not what he is looking for after all.
NexttP Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 Politeness is a possibility. Other thoughts to consider... 1, he invited you first to an event. 2, he went with your suggestion. 3, he kissed you a few times (would have stopped at 1 or even 0 if he didn't like you).
Author pixel_hungry Posted September 13, 2017 Author Posted September 13, 2017 Politeness is a possibility. Other thoughts to consider... 1, he invited you first to an event. 2, he went with your suggestion. 3, he kissed you a few times (would have stopped at 1 or even 0 if he didn't like you). I did think about that, but it just made me more confused why he isn't responding? I told him I had a great time when he checked in. I've definitely tried to make it clear that I'm interested without being overly eager.
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