Sprince92 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 SO I got back with my ex boyfriend who I had NC with for about 2 weeks. Things were okay, he wanted to gt married but I had alot of thinking to do after everything I went through with him. Long story short, in the past when we have had bad fights he tells me to give his gifts to me back. and if not then to pay him for them or he will leak personal pictures or videos. (he bought me an engament ring but is holding on to it until I am ready and tells me to pay him back for that aslo even tho i never asked him to buy me anything) Yesterday we fought again cause he doesnt like my brother or any of my family actually and he told me to give him all the stuff back again. I dont care for material things but it just hurts cause he tells me I dont deserve it. I think these are the reasons why I am hesitant on marrying him... it has made me resent him because I cant believe how mean someone can be to someone they want to marry. In my opinion, when you love someone you just want them to be happy regardless of the situation and you wouldnt tell them they dont deserve something....am i wrong? do guys actually ask for there things back? I have not asked for my gifts to him back...i dont think i ever could and i dont think he ever would give them back.
dumbass2 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 (edited) I've never asked for any gifts back I gave an ex. I read your other thread. This guy is controlling and not the nice guy from when you first met. This guy has some serious issues and you need to gather the strength to leave him for good. He's not going to change and you will be miserable with him. Serious question, do you like to be controlled and treated as an inferior? Some people do. Nothing is going to change of you were too marry him. Maybe get even worse. Edited September 12, 2017 by dumbass2
stillafool Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 I would gladly give his gifts back and definitely would never accept another.
Zahara Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 or he will leak personal pictures or videos. I think the material stuff/gifts are the least of your problems. Why do you chose to be with a man who treats you so poorly? 1
Blanco Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Don't get married. Don't be with this man. Nothing has changed. This guy has literally blackmailed you and you're still with him!
d0nnivain Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 This guy does not have a generous spirit. Once given gifts belong to the recipient. Yes, if presented with something like a family heirloom ring, it's polite to give that back but otherwise the gift belongs to the recipient. He doesn't understand that. He is one of those who knows the price of everything & the value of nothing. You say he doesn't like your family. Does he understand that marriage is a package deal? They become his family too. You were smart enough to get off this emotional roller coaster once. You can do it again.
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