coolheadal Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 I've been out with all types but again it's up to you to choose. Love or size? Interest or size. What matters love or size? Love first then size or no size at all.
shellybing Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Looks don't matter at all. I am not over weight. I look great when I try. I am just not looking or open to what men want. You could be the most beautiful women in the world and still not be what a certain man is looking for. Men seem to like bigger women these days anyway. 2
K.K. Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 OP isn't much of a friend to the larger girl. I'd never hold an actual friend in such disgust and disdain. It's kind of sad, actually. Seems to me she was just pondering an answer to this phenomenon. Not disgust or disdain. It's not like she's saying it to the girls. She's saying it to a message board full of anonymous people. I've often wondered about the fat girl lovin too. I just don't get it. (But that's only my opinion, mind you- I'm allowed to have one) I've seen larger girls with beautiful faces, I have. But I never actually saw a super huge woman with blubber hanging all over being with what I would call a good looking 10 of a man. I just figured they took what they could get. Around here, the types of guys with those girls are usually toothless hillbillies or crackheads. I mean what is the attraction? Is it the boobs hanging all down the sides of her body or the ass that looks like two pit bulls playing under a blanket? Yea I'm going to hay-ell in a hand basket. But I was probably headed there anyway.
Bastile Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 I mean what is the attraction? Is it the boobs hanging all down the sides of her body or the ass that looks like two pit bulls playing under a blanket? Ease of access, and the fact that she won't challenge him properly as a man. It's a weak way out of going after what you really want. I'll be straight with you as a guy, and you won't find that often. I had sex with an overweight woman earlier this year. She passed through my filter by great trickery, and had great girl game. The sex was god awful. Though she tried... The number one element in great sex is male desire. The woman being explained is most likely a dominant type (broken woman) who is getting jollies from sexual validation. Naturally no healthy woman validates herself through a notch count. Don't think that guys don't pick up on this instinctually. There's a reason she's getting male interest from people outside of her league, but no one wants to wife her up. Pretty basic stuff for anyone that has ever lived a little. And I'm surprised that it needs pointing out.
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Looks don't matter at all. I am not over weight. I look great when I try. I am just not looking or open to what men want. You could be the most beautiful women in the world and still not be what a certain man is looking for. Men seem to like bigger women these days anyway. Nope I have to disagree on that, I do not want a large woman since I am not a large man! 1
act00 Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 There are any million things that could be going on. The men you are encountering like big women. She exudes a personality that is far more outgoing and friendly than your less-plump friend. The fat friend is not reserved...reserved can come across as uninterested or judgmental, so maybe your not-as-heavy friend could work on that. Does your heavy friend want a relationship or is she happy with romps in the bedroom and does not want anything serious? I think sometimes men think a fat woman is desperate. It's clear your big friend gets all the sex she wants, so that's not an issue for her. Sex isn't all that hard to get. If she wants something serious, however, she may get "all the guys" and may be getting laid, but she's not necessarily going to get someone who sticks, long term. You seem to imply her as totally not taking care of herself. I imagine she does take care of herself, she just doesn't have thick locks or the means to correct her teeth. She has compensated in other ways that has proven her to be successful socially. If she's slovenly, and these men never stick around, does your less-plump friend really want those men? There's that other post where the two attractive women were standing alone with each other at a party while all the "ugly people" mingled and were having a blast...why weren't they mingling as well? Are these less attractive people beneath them? These beautiful women don't go to happy hours after work...why? Do they behave snobbish and better than everyone, with their perfect looks? Are they reserved? Do they expect people to approach them and, therefore, put in little effort to socialize and just have fun or put forth any effort? Are they rather shallow? If their behavior at work is less than friendly and open, who wants to bring them along, and why do the "ugly people" have to put so much effort to invite and include them? Believe it or not, there are men who just like big women, and I've had some tell me that they don't like all the bones poking out with little women or feel like they will break them. They like fleshy women. Looks may be the first to attract, but the personality jumps in and creates direction. Your less plump friend seems like she behaves in an uninterested manner, while your bigger friend is engaging and enjoyable to be around. Your less plump friend may be very judgmental, and you, OP, are coming across as judgmental, and that makes you both unapproachable and not fun to be around. Maybe this bigger friend is a bit too friendly, but unless she's lamenting that she only meets losers and one-night-stands, she's getting exactly what she wants, and she's enjoying the hell out of it. 1
grays Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 If models are made for modeling Thick girls are made for cuddlin' -- Andre Benjamin 1
RecentChange Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 If models are made for modeling Thick girls are made for cuddlin' -- Andre Benjamin Hahaha aweee yeah. Just listened to Pink Matter this morning. I love that line - because at 30 pounds overweight I identify as a thick gal. As for this thread - I am still curious, do these guys actually date her, introduce her to all of their friends - or is this their dirty little secret with the "easy girl"? If it's the latter, you have your answer as to why she "gets more men" but I question the level of respect she gets from them. 1
preraph Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 I'm guessing the bigger one also has enormous boobs and obviously a personality pleasing to men. Where I'm from, anyone with huge boobs gets male attention. And men do like fun light-hearted personalities.
grays Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Hahaha aweee yeah. Just listened to Pink Matter this morning. I love that line - because at 30 pounds overweight I identify as a thick gal. As for this thread - I am still curious, do these guys actually date her, introduce her to all of their friends - or is this their dirty little secret with the "easy girl"? If it's the latter, you have your answer as to why she "gets more men" but I question the level of respect she gets from them. I am also just about 30 pounds over what I would consider ideal. When I broke up w the ex, I was in the best shape of my life. Everytime I would feel overwhelmed or pissed off I would put my sneakers on and go do sprints and hills. But then when I started to recover and was feeling happy, I started gaining and it terrified me. I was really scared of being single and fat. But crazy enough I swear all my guys have seen it as a bonus. A lot more guys approach me in public and make excuses to talk to me. Go figure! I see this as a win/win bc I do like chocolate cake. I suppose I am surprised that someone that much over weight gets a lot of attention, but I think it's awesome. I really feel disgusted when I read posts or other stuff online where people are talking about heavy or ugly people as if they're not lovable or ****able. Everyone needs and should have love and ****s. 3
kendahke Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Seems to me she was just pondering an answer to this phenomenon. Not disgust or disdain. It's not like she's saying it to the girls. She's saying it to a message board full of anonymous people. Message boards serve to help form the tools needed to go forth in one's life and handle one's issues. It's one thing to ponder; it's quite another to character assassinate and spit on a so-called friend just because OP doesn't understand why someone she'd rather identify with cannot get any play when the other person who makes her recoil, but calls a friend, does get the play. It basically comes down to attitude. OP isn't with 30 when she is with a potential partner, sealing the "should we go further now?" deal, so she really can't speak on how 30 is with these guys when they shut off on her. She's hearing it second hand, with embellishments and the whole pity party of "why can't I???? Why does 150 get the toys???" Instead of being a false friend, she should take this to 150. She should fear no reaction from 150 for speaking her truth to her face, if right is so on her side, since she's doing a very good job of it behind her back. 3
No_Go Posted September 12, 2017 Posted September 12, 2017 Ohhhh what the heck makes you so obsessed about that woman (the overweight one)? I remember other threads about her. She is probably giving 'inviting'/flirtatious vibes that guys read. It is not high science. Some people are good at it and it is not related to weight/physical appearance. The 30 lbs overweight woman is probably self-conscious and that's visible from a plane and a turn-off. The heavier one is past the point of being self-conscious. That's the main difference. Hope this answers the question:) I have 2 unmarried 40 something friends. One is about 150 lbs overweight with an unattractive face, hair, bad teeth but men want to sleep with her left and right. The other one about 30 lbs overweight, pretty face and hair. Straight teeth and men aren't interested like they are with the less attractive much heavier one. She has a little more of an outgoing personality but they both have good personalities. I guess the prettier one is a little more reserved but I've seem men act more interested in the bigger one when the pretty one is right there with them. The bigger one meets men online and non seem disappointed but the prettier one never gets second date. I could understand this if she had a bad personality or was completely insecure but she isn't. She thinks it's the 30 lbs that keep men from having any interest but the other one has almost 150 lbs to loose and it doesn't seem to bother men. One guy she liked wouldn't lay a hand on the prettier one but then slept with the bigger one. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 I hate when people ask why is this my business? If it bothers you don't comment. My pretty friend feels there is something wrong with her so I'm asking. No, it's you that is jealous, based on all of your threads on the exact same topic. Instead of worrying about why your friend gets more attention than you or your pretty friend, you should work on your own insecurity and disdain for those you call "friends." 3
Popsicle Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 These days men go with aggressive women. They don't want to do any work. 1
amaysngrace Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 I am also just about 30 pounds over what I would consider ideal. When I broke up w the ex, I was in the best shape of my life. Everytime I would feel overwhelmed or pissed off I would put my sneakers on and go do sprints and hills. But then when I started to recover and was feeling happy, I started gaining and it terrified me. I was really scared of being single and fat. But crazy enough I swear all my guys have seen it as a bonus. A lot more guys approach me in public and make excuses to talk to me. Go figure! I see this as a win/win bc I do like chocolate cake. I suppose I am surprised that someone that much over weight gets a lot of attention, but I think it's awesome. I really feel disgusted when I read posts or other stuff online where people are talking about heavy or ugly people as if they're not lovable or ****able. Everyone needs and should have love and ****s. I'm overweight off my own ideal by about 30 lbs too because I quit smoking a couple years back and was always thin for most of my life. I'm not anymore. I wear a size 11 jeans now and have a C cup. I get so much attention wherever I go that it's crazy to me. My own doctor keeps at me to lose weight because it's unhealthy to be overweight and I know that but I feel so much healthier now with some extra weight than I ever did as a smoker. Some people are just sexy no matter what weight they are I guess. I'm glad for the 300 lb girl that she's able to get sone lovin' too. 2
grays Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 I dont wanna threadjack, but I smoked for 15 years, quit almost 20 years ago. Huge congrats!
MidwestUSA Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 No, it's you that is jealous, based on all of your threads on the exact same topic. Instead of worrying about why your friend gets more attention than you or your pretty friend, you should work on your own insecurity and disdain for those you call "friends." I have a feeling OP is the 'pretty friend'. 4
tnt41 Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 I have a feeling OP is the 'pretty friend'. I wondered that, too. Regardless, the situation frustrates the OP, & I can see why. It's difficult to see so much good in someone (yourself or a friend) & others not see it, as well. Instead of a message board post, though, 30 should consider speaking with 150 directly. Maybe she has some tips on what she can do to be more approachable on a date. If a conversation with 150 isn't in the cards, then 30 could at least make a post for constructive criticism on what she needs to do to secure second dates. 1
Author adrian77 Posted September 14, 2017 Author Posted September 14, 2017 Doesn't have a pretty face either. I'm just wondering because my coworker has slept or fooled around with several men here and she is very big and unattractive. Some of these men are married to attractive women. Are that many men that horny that they will just sleep with anyone that wants it? And most seemed sober.
limichelle Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 You keep repeating your threads here. Look OP it sounds like you have issues with this woman that you clearly need to internalize and deal with! Coming on here and putting her down is just bad energy. Lisa 1
coolheadal Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 Doesn't have a pretty face either. I'm just wondering because my coworker has slept or fooled around with several men here and she is very big and unattractive. Some of these men are married to attractive women. Are that many men that horny that they will just sleep with anyone that wants it? And most seemed sober. OMG Again with this why in the world are you asking such a personal question? It's beyond me for you to find out why if a women is overweight you won't stop attacking them for being so. Look at what your saying men being that horny or if they were sober enough to do so. Shame on you for saying that. If a man wants to sleep with any size women they will. Would you sleep with them you should be asking yourself that. Posting question if we do it just shameful... 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted September 18, 2017 Posted September 18, 2017 I have 2 unmarried 40 something friends. One is about 150 lbs overweight with an unattractive face, hair, bad teeth but men want to sleep with her left and right. The other one about 30 lbs overweight, pretty face and hair. Straight teeth and men aren't interested like they are with the less attractive much heavier one. She has a little more of an outgoing personality but they both have good personalities. I guess the prettier one is a little more reserved but I've seem men act more interested in the bigger one when the pretty one is right there with them. The bigger one meets men online and non seem disappointed but the prettier one never gets second date. I could understand this if she had a bad personality or was completely insecure but she isn't. She thinks it's the 30 lbs that keep men from having any interest but the other one has almost 150 lbs to loose and it doesn't seem to bother men. One guy she liked wouldn't lay a hand on the prettier one but then slept with the bigger one. A lot of guys like bigger gals, especially within certain cultural groups.
Miss Spider Posted September 18, 2017 Posted September 18, 2017 (edited) I hate to say it, but men will often go for slightly less attractive women to sleep with because they assume it's easier. Principle of least effort. I've heard this quite a bit. Guys are less picky about who they sleep with. It sounds harsh, but especially in a club or a bar setting, a guy who is a bit faded will often go for the woman who seems more open, easy-going, and easy to get if they just want to get laid. Just think about it, guys don't want to face rejection or put too much effort in for a quick lay. He thinks ( perhaps falsely) she has less options. He has more confidence if he feels (perhaps falsely) he's more attractive than her. He'll think he has a better shot to get in with some flattery. Just one theory. I would never confuse genuine interest with a guy's willingness to sleep with me or give me attention. A lot of men give attention to get attention or to get you in bed. A Lot of men will sleep with women they don't find that attractive as long as he is not repulsed by her Now if your friend has more guys trying to date her, consistently get to know her, court her, gf her, than the "more attractive" one(assuming you) I would say better personality or your assessment of her attractiveness is off point Edited September 18, 2017 by Cookiesandough
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