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I have 2 unmarried 40 something friends. One is about 150 lbs overweight with an unattractive face, hair, bad teeth but men want to sleep with her left and right. The other one about 30 lbs overweight, pretty face and hair. Straight teeth and men aren't interested like they are with the less attractive much heavier one. She has a little more of an outgoing personality but they both have good personalities. I guess the prettier one is a little more reserved but I've seem men act more interested in the bigger one when the pretty one is right there with them. The bigger one meets men online and non seem disappointed but the prettier one never gets second date. I could understand this if she had a bad personality or was completely insecure but she isn't. She thinks it's the 30 lbs that keep men from having any interest but the other one has almost 150 lbs to loose and it doesn't seem to bother men. One guy she liked wouldn't lay a hand on the prettier one but then slept with the bigger one.

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I guess I don't have to tell you that looks the only thing it takes to attract a man. The bigger one obviously has more sex appeal which can trump looks. The bigger girl makes men hot!

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A 300 lb woman with spaces between her teeth and thin hair makes men hot? Not trying to be judgmental but just trying to understand.

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What kind of quality are these men? How long are they sticking around for after they get sex?

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Some men likes big women, the bigger the better? ;)

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A 300 lb woman with spaces between her teeth and thin hair makes men hot? Not trying to be judgmental but just trying to understand.

 

Well you are the one that witnessed men being attracted to her, thus this thread. So why are you surprised? Why do you think they want her?

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A 300 lb woman with spaces between her teeth and thin hair makes men hot? Not trying to be judgmental but just trying to understand.

 

I've never heard a man say they are horny for a woman with straight teeth and thick hair. They're nice to have but usually it's breasts and butts that get their juices flowing.

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Just shows the assumption that men are primarily motivated by looks is false.

 

I'm willing to bet the real key difference between the two is attitude. Not looks at all.

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Yes I get the breast and butt thing but if your are 300 lbs I don't think that would matter. The prettier one does have a better rack though.

 

They both have good attitudes so that isn't the reason. The only thing I can think of is the prettier one isn't as much of a drinker as the other one. Maybe they just figure she is easier.

 

Men do come back for more sex. Some cheating on their wives. Wives never suspecting their husband would cheat with someone unattractive.

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Yes I get the breast and butt thing but if your are 300 lbs I don't think that would matter. The prettier one does have a better rack though.

 

They both have good attitudes so that isn't the reason. The only thing I can think of is the prettier one isn't as much of a drinker as the other one. Maybe they just figure she is easier. And then men come back for more sex. Some cheating on their wives. Wives never suspecting their husband would cheat on someone unattractive.

 

Why is this your business? Your cold assessments don't make you sound like a very nice person.

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I hate when people ask why is this my business? If it bothers you don't comment.

My pretty friend feels there is something wrong with her so I'm asking.

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I hate when people ask why is this my business? If it bothers you don't comment.

My pretty friend feels there is something wrong with her so I'm asking.

 

If your friend is wanting a sex life like the heavier friend she should evaluate her picker. Doesn't sound like heavy woman is getting quality men if they're cheating on their wives.

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Yes, cheating men do not often go for a "prize" but what is easy and available. Many men cheat down rather than up.

 

Are these men dating her? Establishing relationships? Introducing her to their friends and family?

 

Or is it just sex?

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I hate when people ask why is this my business? If it bothers you don't comment.

My pretty friend feels there is something wrong with her so I'm asking.

 

Ah. Negative attitude from your "pretty" friend.

 

Why is she comparing herself to the other girl? Why the jealousy? The need to put the other girl down because of her looks?

 

And she wonders why no man wants her .... ��

 

Yeah, there's something wrong with her. Men sense that insecurity. Pettiness. Shallowness. And it's repulsive.

 

She needs to work on herself. Emanate love, joy and posivity from her heart and that will draw people.

 

She needs to BE attractive. Not just look attractive. As I expected, that's the real difference between her and the other girl.

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Yes I get the breast and butt thing but if your are 300 lbs I don't think that would matter.

 

 

Why? That would mean big, big breasts and a big, big butt. Some men would kill for that.

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Most men find attractive women intimidating. They assume these women are either taken or not interested in them.

 

Was recently at a party where most of the people were average looking, but there were two VERY attractive women there. For a good part of the evening those two attractive women were just standing by themselves talking to each other while all the average people were mingling among themselves. So my friend and I approached them and started talking. They were very nice and we got their numbers :cool:

 

People often forget that HOT women are people too lol.

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Following up on my first post.. I see the same thing in my office.

 

The very attractive women in my office are often left out of the office "social scene". All the ugly and average people hang out and go to happy hours and other stuff and everyone just ignores the attractive women lol.

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I have 2 unmarried 40 something friends. One is about 150 lbs overweight with an unattractive face, hair, bad teeth but men want to sleep with her left and right. The other one about 30 lbs overweight, pretty face and hair. Straight teeth and men aren't interested like they are with the less attractive much heavier one. She has a little more of an outgoing personality but they both have good personalities. I guess the prettier one is a little more reserved but I've seem men act more interested in the bigger one when the pretty one is right there with them. The bigger one meets men online and non seem disappointed but the prettier one never gets second date. I could understand this if she had a bad personality or was completely insecure but she isn't. She thinks it's the 30 lbs that keep men from having any interest but the other one has almost 150 lbs to loose and it doesn't seem to bother men. One guy she liked wouldn't lay a hand on the prettier one but then slept with the bigger one.

 

Your friend, 30, isn't guaranteed attention or to even be liked just because of what she looks like. It could very well be her being reserved, in your presence, doesn't translate to "a great gal" in theirs. You don't know how she behaves when she's with them unless you're going on the dates and are a part of the conversations. What you know is only what you're being told, not necessarily the truth of what is actually going on when she's with them.

 

Apparent, 150 exudes a je ne sais quoi that attracts men and more to the point, she's probably staying in her own lane and not dealing with men who want a thinner woman. Believe it or not, there are men out there who do like heavy women and if she's got a great personality on top of that, more power to her. All of the things you're spitting on her about apparently don't matter to the men she's meeting because that's not high on their list of priorities in a woman.

 

I know someone who, by all measurements of attractiveness, she's got that wrapped up. She's got "big girls" and likes to show them off, she just lost a ton of weight, so not only does she look good, but she knows she looks good. She's got a master's degree and is quite opinionated about a wide variety of things. But she can't get a man to stay with her. Why? Because she's extremely hard on men and they don't feel like sticking around someone with a foul attitude.

 

So, if 30 is getting the same reaction from a variety of men who have no connection, then the common denominator is 30 and perhaps 30's attitude when dealing with a potential romantic partner isn't as nice as it is when she's dealing with a girlfriend.

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Some cheating on their wives. Wives never suspecting their husband would cheat with someone unattractive.

 

Do you know this for a fact or are you speculating and spitting on her because she's 300 lbs and unattractive to you?

 

Does she know you hold her in such contempt?

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30's attitude when dealing with a potential romantic partner isn't as nice as it is when she's dealing with a girlfriend.

 

Or a male friend...

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I read some of your previous threads and you have complained about this woman and her sex life before. Why does she bother you so much?

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Yes I get the breast and butt thing but if your are 300 lbs I don't think that would matter. The prettier one does have a better rack though.

 

They both have good attitudes so that isn't the reason. The only thing I can think of is the prettier one isn't as much of a drinker as the other one. Maybe they just figure she is easier.

 

Men do come back for more sex. Some cheating on their wives. Wives never suspecting their husband would cheat with someone unattractive.

 

Easy target, easy lay, bag over the head, anything goes, quick lay, bang gal, fun time

I can go on and on these women and men don't care what they bang. I wouldn't touch them if my life depended on them. There is no shame and no real love here. Pretty one is not a safe bet, the ugly one is a safe bet. Easy lay also. The pretty one is not easy to get. Doesn't matter men of low class will go after the ugly one real man would think twice because of STDs and if she keeps herself clean hygiene. Fat attracts certain men. I am not being mean or rude just the facts of life. Turns on or turn offs. Whatever goes today..

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I knew a girl once who was so overweight that when a friend and I were sitting on one end of a swing, she sat on the other and the entire swing went straight down on her end.

 

It took my mate and I a few moments to even process what had just happened :D

 

However, this woman had slept with just about everybody in our circle. My mate and I couldn't believe it, and we were repulsed at the thought, but it was happening.

 

She tried it on a bit with me, so I know her game. She was a more dominant type woman, and most guys simply aren't going to turn down oral sex.

 

Hell, I had a girlfriend from that circle that it turned out she'd slept with her too lol.

 

Most guys really have no standards at all. I really mean that. If I slept with every woman that was interested, my notch count would be astronomical. But I actually have quite high standards.

 

I've not been ashamed of any woman that I've been with. And I'm really quite proud of my sexual history.

 

Most people just aren't. And that's a fact of life.

 

At 150 pounds overweight, she needs to lose an entire human being in weight. Let's actually have some proper perspective here. She doesn't have "a great arse", she has enough arse for 5 human beings. Her backside would be undefinable - a foreign object.

 

Getting with her in this fashion is omega male behaviour. She's likely attracting scavengers, rather than the guys hunting for the proper game.

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My former stepfather who was a gym rat/marine prefers overweight women. He was afraid that my mom would be too thin for him when he met her because she's curvy but not overweight; I don't think he was ever fully satisfied with her in that regard. He would rail on thin women all the time as he was admittedly embarrassed about his attraction to overweight women--claimed he knew many men who wanted them but were too embarrassed to take them home to their mothers. Now, he's with a woman who is twice my mom's size. So there are some guys like this where the bigger, the better. He had a lot of issues mentally, and, frankly, I always thought it had something to do with the power dynamics--but I'm sure there are men that are just fine where this is their preference. He is not a quality guy despite being quite attractive himself for his age. From the outside people might look at him and his obese women and think he's the prize, but I feel sorry for anyone who gets lured into his trap.

 

Some of the most sexually experienced women I personally know are extremely overweight (with less than appealing personalities, imo), but they used sex as their trump card and are very vocal about their sexuality. The types of men they got involved with usually did not pan out into dates or relationships. The men were looking to hit and basically they were willing. A "safe" bet. I do think this goes on more often than you would realize.

 

I've noticed the same thing as Urbanyst with beautiful women who had great personalities. Often it takes a secure man to ask them out. And I've had countless guy friends admit to me privately that they weren't in love with, and were never in love with, long-term relationships they carried out... so honestly, sometimes I just think that some men are afraid of being vulnerable and going after what they really want or losing control of a situation so it's easier to find someone who meets an immediate need (sex) or is convenient but less threatening. So maybe if both your friends have a great personality as you say, men might find the first to be more intimidating or not suitable for their purposes.

 

These are just general patterns I've noticed, but obviously I'm not so jaded as to believe that there aren't plenty of overweight/"unattractive"/"average" women who are comfortable in their own skin and have qualities you can't pinpoint physically or by your own standards that are very attractive to men. You don't know what makes someone else tick.

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OP isn't much of a friend to the larger girl. I'd never hold an actual friend in such disgust and disdain.

 

It's kind of sad, actually.

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