poindimie Posted August 13, 2005 Posted August 13, 2005 Well, Ive been seeing this guy for about 2 months now, except for the last 3 weeks I have not seen him at all. I have invited him out but he has always been busy. Plus, I always call him, but he never calls me. 4 or 5 days will pass without a phone call, until I do something and ring him. Now it looks very bleak, right? The thing is for the last 3 weeks he has been doing a new project thing at work. He has been working midnight shifts and then sleeping during the day, which he was not doing before. The times I have asked him out, I am 99% sure his explanations are true, so I don't think he is lying to me. Plus, I actually asked him if he would tell me if he wanted to just be freinds to which he replied "of course I would" and then apologised as he was so busy. Im confused, as he seemed really into me. In fact the last time I saw him he told me to ring him lots, and on the phone he is always really chatty and seemingly happy, and makes me stay and talk to him. He just never calls, and doesn't suggest times for us to go out as he says he is always tired or busy. It has been almost 4 weeks now, and I think I should trust what he is saying but I am so confused by the sudden lack of interest. I don't mind so much that it has been that long more than I want to know if he is leading me on (he doesn't seem like the kind of guy that is a player or stresses over realtionships much) Would someone lead you on like that? I think it's either we have already past the whole 'getting to know you' stage and maybe he is comfortable knowing I'm not going anywhere, or he is stringing me along completely. I don't want to talk to him about it as I have alrady asked him and don't want to seem nagging or clingy, but if he is trying to shake me off by avoiding me, why would he destroy that by going out of his way to act interested and reassuring on the phone? What do you think, should I just go with thinking he's just busy, or should I read into things? I really like him, and I don't think I could go without ringing him for a week as I would go insane, but Im trying. Oh also, he lives about an hour away from me so we have to organise things rather than just popping around. Maybe becuase Im so stressed over it, I naturally have reservations and negative feelings about it, whilst he thinks everything is fine as I ring him lots and therefore does not worry and thinks it is fine. Im considering waiting until this work thing gets back to normal (few weeks?) and then seeing how he treats me, but I dont want to wait around and get led on for nothing if he is trying to send me signals by not calling and suggesting times to see each other. I hate this situation!!
TnT Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Well, im not sure about this as i have never been in this situation. If someone doesnt make an effort to call me, i just try not to call them and after a while they fade out of my life. I know u dont want this to happen... ummm....not to sure. If u really like this guy, i think u need to be straight up about how u feel. If he gets angry and doesnt understand ur feelings, do u really want to be with him???
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