Quokka Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 So here's the story. Met this girl from friends of friends one night she came over to kick it with her friend who I was also hanging out with. Well me and her sat outside all night just drinking beer and talking and laughing and having a good time. We had instant chemistry and it was awesome. We talked all the next day and then somewhere later that week we just quit texting each other. Fast forward two weeks and she calls me and wants me to hangout at her place so to drink some beer and listen to music and such so I do, it was awesome she's the coolest chick I've ever met and loves all my underground music and she's just a ray of sunshine. We didn't hook up that night but she asked me to come back again the next night so I do. We hooked up and it that was great too. We kept repeating this process for awhile and eventually she goes off on me one night about how I'm making her mad because she's starting to like me and she doesn't want to like anyone because she wants to focus on herself and she just got out of an engagement 5 months ago. She essentially told me to go away but then told me she wants me to stay. It was confusing. After that, she didn't text me that whole day so I just gave her .space. She texts me the next day and we hang out and hook up again. Then she tells me she can't keep doing this cause each time we hangout she likes me more and more and she can't have that. So she cut me off. I am pretty upset about this as I really liked this girl and she clearly liked me but she doesn't want to? Idk if it's honesty or alterior motives behind it but has anyone else experienced this? And if there's any possible way how can I make her see that we like each other so why not just keep having fun? I didn't press for a relationship or labels either. I let her set the pace. Thanks -Quokka
amazonrambo Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 She's not interested. Take a girl by her actions, not her words. Move on.
Author Quokka Posted September 11, 2017 Author Posted September 11, 2017 She's not interested. Take a girl by her actions, not her words. Move on. She was so interested that she left so idk
amazonrambo Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 She was so interested that she left so idk An interested girl doesn't walk away from a guy she likes or is confused about her feelings. You lost this one. Find a girl who is interested and will dedicate her time with you.
hercules22 Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 she could just not be looking for anything serious right now especially if she was supposed to get married to some bloke she could very well be single for a year or 2 1
Vinny56 Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 That sucks man, but I have a feeling that she's definitely dealing with some personal issues and maybe wants to take it slow as she just got out of an engagement. She does want you around but I guess you'll have to give her time and see what she ultimately wants! 1
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 If she's only 5 months out of an engagement, she does not have the emotional wherewithal to be in a relationship right now. She probably enjoyed the time she spent with you & thought everything would just be chill & casual but then she realized she liked you & given the pain she's recently endured, she's not ready for that. You caught her by surprise & the timing sucks. But timing is everything. As much as it's bad that she sort of played with your feelings, I don't think she did it intentionally. At this point you need to let her be. If she tries to treat you like a yo yo, tell her in no uncertain terms that she can't be hot & cold with you. She's either in & trying with you or she needs to leave you alone. It's not fair for her to toy with you. 2
Author Quokka Posted September 11, 2017 Author Posted September 11, 2017 If she's only 5 months out of an engagement, she does not have the emotional wherewithal to be in a relationship right now. She probably enjoyed the time she spent with you & thought everything would just be chill & casual but then she realized she liked you & given the pain she's recently endured, she's not ready for that. You caught her by surprise & the timing sucks. But timing is everything. As much as it's bad that she sort of played with your feelings, I don't think she did it intentionally. At this point you need to let her be. If she tries to treat you like a yo yo, tell her in no uncertain terms that she can't be hot & cold with you. She's either in & trying with you or she needs to leave you alone. It's not fair for her to toy with you. Thank you, this was the most helpful because I'm friends. With her friends and they all told me before we got involved together that she didn't want to like anyone so be careful. But I got careless and let myself like her. Shame. But thank you for being genuine instead of saying "not interested, move on" I knew there was more behind it than that.
smackie9 Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 You could also be a rebound. It's all exciting a first because she misses the attention and having someone....when you have been starving for so long, anything will look good on the menu. She knows this isn't healthy, so she backed off.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 This very much sounds like she was quite hurt when her engagement ended, and she is not over that yet. She has too much emotional turbulence, and while she liked you, she isn't ready.
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