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It's not about a degree.

 

It's about her lack of goals, planning, and ambition. She's been a hostess/waitress? who wants to get into personal training (dime a dozen) but can't be bothered to complete the certification.

 

There's nothing wrong with skilled trades. She'd be better off going that route.

 

Room service at a hotel actually not a waitress

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Room service at a hotel actually not a waitress

 

Thanks for the clarification. I guess it boils down to what you'd call a career vs a job.

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Give her the 6 months and see where she is at. Ya got to start somewhere. Sometimes it's hard to get your foot in the door to get a decent position. If she has experience working in the hotel industry, once she gets an established job, she can start moving up the ladder. Not everyone has or can afford a degree, and there are a lot of people who have a degree but can't get a job. It's a crap shoot no matter how you slice it.

 

She shouldn't have quit, but she did it because she was confident that she would find a job right away. Sometimes you gotta take risks, even tho the choice might not be a popular one. So far this isn't panning out for her oh well, she's learned her lesson the hard way. Do you think she likes borrowing money to feed herself? I doubt it. Obviously daddy isn't supporting her so you guys can scratch that off your list.

 

So what happens when she gets a job within the next few weeks? She isn't this immature horrible person anymore?

 

I went through some crazy stuff with my husband when we were dating. I was making more money then him, he wasn't getting a lot of hours, he racked up his credit, had to borrow money for a lawyer for a stupid incident, etc. But I stuck it out with him, and here I am 27+ years later. He's making good money for years now and he is starting his training for a new technology in his industry.

 

OP if this really bugs you, no one is holding you back from ending it but you. If your confidence in her is slipping, then maybe it's time to have that conversation with her that you realize you both are not compatible enough for the long haul.

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