Sophia2938 Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Hey! Ive been signed up before however lost my logins! So I'm looking for any opinions that might be relevant to the following situation I've got myself into. What to do/what not to do etc Around 6 years ago a met a guy (A), we hit it off instantly. We played it coy for a while, always brushing off feelings. After a a year or so we stopped contact - I was fed up of waiting for someone who seemed unavailable to me. A while after we went in and out of contact, nothing more than a few months a time. I then got into a relationaship with another guy (B). I still heavily thought about A however the new relationship was what I had been looking for. I still spoke to A throughout the relationship, nothing serious I just felt like he got me on another level. I knew that this wasn't fair on the new relationship so stopped contact. A day did not go by were I didn't think of A. Fast forward to now Im single, have been for a few months. Im still in contact with A however this is very minimal. He has been single this whole time and has been very open with his feelings from the past however says to not feel the same way now. My point is I feel like i should try and give this a shot. It's been 6 years, he's amazing and I don't want him to be 'the one that got away' Thanks in advance Sophia
coolheadal Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 How old are you two? Sounds like mutual friends that's all. See each other when you want too. 6 years nothing today. You are both friends, you seem to like each other neither one of you want to fully committed to each other as of yet. So that's why your still clueless about your situation. Why don't you invite your 6 year friend over for some dinner and have a long discussion about your situation. You want more than what your getting from it now. He's the one that's holding you back. You need to know the truth so you can move on and go find a man who is not clowning around you like he's doing. Some men just don't want to settle down yet to be fully committed. They like to see what out there as well.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 If I understand correctly, he's told you he no longer feels the same way about you. I'm not sure how you'll give it a shot under these circumstances. If the interest isn't mutual anymore, you would be best to let that idea go. 1
BaileyB Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Exactly. If the feelings are not mutual, there is nothing there for you to "give it a shot." I feel like, if it was meant to be... It would have come to be in the fast six years. Don't get your hopes up.
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