Lobouspo Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 So tonight I'm at my girlfriends, and about 9:15 I hear her get a text and she abruptly goes to the bathroom with her phone. She's in there at least 20 -25 minutes with the door closed. I text her if she's ok and she says she's constipated from lunch, after just recently telling me she never gets constipated...lol. She's really affectionate toward me and even made nachos for us after a long 12 hour nursing shift. She's posts about us on Facebook is excited about our future, but the same thing happened one other time when I spent the night. One thing she's not real weird or protective of her phone and even non chalantly unlocked her phone in front of me, where I know the code now if I wanted to snoop She always answers when I call, and no other red flags. What do you guys think?
bummer Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 1. She's actually constipated and played candy crush or texted a friend. Eat fewer nachos, nothing to worry about. 2. It's her friend/family member going through something rough and personal. Nothing to worry about. 3. You let it go and enjoy your gf. nothing to worry about. 4. You confront her about who she was texting. A. It was really #1 or #2, you look dumb. B. It's an ex or another man, she lies and says it was #1, you look dumb. 5. You snoop, you snoopy snoop! A. She finds out and it was #1 or #2, she thinks you're an ahole. B. She finds out and it's another man, you win! C. She doesn't find out, you find nothing. Nothing to worry about but the guilt. D. She doesn't find out, it's another man, you win! Are you exclusive now? Sure? Do you live together? Spend most nights together? You write often about suspicions with her. Have you asked politely, "are you talking with someone else?" If it's making you paranoid all the time, you probably should move on. Either you're right and justified to end it, or you're wrong and you're driving her away anyways with the jealous jamie act.
Author Lobouspo Posted September 10, 2017 Author Posted September 10, 2017 1. She's actually constipated and played candy crush or texted a friend. Eat fewer nachos, nothing to worry about. 2. It's her friend/family member going through something rough and personal. Nothing to worry about. 3. You let it go and enjoy your gf. nothing to worry about. 4. You confront her about who she was texting. A. It was really #1 or #2, you look dumb. B. It's an ex or another man, she lies and says it was #1, you look dumb. 5. You snoop, you snoopy snoop! A. She finds out and it was #1 or #2, she thinks you're an ahole. B. She finds out and it's another man, you win! C. She doesn't find out, you find nothing. Nothing to worry about but the guilt. D. She doesn't find out, it's another man, you win! Are you exclusive now? Sure? Do you live together? Spend most nights together? You write often about suspicions with her. Have you asked politely, "are you talking with someone else?" If it's making you paranoid all the time, you probably should move on. Either you're right and justified to end it, or you're wrong and you're driving her away anyways with the jealous jamie act.[/quote We are exclusive. Don't spend most nights together because our work schedules, but talk every night before bedtime. She's really amazing. She's beautiful, affectionate, and treats me well. She says she has never cheated in a relationship and would never hurt me. I dunno, last night just seemed weird.
TheBathWater Posted September 11, 2017 Posted September 11, 2017 We are exclusive. Don't spend most nights together because our work schedules, but talk every night before bedtime. She's really amazing. She's beautiful, affectionate, and treats me well. She says she has never cheated in a relationship and would never hurt me. I dunno, last night just seemed weird. If she has never cheated on another guy before, that is a good sign. But have you been cheated on or otherwise betrayed by someone close before? That could understandably be influencing your perception of the situation. Have the two of you ever talked explicitly about trust before? I'm not saying you should do this, but if it were me, I'd find a way to appropriately bring it up. "You know, I'm not proud of this, but I recently had this reaction to this thing you were doing. Maybe it's because of XYZ in my history or something, but I thought the responsible thing of me to do would be to let you know about it." Then see what she says. The way you describe her sounds pretty sweet, man. I can't say with certainty, but I don't think you have much to be worried about. If you do bring it up with her, I can't imagine her getting defensive about it. 1
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