manoffaith Posted August 13, 2005 Posted August 13, 2005 Hi everyone. I will briefly described my situation. In Febuary of this year I met this girl. She worked at the same place as I did. Anyways I began to notice that she was sending signals or whatever you call them towards my direction. But at first I didnt pay attention. Then as time went on I noticed that she found any reason to call me or text me. (she had my number because I was actually the store manager at the time). She had asked a couple times if we could hang out. I was hesitant because for one I was her boss and two I am a born again christian, which means that i usually will only look for a girl who believes the same as I do. Anyways she was persistant. So I said to myself why not. So I did hang out with her. We saw the movie Hitch. (Good Movie). Even after that first date I still didnt really feel anything. I was cautious a little bit because I had been hurt in the past. Then as the week went on my feelings began to change. She was asking about my church and family. She quit smoking and drinking had completely changed. So I decided to hang out with her again and then we hit it off. We hung out about 5 times out of the week and I would see her at work. we were inseparateable. My family loved her and her family loved me. She got involved in my church and was reading the bible with me and stuff. I fell deeply in love with her. And she fell in love with me. She said she used to pray to be with me. If God would give her a chance. It was great, everything was awesome. Then the weirdness began. She is in college and had finals in may. We could barley see each other because she was overwhelmed with school work. We began to talk less but things were still cool. Her reasons were that she was so busy and its true because finals can take alot out of a person. Her finals lasted for 3 weeks. During the last week of her finals we were planning on spending a day together, when that day came she told me that we couldnt hang because she just had to much work. I got a little upset at first but realized she was busy. So I reacted like a fool and rushed up to her school and brought her 3 roses, her favorite muffin and coffee and a nice card. When I got there she was sleeping peacefully. And i didnt want to wake her so i was about to leave the stuff outside her door when her roomates walked up behind me. They were saying how lucky she is to have a caring guy like me and told me to wake her and give the stuff to her. So I did. She was happy to see me but she looked stressed from all the work. We talked briefly because I knew she would be busy with work so i didnt want to smother her. So i gave her a kiss on her forhead and then a kiss goodbye. (Little did i know that would be the last time I saw her)I left feeling good and confident but also a little worried that i might have suprised her with gifts at the wrong time. Bad timing. Anyways a few days later she broke up with me. She never really gave me a reason. she just said she was confused, and that she loved me, but she was just confuesed and stressed. So over the next couple of weeks we talked occasionally and little text messages to eachother than that began to fade. Its been 3 months since she broke up with me. The last time I talked with her was about 3 and half weeks ago. I have gotten alot better. I know i have to move on and become an individual again but apart of me wants to hold her in my arms again, I am always praying for her. I loved her with everything in me, my whole heart. You see I am the type of person who is looking for the right one. I dont like to date. I just want to be with 1 girl and get married. I dont need to see a million diffrent ones to finally find the right one. I just miss running my hands through her soft hair and looking in her eyes and most of all, her smile. If anyone has advice, i would love to hear from you. Thank you for listening to my brief story just kidding it was kinda long, whoa. But really thankyou to all who care and listen. you are great people and God bless all of you.
pippen_2k Posted August 13, 2005 Posted August 13, 2005 You might scare girls off and seem to pushy if you are 'looking for the one' and wanting to get married ASAP... Can take years of dating the same girl before you both decide that she/he is the one.. not weeks.. Just take a more laxed attitude towards dating, and see what pans out.. dont rush it man
Rocko Posted August 13, 2005 Posted August 13, 2005 Your situation doesn't seem as bad as others on the forums. College really can take the life outta you (I'm sure you're aware ). Just let things be and move on. If things are meant to be she'll be back. Theres not much else advice I can give when it comes to this crazy game of love .
upsetnhurt Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 CK....you did not waste your time and you should not look at it that way.....you learned lots about yourself and lots about what you want in life....consider yourself lucky too!
Nubemeister Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 You sound like a great guy...actually someone I used to date. Just by reading your post reminded me of him. But you know what you want and in a good way, and it hurts but it takes time, it's ok to miss something as simple as a smile....but it will get better:)
brodie windjack Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 You sound like a great guy...actually someone I used to date. Just by reading your post reminded me of him. But you know what you want and in a good way, and it hurts but it takes time, it's ok to miss something as simple as a smile....but it will get better:) I want to put you on and scream
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