Bastile Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Wow! Where does he imply he is clowning around with them or that he doesn't like his life? He just asked a question about the best way to reject women? It doesn't mean he doesn't like all women. Some men get a high level of attention from women probably because of their looks and I'm sure it can be just as annoying for them as it is for a good looking girl in the same position. It doesn't mean they need to get a grip on their life. The comment was a bit much. But reading it again, OP just mentioned "women looking at him". Women below my league stare at me quite often, and I don't find it annoying in the least. It's quite flattering. I think the correct advice in that situation actually is "just get over it". Other types of rejection, like when a woman is orbiting you (perhaps she is unnattractive, but often it can just be a case of not wanting to go there based on social circle reasons, such as work), require more nuance. Women can get quite crazy about being rejected. And men can be quite blunt and lacking in social graces in doing the rejecting. We really don't have the same social graces as standard. Another difference as a man is that the woman often still expect us to be the dom. So, the girl usually hovers trying to get you to take action. Quite rarely do I have to give real hard rejections to anyone (one time in the last 12 months, which was a drunk cougar at a party who was behaving in a completely mental way ).
carhill Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 I'm not dating right now Cool, that's a choice. I'm not either, not since my divorce anyway. I go a lot of places by myself and it's not uncommon for women to stare at me, want my attention, etc Apparently, women like your company or find you attractive. What's the best way to deal with this? Be your authentic self. You're not interested in dating right now so interact with them like you would another man or any stranger you'd encounter in life. Ignoring seems to agitate them, some will follow me until I look at them That's OK. You can't control them, only you. I've tried looking at them just to acknowledge them and sometimes it gets mistaken for being interested/checking them out Do what you want to do. Am I over thinking it/ don't worry about hurting thier feelings or leading them on? Beyond basic human decency and respect for strangers, presuming you believe in that, you owe them nothing. Don't worry about it. Focus on what you want in life. As to the thread's title, I came to use predominantly two lines when rejecting women and I can't take credit for them since I actually learned them from women who rejected me over the decades. 1. "You seem like a decent [lady] but I don't find you attractive" 2. "I don't like you that way" Simple, to the point, no ambiguity, done. Billions more on the planet and none of us is really that important in the big scheme of things though of course our id desires to feel important and be perceived as important. Then there's reality
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