Minute Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I'm not dating right now I go a lot of places by myself and it's not uncommon for women to stare at me, want my attention, etc What's the best way to deal with this? Ignoring seems to agitate them, some will follow me until I look at them I've tried looking at them just to acknowledge them and sometimes it gets mistaken for being interested/checking them out Am I over thinking it/ don't worry about hurting thier feelings or leading them on? It's not like they ever talk to me where i could say i have a gf
Sara1989 Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 So they do not actually talk to you? what the problem here then? :/ You dont need reject anyone. 2
Miss Spider Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 You don't look back at a girl if you don't intend to stick around xD
Miss Spider Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Wear a wedding ring. The thread was how to reject women not how to attract more!!! 8
Shanex Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Wedding ring seems fair, but it will turn away the ladies you are interested in, so you have to wear it, unwear it according to the circumstances. Anyways, the best thing is saying you are currently coupled up, if these women are somehow in your circles, job or friends then it's not as easy. But if men can accept rejection, so can women. 2
Bastile Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Simple: what do women do to you, when they reject you? Do the same. Men really don't learn from women, and that's baffling to me. Women are far more adept at social game than we are. Most of what I learnt was from women in a humbling experience, not from the internet (the internet merely validated those experiences). Tell her you've already got a girl, use the friendzone, push and pull, etc etc etc. Start paying attention.
stillafool Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Don't give them eye contact and if they follow you keep it moving. Don't be afraid to reject them. They would not be afraid to reject you if they weren't interested. 3
Miss Spider Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 (edited) Are these girls 'propositioning'you or are you just meeting eyes. If someone I met eyes with came up to me and said they are not interested in me 'that way' sorry I would be super confuzzled. I meet eyes with many ppl a day sometimes Edited September 9, 2017 by Cookiesandough
preraph Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Are you one of these guys who is super good looking? I'm guessing so if there's women following you around. But I'm surprised they're not coming right up and talking to you, frankly. If they're not talking, just ignore them unless one actually begins to stalk you, then call them out and tell them you aren't interested. If you run into them in the same place (like a club or something), bring a woman with you to show them you're taken. I've been asked to do something similar on a number of occasions by guys I know who had this issue. Only those women would actually come up and talk and kind of surround the guys and I would come in and tell him it was time to leave before we're late. So you may need a female wingman. But again, if they're not talking, not following you home or somewhere else, just ignore. If they talk, tell them, Hey, I have to go meet my girlfriend. Sorry gotta go. 1
TheBathWater Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I'm not dating right now I go a lot of places by myself and it's not uncommon for women to stare at me, want my attention, etc What's the best way to deal with this? Ignoring seems to agitate them, some will follow me until I look at them I've tried looking at them just to acknowledge them and sometimes it gets mistaken for being interested/checking them out Am I over thinking it/ don't worry about hurting thier feelings or leading them on? It's not like they ever talk to me where i could say i have a gf There's no need to ever reject a woman. Why not be kind, playful, and attentive to all women? Especially those who appreciate your presence as a man. You're under no obligation to be romantic with any of them if you don't want to. If someone expresses romantic interest, just tell them you don't feel it's a match or some variation of that, but still be good to them whenever you see them. Men who take this approach are surrounded by women who will defend them. They will speak highly of you to other women as well. As you can imagine, this is a very, very good thing.
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Dude, just don't stare back. Simple as that. I wouldn't try talking to a guy who isn't even looking back
Shanex Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I agree with pretty much everyone. The curious thing being that generally men are way more mellow and try not to offend a lady when they are rejecting one, as the OP is wondering while women can be quite cruel or at least very blunt. This is also true of breakups, we guys are often scratching our heads as to not hurt our girlfriends and when we get dumped, things can get rough.
thefooloftheyear Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Turn your pockets inside out... TFY 3
elaine567 Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I am not exactly sure how interested they really are if they never ever talk to the OP. If he is noticing them staring at him, then he is obviously staring at them and if he is sitting alone and staring at them, then they may be signalling discomfort more than actual interest. 5
greymatter Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I am not exactly sure how interested they really are if they never ever talk to the OP. If he is noticing them staring at him, then he is obviously staring at them and if he is sitting alone and staring at them, then they may be signalling discomfort more than actual interest. I agree and suspect the "agitation" he describes is exactly what you say, discomfort and getting the creeps from him repeatedly looking at them.
SmartDude Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I'm not dating right now I go a lot of places by myself and it's not uncommon for women to stare at me, want my attention, etc What's the best way to deal with this? Ignoring seems to agitate them, some will follow me until I look at them I've tried looking at them just to acknowledge them and sometimes it gets mistaken for being interested/checking them out Am I over thinking it/ don't worry about hurting thier feelings or leading them on? It's not like they ever talk to me where i could say i have a gf I think I know what your trying to say. Sometimes it really bothers me that women are trying to get my attention as well. Especially when I am preoccupied with something else! I have had women literally walk into me at the grocery store because they insist I look at them and let them know they are pretty! 4 way intersections can be dangerous if a woman wants your attention and you don't want to look at her. lol bitches.
hercules22 Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 well if they are not approaching you and just looking at you just dont give them eye contact . And the worst thing you can do is a random smile then they are gonna think your possibly interested lol
coolheadal Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 I'm not dating right now I go a lot of places by myself and it's not uncommon for women to stare at me, want my attention, etc What's the best way to deal with this? Ignoring seems to agitate them, some will follow me until I look at them I've tried looking at them just to acknowledge them and sometimes it gets mistaken for being interested/checking them out Am I over thinking it/ don't worry about hurting thier feelings or leading them on? It's not like they ever talk to me where i could say i have a gf OMG what the heck are you doing? Are you into women or what? Why are you clowning around with these women then? Leave and move on to the next location. You seem to want the attention but yet want to meet new people. Or your tired of the same old crap! If you don't like your current life then change it and stop going to same places to have the same reaction. Really get a grip on your life. How reject women seriously! 1
Cersei Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Maybe do something Gross like pick your nose, burp, or talk with food in your mouth. You won't have this issue for long. Lol 1
stillafool Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 OMG what the heck are you doing? Are you into women or what? Why are you clowning around with these women then? Leave and move on to the next location. You seem to want the attention but yet want to meet new people. Or your tired of the same old crap! If you don't like your current life then change it and stop going to same places to have the same reaction. Really get a grip on your life. How reject women seriously! Wow! Where does he imply he is clowning around with them or that he doesn't like his life? He just asked a question about the best way to reject women? It doesn't mean he doesn't like all women. Some men get a high level of attention from women probably because of their looks and I'm sure it can be just as annoying for them as it is for a good looking girl in the same position. It doesn't mean they need to get a grip on their life.
lovephule Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 I'm not dating right now I go a lot of places by myself and it's not uncommon for women to stare at me, want my attention, etc What's the best way to deal with this? Ignoring seems to agitate them, some will follow me until I look at them I've tried looking at them just to acknowledge them and sometimes it gets mistaken for being interested/checking them out Am I over thinking it/ don't worry about hurting thier feelings or leading them on? It's not like they ever talk to me where i could say i have a gf Strangely enough, I do know exactly what you're talking about, even though I'm a woman. Happens usually at the gym. It reads to me as desire for validation, not genuine interest. I keep going about my business and don't think twice about it unless a guy starts following me. Hurt feelings? No, just ego.
act00 Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Maybe you're an exceptionally handsome man, and women just enjoy the show, and they probably wonder why a catch like you appears to be single. It's normal to make eye contact. If people are staring and glaring at you, or your mere presence provokes a high level of anger and hostility, maybe you need to think about what you're doing to provoke it, and either change it or accept that this is going to be a normal reaction and develop a thick skin and ignore it. I just can't see normal, every day existence provoking such a high level of hostility. If a woman approaches you, whether it's someone interested in you personally or someone thinking they'd like to fix you up with their daughter, their friend, their friend's daughter, and you are not interested, simply be kind and polite and tell them you have a girlfriend. Wearing a "wedding ring" can be a good deterrent. People pay attention to the ring on the left hand. I seriously question if you are doing something, your presentation, your attitude, your behavior, that provokes a high level of anger in people. I also question if these interactions are imaginary...in your mind...you're perceiving something that does not exist.
GemmaUK Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 If they're not approaching you then you have no need to reject. (unless you have left a big part of their behaviour/actions out?)
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