bbcc10192 Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I went on a Tinder date last Wednesday with this girl. We went for coffee and the date went well overall, we had a relative amount in common. We continued texting for the next day, until I suggested if she would be interested in meeting again next week. She said could be busy babysitting her niece for the week, so she would have to see. I thought fair enough, valid excuse etc. So I decided to text her again on Sunday, asking her how her weekend was. She wasn't online much at all Sunday night, but was online Monday and didn't even click into my message. So I concluded then that she wasn't interested, and just forgot about her. However... the next morning on Tuesday, she texted me saying "Hey. The weekend was hectic, as have been the last 2 days. Didn't expect this much work to be done before going away on hols (She's going travelling very soon). I don't have much of a lunch break today but I'll give you a text later on :)". I was like "cool, sounds good, no worries! etc". Naturally enough I felt this was very encouraging, and got my hopes up. But she never texted back, despite being online since and changing her profile picture etc. There's no point me texting her again, my interest is clear. But it just confuses me a bit, as I presumed she was just ignoring my texts without interest until she sent that on Tuesday morning. I guess it just felt like mixed signals, and I'm just wondering why she sent that if she wasn't interested.
d0nnivain Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 On some level she was trying not to rude but only accomplished proving that she is. It would have been better not to give you false hope but as you know it's way too soon for you to put much stock in a single coffee date off Tinder. I don't think you are but at this point all you can do is leave her be 2
Miss Spider Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Yea it pains people to say they're not interested so they think they're doing the nice thing by dating "I'll let you know" and keeping you on the string longer. She isn't interested. Date new girls
ChatroomHero Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Unfortunately, I agree with the comments above. When I read her response to you, I immediately thought no interested, total crappy response by her. The whole, crazy whirlwind weekend before vacation, no time for lunch bs is a really lazy, no effort, lack of thought brush offs. She didn't even think you were worth the effort of a well thought out excuse. The truth is if her house burned down, 20 of her friends were in a plane crash and her dog ran away over the weekend, if she was interested she would still respond promptly to your text and want to tell you all about it over lunch. In the future if you get the... too busy too respond for a long time, can't take a break to see you for a half hour lunch type excuse, and they say they'll let you know... I find the best thing to answer is, "it's OK, you already let me know. It was nice meeting you, I wish you well". 2
smackie9 Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 An interested person is someone who response right away with enthusiasm and initiates meaningful or playful conversation. You don't see any of that, take it as a no not interested. You shouldn't have to work for someones attention or make attraction. Either they like you or not.
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 She's not interested but wants to keep you barely there, you know? Until she decides. Here's the thing, don't get hung up on a girl you barely know. Like okay if she's not showing as much interest in you as you are in her, move on. Delete her. Find another girl who is just as into you. It feels much nicer. 1
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