Thedarklumineer Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Hi all, Met a girl at a bar a few weeks ago and took her out for a date the following week. Kissed and had fun. We text daily and set up a second date. On the second date , I take her back to her place and have sex and also the following morning. She added me on fb. I accepted through curiosity. I barely use it though. Still texting daily. Take her To watch out a football game on third date and we kiss, hold hands. I push pull etc. She looked like she was enjoying it. I drop her back to her house, we kiss and she tells me she will cook for me. I text her 5 days later and she has gone completely cold on me. She deleted me on fb and never responded to my next date request. What's happened? Is she mad or is she bored. Strange.
Redhead14 Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Hi all, Met a girl at a bar a few weeks ago and took her out for a date the following week. Kissed and had fun. We text daily and set up a second date. On the second date , I take her back to her place and have sex and also the following morning. She added me on fb. I accepted through curiosity. I barely use it though. Still texting daily. Take her To watch out a football game on third date and we kiss, hold hands. I push pull etc. She looked like she was enjoying it. I drop her back to her house, we kiss and she tells me she will cook for me. I text her 5 days later and she has gone completely cold on me. She deleted me on fb and never responded to my next date request. What's happened? Is she mad or is she bored. Strange. If a guy stops contacting me for 5 days, I assume he's not too interested . . . she has gone completely cold on me -- She didn't hear from you for 5 days. That's what she was thinking you did. 3
Author Thedarklumineer Posted September 8, 2017 Author Posted September 8, 2017 If a guy stops contacting me for 5 days, I assume he's not too interested . . . she has gone completely cold on me -- She didn't hear from you for 5 days. That's what she was thinking you did. So it's possible she angry with me then. I was working away, I could of given her an explanation but did tell her to enjoy her week. I do like her and would very much like to see her again. How would one proceed?
Redhead14 Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 So it's possible she angry with me then. I was working away, I could of given her an explanation but did tell her to enjoy her week. I do like her and would very much like to see her again. How would one proceed? I doubt angry. Maybe a little disappointed. If you really like a girl, you gotta show her. Girls like it when a guy is consistent and regular with communication. Even if you couldn't see her during that week, a few texts or a call at least would have been a good thing. A week to a woman is a long time not to hear from a guy if she likes him. I don't know what the "damage" is. But, you might try ONE phone call. If she answers, have a specific plan - Xday, Xtime, Xplace. If you get voicemail, tell her what you would have said in the call. If you get no response, just let it be.
Mike B. Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 This is very salvageable. You will just really have to be consistent with your communication from here on. After you have sex with someone, unless it was understood it was simply a hookup, you absolutely can't let days go by without communication. On the contrary, you have to step things up a bit. If I were you, I would just slide right back in with consistency and actions to reassure her. Kill her with kindness and consideration. You will be good. 2
The Urbanyst Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Once a woman loses interest in you she will treat you like the scum of the earth. That's why I date multiple women at once and don't commit to any of them lol.
sandylee1 Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Did you tell her you were away for the week? You really couldn't manage a few texts after work? Common. She offered to cook for you. She was interested in you, but you went silent for a week. That can translate to you got what you wanted (sex) and that was it. 3
d0nnivain Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 When she didn't hear from you for 5 days she assumed that you were no longer interested. Was there a reason you couldn't so much as shoot her a text or poke her on FB? Total radio silence on your end with no explanation is what caused this mess. If you want her back try sending apology flowers. In the future if you are going to be unreachable, say something in advance so she's not left wondering. 1
smackie9 Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Possibilities: 1) her ex hoovered her back 2) her LDR BF found out she was hanging out with you 3) met someone she is more interested in. When they ghost on you./ delete you, consider it being dumped. Move on. 3
Redhead14 Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Possibilities: 1) her ex hoovered her back 2) her LDR BF found out she was hanging out with you 3) met someone she is more interested in. When they ghost on you./ delete you, consider it being dumped. Move on. He kinda ghosted her. He took her out, liked her alot but didn't communicate all with her for a week. She thought he "ghosted", I'd say. 3
Art_Critic Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 You wined and dined her, go on some dates, got her undivided attention, exchanged bodily fluids, agreed to have her cook dinner for you then ghosted... Flowers... 2
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Honestly I'm not getting that she's mad at you at all, she seems like she can do first moves (Facebook adding) so why wouldn't she have texted you or called you? I honestly don't think she liked you as much as you liked her, she doesn't sound too interested. There's nothing you can do here or a way to fix it.
kazen Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Honestly I'm not getting that she's mad at you at all, she seems like she can do first moves (Facebook adding) so why wouldn't she have texted you or called you? I honestly don't think she liked you as much as you liked her, she doesn't sound too interested. There's nothing you can do here or a way to fix it. Did you missed the part where she invited him for dinner and then he disappears for 5 days without contacting her? He ignore her so she move on. 3
alphamale Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 What's happened? she's blowing you off man 2
LovelyRose Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 she's blowing you off man He disappeared for five days. He deserved it. Now if he really wants her back he should try at least couple more times. If she still doesn't reply then he lost her. 1
mortensorchid Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 She is ghosting / vanishing on you. Don't spend too much time analyzing it, it's just done.
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Did you missed the part where she invited him for dinner and then he disappears for 5 days without contacting her? He ignore her so she move on. I didn't miss it, but she has every way to REACH him too! I don't think she was probably thinking "Oh he didn't text!? Ok now I'll get so angry, lose all my feelings and that's it!" Sorry that's just impossible for me to believe. Even if she invited him, those could be just words that she never even think of twice. Words don't mean commitment. If a girl likes you enough, SHE WILL REACH OUT. Sorry to burst your bubble, women have the power and ability to take things into their hands too. 1
MidwestUSA Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Take her To watch out a football game on third date and we kiss, hold hands. I push pull etc. She looked like she was enjoying it. I drop her back to her house, we kiss and she tells me she will cook for me. I text her 5 days later and she has gone completely cold on me. She deleted me on fb and never responded to my next date request. What's happened? Is she mad or is she bored. Strange. I don't know what this is, but maybe she was only pretending to enjoy it. Is this some part of PUA tactic? And yea, you ghosted her. Is that a push or a pull? 2
hercules22 Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 strange how come she didn't try to initiate a conversation within those 5 days . and why all of sudden remove from social media you think if she actually was keen on seeing or hearing from you again she would of called or texted but nope just straight deletes you off facebook and then ignores you 1
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 strange how come she didn't try to initiate a conversation within those 5 days . and why all of sudden remove from social media you think if she actually was keen on seeing or hearing from you again she would of called or texted but nope just straight deletes you off facebook and then ignores you Exactly my same thoughts. It doesn't sound like she's simply throwing a temper tantrum cause you didn't talk for 5 days, that's not even a week! If she likes you as much as you thought and enough to offer to cook for you, she would have either waited or reached out. Read other posts written by women on here, if want you, we will do something. 1
Miss Spider Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 ITT: op uses ridiculous gaming techniques and wonders why they didn't work on a decent woman with plenty of options... 5 days is more than enough time to lose interest in the beginning - get annoyed, turned off, meet someone else, become more interested in someone else, etc.etc. You pushed too hard and your game backfired. 5 days is too long...subscribe to a new men's dating newsletter 1
Bastile Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 The dynamic was probably more one of boyfriend/girlfriend. You may have read it differently. If you leave it 5 days without giving any attention, they get the hump. Some reject you when they think that they are being rejected - protect their feelings. What you do now is either send her some messages unrelated. Or you qualify yourself to her (I had a really hard week, etc etc). You qualify yourself, and you are on the road to exclusivity (whether you like it or not).
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