Cersei Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 I am in my mid 40s To me I would interpret friends first as " meet for coffee, walk the dog together, or have a meal and get to know each other and see if there is anything more to persue"
Cersei Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Oh and join a book club. Lots of women your age are in my book club. (Assuming you actually like to read, lol) 1
act00 Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 I'm also thinking "friends with romantic potential" sounds way better than "casual dating." Casual dating has an aura of booty call to me, pretty much sex, and pretty much completely unavailable unless the wind blows in your direction at some point. There really isn't that much friendship at all. My experience with "casual dating" is they simply don't want to invest any time into growing anything; they just like to have a woman around once in awhile. The OP is seeking friendship and hopefully some benefits <wink>, but he sounds like he wants to put in the time it takes to know a woman and grow a relationship. I think, OP, that if you do give OLD a whirl, you should start with that 50 and older site. If you pick one of the others, your personal preferences (distance, age, interests) only limit what you see in your personal searches and does not limit who sees you, so you're going to get a lot of hits from people that nowhere meet your criteria, and obviously there will be frauds and women seeking a sugar daddy and all that. You are under no obligation to respond to any texts at all. I have nothing to add about how to meet women that hasn't been said. Maybe Parks and Rec has some activities you would like to participate in and hopefully a gaggle or two of single ladies.
HarmonyDriven Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 I am 50 and I'd be interested to hear what other posters my age think of friends first. I was online 3,5 year and I have always turned down a man looking for a friend first. I am 49. Friends first to me means just that....friends first. I don't see friends first as a FWB. I see casual dating as dating with sex (not necessarily friends.) I see dating as dating with or without sexual and/or romantic potential. When I did OLD, I stayed away from profiles that noted casual dating as I was looking for a relationship. I think OLD is an excellent way to meet. I would definitely use Ourtime OLD site. They have religious sites too (JDate, ChristinanMingle) I would imagine they have peeps over 60 too. IMO, in OP's case, I think "Dating" is a good term to use in his case. Should he choose OLD, he can always specify his intentions in his profile in a fun, positive manner. This could be a very exciting time for OP - Good luck!
alphamale Posted September 13, 2017 Posted September 13, 2017 Meetups seem to be a good potential forum for meeting people. I do meetups all the time and meet tons of single women in the metro Detroit area
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