JennyWy Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 SO...Saw a guy I really liked on an online dating site. I messaged him but he hasn't logged in for several weeks, so probably his subscription ended and it doesn't look promising. We are part of the same organization (through work) and I stumbled upon his FB profile. I recognized his photo. It looks like he's still single. There is no way I'll ever run into him (I don't think). Is there any way I can contact him without being creepy? Or should I just let it go? Thanks guys!
Mike B. Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 Let it go. It will scream desperateness. Just because you are somewhat familiar with him doesn't make it any less desperate. Treat this like any other guy you would deal with in this situation online. Being a part of the same organization won't earn you any special points. There are many more to choose from.
HarmonyDriven Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 .....I stumbled upon his FB profile. Is there any way I can contact him without being creepy? Or should I just let it go? OP: How did you "stumble" upon his FB profile? If you two are part of an organization thru work, why would there not be an opportunity to possibly see him? IMO, in this situation.....YOLO....so, if you can meet him, run into him, or send him a FB friend request noting you happened to see him OLD site and/or part of organization via work and wanted to say hello..... What's the worse that can happen? He thinks you are creepy....? If so, who cares and move on, but at least you tried.
nothingsintheflowerz Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 What did you really like about him?
pest947 Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Go for it. I have had people do this in the past to me and did not think it creepy at all when they explained the situation. Just don't send a blind request and good luck!
d0nnivain Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Fortune favors the bold. Send him a FB message with full disclosure: Saw you on [dating site] & was intrigued but that system says you haven't logged in. We both belong to [work group]. When I recognized your name I took a chance on FB. I'd love to meet for coffee. What do you say? My treat. Worse case scenario we talk about work. Best wishes.
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Just tell him he looks familiar and that you may have seen him at work. He'll reply.
SevenCity Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Just tell him he looks familiar and that you may have seen him at work. He'll reply. Of he finds you attractive he will reply. Nothing to lose and he won't find it creepy of you just send the one message.
Miss Spider Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Yeah, like caramelpopcorn said, I wouldn't mention the dating app at all. Just say he looks familiar and you've seen him at work blah blah. if he sees it and he's interested, you should be good. Good job on finding him btw that's some next lvl Facebook stalking. Impressed. 1
CoolJoe Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Fortune favors the bold. Send him a FB message with full disclosure: Saw you on [dating site] & was intrigued but that system says you haven't logged in. We both belong to [work group]. When I recognized your name I took a chance on FB. I'd love to meet for coffee. What do you say? My treat. Worse case scenario we talk about work. Best wishes. I like this. People are saying don't mention the dating site but eh, Donni's suggestion is much more direct, straight forward and a non time waster. Fortune favors the bold indeed.
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