malkiqbobcho Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 Hello guys, I want to share this story with you. A girl from my school started texting me a few weeks ago. She was pretty consistent with texting me although I wasn't really into her and so I wasn't giving her a lot of attention. We kept texting and she was the one who was initiating most of the conversations. She never left me on 'seen', she always kept saying something. After a while we started texting all the time. I started getting into her more because i saw she really enjoyed texting me and she was really nice. When o didn't text her for a day she texted me she got worried that something might have hapenned with me because i didn't text her. She always got upset when i was not texting her often. Like she really need my attention. Even though she is from my school i hadn't met her outside of school so i barely knew her. She shares a lot of things with me even though we barely know each other. She wants me to do a lot of things with her like travel, watch movies etc. The thing is, whenever i see her in person to hang out, it never looks like she is interested in me. When we are walking she rarely gives me eye contact. When we greet with a hug she doesn't give me eye contact either. Its like the tgings she is talking about and her gestures, her body language say that she just wants to be friends. But in the same time, she wants my attention so much and she gets sad when i dont text her. I dont do this with my friends and i feel kinda weird and confused because i started cstching feelings for her. Id like it if you give me your thoughts on this situation. Thanks.
d0nnivain Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 She's young & unsure. She's nervous & shy. She likes chatting with the phone because she can hide behind the device. Things are scarier in person. Be patient. Be kind. Try to spend more time with her IRL & off the phone so you can get to know each other better.
smackie9 Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 It's possible you are friend zoned and she's just needy.
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 She sounds like she's shy and just holding back. You both seem so young and it could be that she doesn't know how to be around a new guy. Ask her though. Tell her you feel like she's shy and how that she's got no reason to be. Just reassure her.
Author malkiqbobcho Posted September 8, 2017 Author Posted September 8, 2017 She sounds like she's shy and just holding back. You both seem so young and it could be that she doesn't know how to be around a new guy. Ask her though. Tell her you feel like she's shy and how that she's got no reason to be. Just reassure her. Ok, but if she's shy why would she be the first one to invite me to hang out?
Author malkiqbobcho Posted September 8, 2017 Author Posted September 8, 2017 It's possible you are friend zoned and she's just needy. She's got a lot of friends and I don't believe she needs attention so there is no point in being needy.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 Ok, but if she's shy why would she be the first one to invite me to hang out? You're not getting it - she wants to spend time with you, and inviting you through texting is easy. It's spending time together in person that makes her nervous. That's not unusual for reserved people. She seems to like you. But she also sounds young, inexperienced and, yes, quite shy. Give her some time. You say you hang out, but have you taken her on a date? 1
Author malkiqbobcho Posted September 8, 2017 Author Posted September 8, 2017 (edited) You're not getting it - she wants to spend time with you, and inviting you through texting is easy. It's spending time together in person that makes her nervous. That's not unusual for reserved people. She seems to like you. But she also sounds young, inexperienced and, yes, quite shy. Give her some time. You say you hang out, but have you taken her on a date? I get it, but the thing is, she doesn't actually seem nervous when we hang out. She talks a lot, and she isn't concerned to talk about literally anything. She is also really outgoing, she's got a lot of friend, as I have said. It's just that she acts like she wants to be friends when we are outside but in the same time wants me to text her all the time and is really interested when we are texting. Edited September 8, 2017 by malkiqbobcho
act00 Posted September 8, 2017 Posted September 8, 2017 There are two different camps. There's the friendship camp and the dating camp. Sure, she may be friendly and outgoing with people in general, but when it comes to actual dating, she's nervous, self-conscious, and shy. When she hides behind a screen, she can be bold and outgoing, but when meeting up with her crush face-to-face, suddenly she doesn't know what to do or say. Tell me you haven't ever found yourself reserved, nervous, and unsure what to do or say, fumbling, when you are in the vicinity of a crush. It's the same for everyone, and even the most confident of people (they seem) are absolute messes when it comes to more intimate relationships. She may be waiting for you to make a move, because that's what men do, and she's expressed her interest and is waiting for some reciprocation or for you to take the lead. It's a bit gamey, but....You both sound really young and inexperienced. Her behavior is a bit back and forth. One thing that bothers me is her need for so much attention and constant texting. This can be problematic in a relationship...jealousy, petty arguments over why someone didn't text or call as much, not soon enough...monitoring social media involvement. It's a bit strange, but again, young and inexperienced. Ask her out. She seems interested, and if you are likewise interested, take that leap. 1
Author malkiqbobcho Posted September 8, 2017 Author Posted September 8, 2017 There are two different camps. There's the friendship camp and the dating camp. Sure, she may be friendly and outgoing with people in general, but when it comes to actual dating, she's nervous, self-conscious, and shy. When she hides behind a screen, she can be bold and outgoing, but when meeting up with her crush face-to-face, suddenly she doesn't know what to do or say. Tell me you haven't ever found yourself reserved, nervous, and unsure what to do or say, fumbling, when you are in the vicinity of a crush. It's the same for everyone, and even the most confident of people (they seem) are absolute messes when it comes to more intimate relationships. She may be waiting for you to make a move, because that's what men do, and she's expressed her interest and is waiting for some reciprocation or for you to take the lead. It's a bit gamey, but....You both sound really young and inexperienced. Her behavior is a bit back and forth. One thing that bothers me is her need for so much attention and constant texting. This can be problematic in a relationship...jealousy, petty arguments over why someone didn't text or call as much, not soon enough...monitoring social media involvement. It's a bit strange, but again, young and inexperienced. Ask her out. She seems interested, and if you are likewise interested, take that leap. That sounds pretty good, but I imagine how embarassed I am going to be if I make a move and she turns out to be not interested in me.
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