hmmhmmm2 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 age of consent, I think, is 18 where I live...that being said, a 17-year old who turns 18 later this month has been hitting on me. My best guess is basically she just wants what she can't have, and once she turns 18 will lose interest, but how do I handle this? Do I just tell her stop talking to me altogether, or do I wait around until she's 18 to see if anything might happen?
smackie9 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Immature aggressive girls will cry wolf and have you jailed if they get upset with you. Better keep your distance. And snap out of it for crying out loud. 7
CptInsano Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Immature aggressive girls will cry wolf and have you jailed if they get upset with you. Better keep your distance. And snap out of it for crying out loud. Correct, they are referred to as "jail bait" for a reason. 6
d0nnivain Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 If she turns 18 "later this month", that is a couple of weeks, 24 days at the most. What's the harm in waiting?
Bastile Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 (edited) Once upon a time, a man named *Bastile* was a mid 20 something minding his own business, innocent as a lamb (well, sort of). A teenage (legal, I should add) vixen starts coming onto Bastile. He freaks out about the whole thing, as there were social circle implications. Inner game/thought process - this could be the last time I get to be with a girl that young. But isn't it wrong? :laugh: Here's my advice to you, firstly getting younger girls isn't especially difficult (if you are a viable sexual option, it's what you want, and you don't allow others to dictate your life). Therefore this situation isn't as important as your mind is probably making it, and she is replaceable. That's the scarcity element dealt with. Secondly, dragging things out too much can cause a lot of problems. The girl often starts getting the hump, starts trying to make you jealous, tries to "get back at you" once you invest and the power shifts (as men naturally invest heavily at the beginning), etc etc. Just treat it like small flutter that could pay off big. Be the usual charming devil that you are and which the women can't get enough of, and if she happens to be in your orbit in a few months time, then act on it. But you should be hedging your bets. Edited September 6, 2017 by Bastile
lurker74 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Once upon a time, a man named *Bastile* was a mid 20 something minding his own business, innocent as a lamb (well, sort of). A teenage (legal, I should add) vixen starts coming onto Bastile. He freaks out about the whole thing, as there were social circle implications. Inner game/thought process - this could be the last time I get to be with a girl that young. But isn't it wrong? :laugh: Here's my advice to you, firstly getting younger girls isn't especially difficult (if you are a viable sexual option, it's what you want, and you don't allow others to dictate your life). Therefore this situation isn't as important as your mind is probably making it, and she is replaceable. That's the scarcity element dealt with. Secondly, dragging things out too much can cause a lot of problems. The girl often starts getting the hump, starts trying to make you jealous, tries to "get back at you" once you invest and the power shifts (as men naturally invest heavily at the beginning), etc etc. Just treat it like small flutter that could pay off big. Be the usual charming devil that you are and which the women can't get enough of, and if she happens to be in your orbit in a few months time, then act on it. But you should be hedging your bets. This whole response reads like a script from a Wes Anderson movie. As for the OP, stop talking to her until she's 18+. It. Is. That. Simple. 1
knabe Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Assuming you are not 45, I would be friendly but detached for now, just to protect yourself. Once she is 18, if she's still acting interested, ask her out. The worst that could happen is she says no, and then some other girl will find you interesting 3
Bastile Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 This whole response reads like a script from a Wes Anderson movie. As for the OP, stop talking to her until she's 18+. It. Is. That. Simple. I actually had to google that. You shouldn't make such obscure references as your main point. Google says that it's something about lusting after 12 year olds. No Sir. Your mind twisted what I said into a very nasty perversion. Which says more about you than it does me...
thefooloftheyear Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 The same way you would a King Cobra..... TFY 1
Miss Spider Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 (edited) Assuming you are not 45, I would be friendly but detached for now, just to protect yourself. Once she is 18, if she's still acting interested, ask her out. The worst that could happen is she says no, and then some other girl will find you interesting This. Just wait til she 18. Unless you want to…… Have a seat over there Edited September 6, 2017 by Cookiesandough
Author hmmhmmm2 Posted September 6, 2017 Author Posted September 6, 2017 I'm going to take a guess OP is 30. lol I'm 24, and have had 5 relationships before lol.
smackie9 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 lol I'm 24, and have had 5 relationships before lol. Yer ok then....hope your friends don't get too weirded out. I admit I dated a few 19 year old guys when I was 24. But 18? nah. 1
ironpony Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 age of consent, I think, is 18 where I live...that being said, a 17-year old who turns 18 later this month has been hitting on me. My best guess is basically she just wants what she can't have, and once she turns 18 will lose interest, but how do I handle this? Do I just tell her stop talking to me altogether, or do I wait around until she's 18 to see if anything might happen? If less than a month is all you have to wait, why not wait till the end of the month, and if she is still available, and is hitting on you... great... if not... great. Maybe you should get her to show you her ID card, to make sure the birthday actually happened though, just to be safe. 1
SevenCity Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Yer ok then....hope your friends don't get too weirded out. I admit I dated a few 19 year old guys when I was 24. But 18? nah. Yea, that extra year of maturity really makes a difference!
Popsicle Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 So you think she'll disappear in 3 weeks. Just tell her you want to take things slowly and get to know her. Wait until she's 18. She'll either wait or she won't. Its not worth going to jail. 1
act00 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 What kind of situations are you in that you could actually get into trouble? If this is a work thing, just treat her like normal and keep your distance. If you're that worried, and she's avoidable, avoid. Don't find yourself and her together in a drunken state...plus she's underage for drinking too. A few weeks isn't that long, and I'm not clear what kinds of situations you're in with this girl that would put you in such a precarious position. Just avoid those circumstances. She's barely (maybe not even) out of high school. You can't go to bars. You are in two different zones.
lurker74 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 I actually had to google that. You shouldn't make such obscure references as your main point. Google says that it's something about lusting after 12 year olds. No Sir. Your mind twisted what I said into a very nasty perversion. Which says more about you than it does me... LOL. What are you talking about? Wes Anderson is the creator of movies like Moonrise Kingdom and Grand Budapest Hotel. I think you may need to improve your Google skills especially since my comment was kind of a compliment (since I like Wes Anderson). 3
smackie9 Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 Yea, that extra year of maturity really makes a difference! Legal to go to the bar.
Caramelpopcorn Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 age of consent, I think, is 18 where I live...that being said, a 17-year old who turns 18 later this month has been hitting on me. My best guess is basically she just wants what she can't have, and once she turns 18 will lose interest, but how do I handle this? Do I just tell her stop talking to me altogether, or do I wait around until she's 18 to see if anything might happen? How to handle her? YOU DO NOT. Why can't you wait 3 weeks, it's not even that long of a wait!
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