swim808 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 I recently moved about three hours away from my hometown. A month before I left, I met this super nice guy. I knew I was moving so I didn't actively pursue him, but he ended up asking me out and I agreed. We had a really good time and there was amazing chemistry. He then asked me out again and we had yet another great date. By this time he knew I would be moving. When it finally did come time for me to move, he told me he was sad I was leaving, but that I was still close enough that he thought it would be easy for us to continue seeing each other. Since I still have lots of family in his area and already had plans to be there frequently over the coming months, I agreed. We made plans for him to come visit me in a few weeks and then I am going to visit him a week or two later. Since I moved (about three weeks ago) he has been really great with keeping in touch. I didn't know what to expect, but we've texted every single day, almost always initiated by him. Like I said, we have plans for him to come in a couple of weeks and we're both really excited. He texts me every night to say goodnight, and if he ever doesn't text me during the day he explains to me why he was busy and apologizes. I didn't expect any of this, but now that he's been doing it I've gotten used to it and it's nice. Yesterday, we were having one of our normal text conversations when he suddenly just stopped answering. I figured he got tied up with something and didn't think too much of it. But come night time I still hadn't heard anything back from him, and like I said he usually answers within a few hours or so and if he ever doesn't he's quick to send an apology. I went to bed without hearing anything, expecting he'd probably text me today like he has every day. But still nothing, and it's been over 24 hours since the last text I sent (which was still the middle of a conversation). I know it's not that big of a deal and I'm not so clingy that I need to be texted every day, but it's just so out of character from what I've gotten used to with him that I'm a little freaked out. I know he's been on his phone because he posted a Snapchat and he seemed to just be hanging out at home. Maybe he forgot? But like I said he texts me pretty much every day so for him to forget to answer me yesterday AND forget to text me today even though he usually does is a little odd. I'm panicking now that I did something to push him away, but I have no idea what it could have been. If he hasn't texted me by tonight, should I text him? I don't want to come across as too clingy/available but I also don't want to seem completely disinterested in the fact that we've texted every day and he suddenly stopped. Again, the issue isn't so much that he went a day without texting me because I'm an adult and can handle that, I'm just a little weirded out with how out of character it is for him. Thoughts?
smackie9 Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Yes you can CALL him and SPEAK to him. Find out what's going on. If he doesn't answer, he's ghosted on ya, let it be. 3
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Doesn't sound good hun. If I had to place a wager, I'd say he's ghosting you or at least decided he's not all that interested in whatever it is you're doing but forgot to include you on his decision. Given that you're not in any kind of relationship and long distance, it happens and isn't all that uncommon unfortunately. Personally, I might send one more text asking if everything is alright and if you still don't hear anything, delete his number, block yourself from his social media and chalk it up to another case of bad manners. Happens to the best of us. Good luck. 3
Whodatdog Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 Yes you can CALL him and SPEAK to him. Find out what's going on. If he doesn't answer, he's ghosted on ya, let it be. Oh no, not an actual phone call where people actually have to speak???
Miss Spider Posted September 6, 2017 Posted September 6, 2017 (edited) *convo on phone (IF he picks up)** "Did I do something wrong? " "No of course not!" *idle chat then goodbyes* *continues to ghost/fade* Edited September 6, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
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