bobie101 Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 I was having some marital issues and I was telling my personal trainer about them (very limited). I had a sexual attraction for him. He asked me out for drinks and I went. We made out and it would have gone further but it was that T.O.M. I defintely felt a sexual connection there. I wanted to do this guy, so 1 week goes by and I send him a text telling him very bold that I wanted him. His response was when do you want to hook up, and I said soon. A couple of days go by and I text him if he wants to get together. He never responded, so I just thought he changed his mind. I decided to send him an email and asked why, he reponse was he was recovering from a long weekend of drinking. So I said well when you want to hook up let me know. I thought I would never hear from him again, well I was wrong, 1 week later he sends me a text asking if I was still interested. I responded yes but that the week was bad (T.O.M again) didn't tell him that. I sent an email telling him when I was available to meet the following week. He never responded. I knew he got my email, so I sent him a text asking if he got my email, he said no. I could sense from his response something was up. I resent the email and he responded that he was really busy with work, and maybe Wednesday would work. Wednesday never heard from him, so I sent a text asking if he was free. He said he couldn't and aked about Friday. I said friday was good. I'm sure you can guess what's next, he completly dizzed me on Friday. Ok so here is my questions: Why did he seem interested and then all of sudden he dizzed me? Was he playing me? Is it because he didn't want to get involved with a married women? Or is it because he just wanted to get laid and then he lost interest? I feel like the biggest fool!!! I would love feedback.
clandestinidad Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 Ummm....not sure if I'm right or not, but here's what I think I agree with you that he probably WAS interested in sleeping with you. I dont think he cared that youre married. I think that when it came down to it, it got to be too difficult to arrange and he lost interest. If something's too hard to plan, the fun/excitement drains out of it, and we would rather move on. Have you posted anything about what's wrong in your marriage????
elijahBailey Posted August 13, 2005 Posted August 13, 2005 guy's point of view....... he was ambivalent all the way from the start. You did hit on him first, so... 1. he would definitely have more reservations. most guys know to be cautious if girls come too easy. 2. he has morals, and it's just being put to the test. Sounds like he hasn't buckled yet. do yourself a favor and get a divorce. try not to cheat.
nyr_fan Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Get a divorce, or try and work on your marriage before you consider an affair. It is wrong and you WILL REGRET IT.
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