morrowrd Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 Just figured I'd post here, since 90% of the time this is where I'm at. I am approaching the third year with my girlfriend - so unbeknownst to her, I bought an engagement ring today. I'm selling this house we live in, and we're moving into another. Had to take out a loan to do a bunch of upgrades, so I'm pretty sure she has no idea I'd buy a ring during this phase of our life together. This relationship is what marriage was created for. I'm not cocky but I'm pretty sure yes is a done deal. That being said, I want to do this right.... I want it to be a surprise, romantic, something she will always remember. You guys are the first to know. 6
SevenCity Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 Good luck! What do you have planned? I had something really cool planned then I got dumped
Author morrowrd Posted September 5, 2017 Author Posted September 5, 2017 (edited) I'm thinking. I have time to do it right. I sent the ring out for a new <yellow gold> setting so I have some time. (everything appears to be white gold these days. Might as well have silver) So, I have a couple ideas but I'm always information gathering for good ideas to add to what I'd like to accomplish here. Sorry it didn't work out for you btw. She's been living with me for two and a half years, and has said she would love to be married to me. I doubt I would follow through like this if there was a chance for a no. Yet of course...theres ALWAYS a chance. Edited September 5, 2017 by morrowrd
d0nnivain Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 Does she wear more yellow gold or more white gold? You want the ring to match everything else & be her style. I always thought I wanted yellow gold but really love my white gold ring . . . it goes with more things. Happy planning. Best wishes. 2
lana-banana Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 We went with platinum because I'm the clumsiest person alive. I get mine caught on something at least once a week. Remember gold (white or yellow) has to be redipped annually, so be sure to have your rings redipped before the wedding. The moment of the proposal will seem to take an eternity, then disappear. My fiance was smart and had someone surreptitiously film the entire thing. If he hadn't I don't think I would even remember it---it went by so fast! One second we were there, then there was a ring, then everyone was clapping and we were crying. Don't worry too much about it because you're both going to be so completely overwhelmed that it won't matter. Another example: my friend proposed in the Sahara at sunrise. Hella romantic, right? Well, she was so shocked by the entire thing that all she could focus on was the ring and her fear that she'd lose it in the desert. (It wasn't even a real ring; it was a CZ ring he bought from Target for like $200 as a prop. He wasn't about to bring a real engagement ring to the Sahara!) So they were standing there in the desert, with photographers and camels and a glorious sunrise and all, and she was so dumbstruck my friend had to say "Uhhh...so...are we doing this?" before she remembered to say yes. Womp womp. I would recommend going out of your way to make her feel comfortable beforehand. Whether that means gym time, spa time, or just thirty minutes for a nap, if she is feeling relaxed and refreshed it will help. We got dressed to the nines before we went to dinner and I remember thinking "wow, I look cute! I hope somebody takes my picture!" Congratulations and enjoy! Getting engaged is a blast. If you've ever had somebody badger you about being engaged, it's not because they're being nosy; it's because the whole engagement is so much fun for everyone involved. We were at a very high-end cocktail bar and the bartenders poured champagne for everybody in sight. We celebrated with friends and strangers (who gave us toasts, advice, even snacks) all night long. It's just a sincerely joyful experience. 1
spiderowl Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 Good luck to you both. Sounds like you've really thought this out. 1
Author morrowrd Posted September 9, 2017 Author Posted September 9, 2017 (edited) Friday night I took her to one of our favorite Italian restaurants. I called ahead and told them I was proposing, and if they could reserve one of the few tables for two, one that is our favorite. Our waiter, I could tell, knew just by the way he smiled and talked to us. When I went to use the restroom, one of the waitresses asked me "how are things going?" Well, she said yes. When the waiter came back, I told him to tell 'everyone' she said yes. He smiled and thanked me for telling him. Said the whole restaurant was rooting for me. About five servers, plus the owner came by the table to congratulate us. Our waiter later on, proceeded to talk about his own marriage, and teared up when talking to me. I told him how lucky I was to be with my girlfriend, and that marriage was created for a relationship like ours. We walked along the lake-shore at sunset after dinner, arm in arm, talking about our new era in our relationship. It was perfect. Edited September 9, 2017 by morrowrd 2
Gaeta Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 Congratulations!! and wishing you 2 the best there is! 1
lana-banana Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Congratulations and best wishes! Isn't it the best?? Being engaged is just so much fun. It's so exciting and full of hope. Enjoy it and all the fantastic feelings! 1
Popsicle Posted September 10, 2017 Posted September 10, 2017 Aww what a lovely story. Congratulations! 1
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