Riot21 Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 (edited) Am I being too needy? Just introspecting so I can improve on future relationships. My ex used to tell me our schedules don't align so we would never see eachother. I work 2-10 pm and he worked 9-5 pm during the week. We both had weekends off. We would attempt to see eachother before I worked but it was like Maybe once a week max and he had the ability to work from home. At times he would tell me an hour before I worked to come over and see him ASAP. Many times he would choose to spend the weekend with his family or brother despite working with his family every day (he works at their business) and living with his brother. If not that then he would hang with his friends. One time he finally had some time to hangout after I got off work but instead he said he'd rather watch the game with his brother because he never gets to do that or see him. I remember getting upset that he would rather spend his free time with his brother who he lives with then see me when we have such limited time together. I know friends and family are important but is there a limit? I feel so mean for being upset and jealous about it but they always got so much time with him and he seemed to choose them over me. Also He would rarely make concrete plans with me and would just say maybe I'll have some free time tomorrow To hangout or maybe we can see each other Tuesday But would never be like hey let's meet here at this time on this day. We had been together for like seven years btw. We're both 24 years old by the way. Edited September 4, 2017 by Riot21 Phrasing
central Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 It sounds like you're an option - and not much of one, if he'd rather spend MORE time with his brother, with whom he lives and sees daily, no doubt. Time to move on.
Author Riot21 Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 Yeah it really really sucks. Why do guys treat women like this? I'm smart, pretty, have a great job that pays the bills, my own social life, and am very independent. How could someone treat me like this? It makes me afraid this is all I can get in relationships.
BaileyB Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 Darling, after seven years, you deserve more than this... Even with different work schedules. There is someone out there who will make you a priority. You just have to find him.
preraph Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 He is checked out. I get the work schedules, but he's running from you on the weekends too. He's checked out. Now, if he's a good partner you want to eventually have kids with, then whatever, but if he's not trying with you, he probably won't be any better (and maybe stay away more) once there's screamers in the house. Maybe it's time to find a new love and enjoy life a little before you have kids.
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