rightondude Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 ever have one of those nights where you meet a girl from bumble about a month ago, all goes well, you go to her place, grill out a great dinner, drink a lot of wine, have sex a couple of times, the doorbell rings at 6 AM, it's her ex-boyfriend, she lets him in (!!?!?), he comes at you with a knife, you hold him by the wrists for a good 5 minutes and talk him down until his drunken exhausted self relents, you get out of there and call the cops, and hope for the best? adventures in dating. let's just say I'll be taking a little break for awhile. 1
SunnyWeather Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 ever have one of those nights where you meet a girl from bumble about a month ago, all goes well, you go to her place, grill out a great dinner, drink a lot of wine, have sex a couple of times, the doorbell rings at 6 AM, it's her ex-boyfriend, she lets him in (!!?!?), he comes at you with a knife, you hold him by the wrists for a good 5 minutes and talk him down until his drunken exhausted self relents, you get out of there and call the cops, and hope for the best? adventures in dating. let's just say I'll be taking a little break for awhile. glad you're ok. was this the first time you actually met her in person?
Author rightondude Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 glad you're ok. was this the first time you actually met her in person? no, we've been on 2 dates previously (with 0 mention of a crazed ex).
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 Wow! That could have ended badly! Glad you are ok.....are you going to see her again?
Author rightondude Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 Wow! That could have ended badly! Glad you are ok.....are you going to see her again? 10000000000000x NO I hate she has to deal with that but I am in no position to and have no desire to play the savior here. PLUS SHE LET HIM IN!!!! It is only after sitting and reflecting for a few hours that I'm comprehending how bad it could have ended. At the time I had a weird calm over me. 1
Hoosfoos Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 I would have gone to the police about this.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 ever have one of those nights where you meet a girl from bumble about a month ago, all goes well, you go to her place, grill out a great dinner, drink a lot of wine, have sex a couple of times, the doorbell rings at 6 AM, it's her ex-boyfriend, she lets him in (!!?!?), he comes at you with a knife, you hold him by the wrists for a good 5 minutes and talk him down until his drunken exhausted self relents, you get out of there and call the cops, and hope for the best? adventures in dating. let's just say I'll be taking a little break for awhile. Yikes! Glad you're okay. Sheesh. When I first start dating someone I try to find out as much as possible about her CURRENT relationships. If there is an ex involved for any other purpose other than co-parenting, 'responsible' co-parenting, it's a NO GO. I ask direct questions. I know you weren't aware, but next time, ASK DIRECT QUESTIONS regarding exes. Good luck.
preraph Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 God, she knew better than to let him in. Obviously a girl who can't say no and invites drama. Clear all the way out of her life.
act00 Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 Nope. Can't say I have ever experienced anything of the sorts. I'm glad no one was fatally injured. For the future, maintain dates in public locations until you're clear on the background. It took a full month to get a first date out of her, and I question why that is. Were there any red flags or questionable behaviors and excuses?
Author rightondude Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 I would have gone to the police about this. I called them as I drove away. Not sure if he was still there by the time they arrived. I'd prefer to just distance myself as much as possible from the situation at this point.
Author rightondude Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 Yikes! Glad you're okay. Sheesh. When I first start dating someone I try to find out as much as possible about her CURRENT relationships. If there is an ex involved for any other purpose other than co-parenting, 'responsible' co-parenting, it's a NO GO. I ask direct questions. I know you weren't aware, but next time, ASK DIRECT QUESTIONS regarding exes. Good luck. I am done with OLD for now after this. If I ever pick it back up I will not make the same mistake.
Author rightondude Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 Nope. Can't say I have ever experienced anything of the sorts. I'm glad no one was fatally injured. For the future, maintain dates in public locations until you're clear on the background. It took a full month to get a first date out of her, and I question why that is. Were there any red flags or questionable behaviors and excuses? We'd been out a couple of times and this never came up. She was a bit flighty but nothing to indicate having this type of a past.
SevenCity Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 Nope. Can't say I have ever experienced anything of the sorts. I'm glad no one was fatally injured. For the future, maintain dates in public locations until you're clear on the background. It took a full month to get a first date out of her, and I question why that is. Were there any red flags or questionable behaviors and excuses? Your question is due to not reading the posts. This is their third date. OP - Glad you didn't get injured or had to inflict injury as that would have been a legal head ache. Happy this happened after sex and not during!
CptInsano Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 I called them as I drove away. Not sure if he was still there by the time they arrived. I'd prefer to just distance myself as much as possible from the situation at this point. That was the right course of action. This is not anything that you need to be a part of. You should count your blessings at this time, and you have used up one of your nine lives. 2
Sara1989 Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 Wow I wonder if she had phoned/texted him? strange he came at 6am in the morning. Sorry you had go through that, one of the things I hate most about OD is its full of men/women who are not over their exs. Your situation is extreme though:eek:
Author rightondude Posted October 11, 2017 Author Posted October 11, 2017 <BUMP> So the other morning I saw a roofing nail in one of my tires. Hmmm...weird. Must have ran over one. Took it to a buddy to get it plugged. We looked at all the tires and I had at least 2 nails in every tire. I don't recall driving anywhere near any roofing going on. I didn't drive much at all that day. What is the % chance psycho ex is trying to off me here?
Miss Spider Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 Never. I don't date girls and even if I did I'd avoid the ratchet ones 1
Author rightondude Posted October 11, 2017 Author Posted October 11, 2017 Never. I don't date girls and even if I did I'd avoid the ratchet ones do what now? 1
Miss Spider Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 (edited) You know...ratchet. Uncouth, kind of crazy? I feel like you should familiarize yourself with this term since you date a girl who lets her ex in while she's got a man in her bed and have an ex with a propensity to poke holes in your tires xD Edited October 11, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Author rightondude Posted October 11, 2017 Author Posted October 11, 2017 Oh I know the term. I had no idea the ex (if he even was "ex") even existed and everything seemed normal if not going great. I've had 0 contact with her since the incident so I'm not sure why this guy would be suddenly be coming after me a couple of months later. Unless he just now found out where I live or something. I was really just asking for opinions on whether my paranoia is justified here.
Miss Spider Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 (edited) Oh, my apology. I thought you meant one of YOUR exes. Not her ex. How do you think he would have found out where you live. I find it doubtful he would find your home and do it months later. And use nails. He obviously knows how to wield a knife. Im thinking you ran over somewhere else. Although it was a pretty crazy event so I can understand being paranoid Edited October 11, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
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